Being Single, ...Or not Options

[queenofengland]

I know there are lots of us on here: the single, unattached, but not entirely hopeless and loser-y. I've heard enough complaints in different threads that I thought there could be a place where we could gather, whether it's to register our complaints or talk about what makes being single awesome (if anyone has figured that out.) So share your stories about horrible set-ups, unsympathetic married friends, how awesome it is to be able to do whatever you want whenever you want, or anything else!



I'll start, I guess. I got the idea for this thread after reading that we needed something like this, but I got the push to do it tonight while I was making dinner. I just realized I never cook dinner for myself because it just reminds me that there's no one there to share it with, and it'd be so nice to be cooking for someone else for a change. That, and I cut myself twice. It would have been nice to have someone to yell the F-word at, instead of psychotically screaming it at the kitchen floor. Or maybe it would have been nice to have someone ask from another room "what's wrong?" I miss stuff like that.
Anyways, most of my friends are married. They were either married right out of high school, or have long since forgotten what it's like to be on your own. So I don't get a lot of sympathy and I don't like to be that whiny single friend anyways. If I do mention it, I just get typical knee-jerk advice, like "Oh, you'll find someone soon" or "As soon as you stop looking, you'll meet him" Thanks! Helpful!



Anyways, I hope you guys know what I'm talking about! So share away!

[Pam_Halpert_1]

oh Queen.. you read my mind!

Tonight I have felt just ugly and I would love to have someone to say you are pretty. I ate dinner with my father tonight while sitting around all dating couples..

The only problem is that the guys right now my age.. party and drink.. not my cup of tea. sigh...

I am not in a happy mood

[SharpSchruter23]

That, and I cut myself twice. It would have been nice to have someone to yell the F-word at, instead of psychotically screaming it at the kitchen floor.

....not that you cut yourself...that's sad, but the way you said it was sooooo funny!!!!. I'm sorry you got hurt .

I know what you mean, Queenie. Lots of my friends got married out of High School and my best friend is NEVER without a BF. I'm kinda young, so I'm not really worried about it at the moment, but I do think about it a lot.

It's just nice to be able to do what I want and not really have anyone to answer to. I see my friends and I see that they have sacrifices to make and the decisions they make always affect the other person, so if they wanted to just up and change careers...it's not as easy.

My friend is working a job she hates to help her husband through college and then he'll do the same for her...unless children come along.

I suppose we can't really help that though, can we? If we meet THE ONE at a young age and you KNOW you are supposed to be together..why not take the next step?

I try to keep a tight reign on my jealousy though, because I would like to be married soon...oh well. Cliche....cliche...etc .

[SharpSchruter23]

Oh! And Pam...I know this won't mean much...because I'm a girl, but you are really pretty. Seriously. I've seen your pics and it's true.

[Pam_Halpert_1]

Lots of my friends got married out of High School and my best friend is NEVER without a BF. I'm kinda young, so I'm not really worried about it at the moment, but I do think about it a lot.

It's just nice to be able to do what I want and not really have anyone to answer to. I see my friends and I see that they have sacrifices to make and the decisions they make always affect the other person, so if they wanted to just up and change careers...it's not as easy.

You took the words right out of my mouth. All my friends got married out of highschool ( do you not find it odd that our age group is getting maried so young??) and my best friend well she HAS to have a guy at every moment.

yeah I do like doing what I want when I want to do it!!


side note: lately I am feeling more single becasue even Soctty is not PMing me or talking to me

[rocker creed]

Sometimes I wonder if I missed out on anything by never being single. I had my first serious girlfriend at 15, then it was a continual string of girlfriends until I got married.

I remember seeing my single friends and being jealous of it sometimes.

I suppose I just didn't want to be alone.

[Pam_Halpert_1]

Oh! And Pam...I know this won't mean much...because I'm a girl, but you are really pretty. Seriously. I've seen your pics and it's true.

Thanks

single gals unite right?!!

you look very pretty as well ( I have seen your pics)

just think after us getting to our weight loss goals we will look even better

[Pam_Halpert_1]

the grass is always greener on the other side eh?

Yeah, my married friends say that as well. They all tell me to enjoy it while I can.

[rocker creed]

the grass is always greener on the other side eh?

Yeah, my married friends say that as well. They all tell me to enjoy it while I can.

Very true.

I love being married. My wife and kids are great and I wouldn't change a thing for the world.

But I know I missed out on a lot of things. We watched '40 Year Old Virgin' last month. All the guys going out bonding and trying to pick up girls looks like so much fun. I can't relate to that, never did anything like that.

[queenofengland]

oh Queen.. you read my mind!

Tonight I have felt just ugly and I would love to have someone to say you are pretty. I ate dinner with my father tonight while sitting around all dating couples..

The only problem is that the guys right now my age.. party and drink.. not my cup of tea. sigh...

I am not in a happy mood

I'm so sorry Pam! I've been there many times myself. I may visit again tonight. If it helps at all, I agree with Sharpie. I've seen your photos, and you are really pretty. I know it's not the same as someone there, that you love, telling you though.

I wish I could tell you that guys your age will mature, and the playing field evens out. But something strange happens between then and now. Guys your age only turn into guys my age (27ish) and by now it seems like they're all either taken or are having their arrest records sealed (or both.)

I know what you mean, Queenie. Lots of my friends got married out of High School and my best friend is NEVER without a BF. I'm kinda young, so I'm not really worried about it at the moment, but I do think about it a lot.

Yeah, you and Pam are still young. What's bothering me lately is that I'm getting closer to 30. I know that's still young, but I guess I just saw myself having achieved things like marriage and kids by around 30.

I suppose we can't really help that though, can we? If we meet THE ONE at a young age and you KNOW you are supposed to be together..why not take the next step?

I try to keep a tight reign on my jealousy though, because I would like to be married soon...oh well. Cliche....cliche...etc .

Okay, I think this is another one of my problems right now, is that I no longer believe in The One. I don't think I'll ever go back to believing in The One, either. I do believe in people being right for certain people at the right time in their lives. I think the trick is just being there at the right place at the right time, and that it essentially comes down to a mixture of pure luck and hard work. I hope all this doesn't sound too pessimistic though! I haven't given up by a long shot.

[whichonespam]

Hey QOE, thanks for taking the initiative to start this thread.

I can relate to everything said so far. For better or worse (sorry for the pun) we live in a world that is geared toward pairs. It makes not thinking about being solo difficult sometimes. I like my freedom but I having someone special to share things with.

Rocker Creed, thanks for weighing in with the view from the other side of the fence, everything is relative. I watched an amazing JAM video today and I think you created it. Loved the editing and effects, especially the drawing that developed throughout the course of the video. Very well done.

[rocker creed]

Rocker Creed, thanks for weighing in with the view from the other side of the fence, everything is relative. I watched an amazing JAM video today and I think you created it. Loved the editing and effects, especially the drawing that developed throughout the course of the video. Very well done.

Thanks for watching that and I'm glad you liked it.

My wife is threatening to retaliate with a pro-Karen video.

[Pam_Halpert_1]

I'm so sorry Pam! I've been there many times myself. I may visit again tonight. If it helps at all, I agree with Sharpie. I've seen your photos, and you are really pretty. I know it's not the same as someone there, that you love, telling you though.

I wish I could tell you that guys your age will mature, and the playing field evens out. But something strange happens between then and now. Guys your age only turn into guys my age (27ish) and by now it seems like they're all either taken or are having their arrest records sealed (or both.)

Thanks

Yeah, 24 seems like a really good age.. so you are telling me that by 27 they are all taken, or in jail..

Why do I suddenly hear a faint ticking?? ( My other problem is that my biological clock started ticking a while ago)

Yeah, you and Pam are still young. What's bothering me lately is that I'm getting closer to 30. I know that's still young, but I guess I just saw myself having achieved things like marriage and kids by around 30.

I can see how the big 30 would bring on such feelings. But trust me 27 is still young! Who knows you might be married at 30!

never ever give up! You are an awesome gal, any guy would be lucky to have you.

Okay, I think this is another one of my problems right now, is that I no longer believe in The One. I don't think I'll ever go back to believing in The One, either. I do believe in people being right for certain people at the right time in their lives. I think the trick is just being there at the right place at the right time, and that it essentially comes down to a mixture of pure luck and hard work. I hope all this doesn't sound too pessimistic though! I haven't given up by a long shot.

I still believe in the one.. would it be to mushy to say that I feel it in my heart. Certian days I just can feel his happiness and such. Yes I am a romantic

But every year I think there would be more than one .. so when I turn 27. ask me that question agian

[whichonespam]

My wife is threatening to retaliate with a pro-Karen video.

That will be a very short video

[dyingstar]

I'm so sorry Pam! I've been there many times myself. I may visit again tonight. If it helps at all, I agree with Sharpie. I've seen your photos, and you are really pretty. I know it's not the same as someone there, that you love, telling you though.

I wish I could tell you that guys your age will mature, and the playing field evens out. But something strange happens between then and now. Guys your age only turn into guys my age (27ish) and by now it seems like they're all either taken or are having their arrest records sealed (or both.)
Yeah, you and Pam are still young. What's bothering me lately is that I'm getting closer to 30. I know that's still young, but I guess I just saw myself having achieved things like marriage and kids by around 30.
Okay, I think this is another one of my problems right now, is that I no longer believe in The One. I don't think I'll ever go back to believing in The One, either. I do believe in people being right for certain people at the right time in their lives. I think the trick is just being there at the right place at the right time, and that it essentially comes down to a mixture of pure luck and hard work. I hope all this doesn't sound too pessimistic though! I haven't given up by a long shot.

Just forthe record, I'm 28, have a steady job, never had more than a speeding ticket, don't drink, exercise regularly, hav been told I look like the guy who played Angel on Buffy, and can't even get a woman to go to coffee, much less join me for a grilled cheese sandwich on the roof. I think people our age are incredibly gunshy.

But i remain hopeful for a FNB to compliment my Jim-yness.

[MyNameIsPam]

I am a hopeless romantic, always have been and always will be, but I believe in my heart of hearts that somewhere out there, there is someone for everyone. It's so true, the second you stop looking is the second the very thing you are looking for will happen.

So here's to all the dreamers, the silly hearts, the believers...those who know that love is just around the corner and won't give up looking for it. Here's to the people who go on bad dates just waiting for the one right one.

I love ya'll!!! Peace, love, and all that other good stuff.

From just another girl in the world looking for her own Jim Halpert :)

[queenofengland]

Thanks

Yeah, 24 seems like a really good age.. so you are telling me that by 27 they are all taken, or in jail..

Something like that. Maybe I've gotten more careful with age, but my best advice is 'be careful who you date!' Nice looking guys can be very charming and very deceiving.

Why do I suddenly hear a faint ticking?? ( My other problem is that my biological clock started ticking a while ago)
I can see how the big 30 would bring on such feelings. But trust me 27 is still young! Who knows you might be married at 30!

Pam, when I was about 23, I went through a crazy phase where I just really wanted a baby...so badly. Thank god my sister stepped up and got pregnant. It really cured me of that incessant ticking. I love my nephew like no one else in the world, but having a child in my life really showed me how difficult it can be. In a weird way, I'm kind of nervous to have my own kids because I just can't imagine loving anyone else as much as I love my nephew. He is like a son to me in many ways. Anyways, maybe spending more time with kids would help dull the sound of that ticking!

never ever give up! You are an awesome gal, any guy would be lucky to have you.
I still believe in the one.. would it be to mushy to say that I feel it in my heart. Certian days I just can feel his happiness and such. Yes I am a romantic

But every year I think there would be more than one .. so when I turn 27. ask me that question agian

Aw, that's so sweet, thanks Pam! Maybe one day, after we're married, I can turn to my hubby and say "I never believed in The One until I met you." And if he is The One, he'll roll his eyes and make a sarcastic but sweet comment.

[Office_holic]

Sometimes I wonder if I missed out on anything by never being single. I had my first serious girlfriend at 15, then it was a continual string of girlfriends until I got married.
I remember seeing my single friends and being jealous of it sometimes.
I suppose I just didn't want to be alone.

I love being married. My wife and kids are great and I wouldn't change a thing for the world.

But I know I missed out on a lot of things. We watched '40 Year Old Virgin' last month. All the guys going out bonding and trying to pick up girls looks like so much fun. I can't relate to that, never did anything like that.

Rocker you sound alot like me.

My husband is 6 years older than me and he did the whole college experience and other things(Army soldier, international travel when young) and I saw pictures of old gf's of his and heard stories from him/his brother/his friends on what he/they did and I was pretty shy as a teenager and did not have alot of boyfriends. We were married when I was 19 and he was 25.

I used to think I missed out but not really. We were married and he left for 8 months of Army duty 1500 miles away. I was devastated but that was the life of an Army wife. He told me to go out with my friends(ALL single) and just have fun. I kind of felt weird going out married w/o my husband but after a few times, I got used to it. I would go out w/friends, bar hopping, dancing etc. I would get asked to dance(he told me to dance if asked) have drinks bought for me. I would always state I was married and happily as well.


Grass is always greener...............

[bubblewrap_1]

Yeah- it's been strange lately because a lot of people I know are getting engaged or married. The scary thing is that when my mom was a year younger than I am now she met my dad and they started dating. Then about 5 years later they got married. I'm pretty happy with being single right now (though that tends to vary from time to time.....)

[Pam_Halpert_1]

Just forthe record, I'm 28, have a steady job, never had more than a speeding ticket, don't drink, exercise regularly, hav been told I look like the guy who played Angel on Buffy, and can't even get a woman to go to coffee, much less join me for a grilled cheese sandwich on the roof. I think people our age are incredibly gunshy.

But i remain hopeful for a FNB to compliment my Jim-yness.

Aww.. well I am a FNB looking for her Jim.. so I guess this means that there are both FNB and Jim's out there.. we just have to keep looking right!

Pam, when I was about 23, I went through a crazy phase where I just really wanted a baby...so badly. Thank god my sister stepped up and got pregnant. It really cured me of that incessant ticking. I love my nephew like no one else in the world, but having a child in my life really showed me how difficult it can be. In a weird way, I'm kind of nervous to have my own kids because I just can't imagine loving anyone else as much as I love my nephew. He is like a son to me in many ways. Anyways, maybe spending more time with kids would help dull the sound of that ticking!

Oh I was just about to say maybe I need another trip to my cousins. My Cousin has two kids, and her husband ( who I LOVE) always teases me that on the first day he can see that baby gleen in my eye and that by the third day sanity sets in and he can see the .. get me the heck out of here look.

Do not get me wrong I LOVE them to death!! But I also leave there house very happy that I have no child in the near future!!

I mean you really get tied down..I mean a sleeping baby on your chest is nice until he poops and you have to change his diaper

"I never believed in The One until I met you." And if he is The One, he'll roll his eyes and make a sarcastic but sweet comment.

yep that sounds just like mine as well

I love that we both want them to make some scarcastic comment.. maybe he can even through in an office quote like, "I knew you were the one the first 24 min of the second day I met you"