DaraCat uses it often. I guess it makes her think she sounds intelligent. I am going to provide a list of synonyms so she can expand her vocabulary.

List of synonyms for the word ?pejorative?

Derogatory
Uncomplimentary
Negative
Depreciatory
Critical
Sneering
Sniping

<<Bob is very girly. Mayhouse44 was absolutely right. Get over it. >>

This is a quote from the other thread. Maxhouse's friend spelled his name as Mayhouse, femininizing his name. Freudian slip????

I used pejorative on that one thread ONLY. I have a better thesaurus in my head and many more on my shelves.

You are also a gay basher. If you read the beautiful posts from DCTubbie, who talked about how hurtful comments like that are to him, you obviously are a heartless and cruel person as you thought to start a new thread just to insult Bob again and to insult me for defending ugly prejudice toward him.

For the record, I never found Bob to be "girly."

There are so many serious issues in the world, but this is the one you choose to defend. Enough said about you.

Yo DH:

what is your prob???? For one, DaraCat has been on this board b/f I was, and she is an eloquent writer who needs NO help from a scumbucket like U.

So, your "friend" MH44 writes an anti-gay post, and then U have to start-up a thread railing against someone who defended Bob & all gay people. How lacking is YOUR life???

I find that people who have such a problem w/gays are usually in the closet themselves. So come on out & enjoy your life. Like DC said, hey isn't there enough s/t going on in the world w/o U? How in the world will we EVER find peace with lunatics like U who start up threads 4 NO reason but to trash good people?

Nasty and ugly. That's all U R. An empty shell of a human being.

Maxhouse44Fan:

I am an openly gay man who is met with prejudice on a daily basis, whether it be directed at myself or at others. If you are as homophobic as your buddy or your alter-ego MaxHouse44, I suggest you come right out and be MAN enough to say how you really feel, rather than attacking a lovely woman who defended MaxHouse44's, yes, PEJORATIVE, post about Bob Harper.

The only saving grace in running up against homophobic people like you, is that I meet with many wonderful people, strangers and friends alike, who make me feel appreciated and welcome. I have had strangers verbally assault me in public and I have been amazed by the courage and generosity of strangers who have rushed to my defense. I have been physically attacked on two occasions in my lifetime, once seriously enough to put me in the hospital for five days. My crime: walking down the street.

You are not only homophobic, you are a COWARD, as you sit there behind your keyboard, giggling as you write your degrading post, while you delight in imagining the responses you will receive and the games you can play with other people's feelings. To write such a post, if indeed you are male, there is nothing masculine about you.

People who put down others so cavalierly do so because they feel inadequate about themselves.

I hope you will find your much-needed self esteem and realize that it will not ever be found in the demoralization of others.

Fond regards to all the nice people here,

Tom

Hey DCTubby, I am a woman so your theory that I am a closet gay man goes right out the window. The fact that you chose to take my statement that way says far more about (you) than it does about me. You are out there looking for things to be offended about.

Accusing me of being homophobic infers that I am afraid of homosexuals. Why is it that anytime anyone makes a comment that a gay person may not want to hear it makes them homophobic? I have some negative thoughts on peanut butter so does that make me peanut butter-ophobic?

For all the rest of you mental-midgets looking for a soap box to occupy: stating my opinion that Bob is a little girly does not mean any more than I think Bob acts a little girly. I think it is outrageous that such a simple statement was used as a springboard for every pro-gay member of this board to push their agenda down everyone else?s throat.

As for how (eloquent) DaraCat is; give me a break. If she had any talent and/or career in writing, she would not be here writing over 500 messages. Her writings ramble. She does not possess the skill to quickly and effectively make a point. If she were truly an eloquent writer she would be able get her point across swiftly and accurately.

For your information, I am a professional writer and am known by TOP clients (you'd be blown away), for my ability to GET right to the point and write quickly and beautifully. I am not being paid to write on this board so if I go on a bit, so be it.

You cannot attack my writing. If I wasn't good, I wouldn't be paid big $$ for it by some of the most powerful companies in the country. I wouldn't be receiving high praise nor would I be continuing to get jobs. I could tell you a lot more about myself, but it's none of your f/ing business.

I just wanted to let you know that like Kresine said in the other thread, I also will not be reading this anymore. I will not open up the other thread to see what crud you have written there.

You have chosen to attack me because I defended a nasty, unnecessarily remark against Bob Harper. I'm not going to trade insults with you.

So, have fun. Write away. I have NEVER done ANYTHING to you whatsoever. If you are fighting with a complete stranger for no reason, how in the world do you get along with others?

DCTubbie is a wonderful guy. I feel sad that he came to this board for support, almost lost his best friend in a suicide attempt, endures constant prejudice from people like you, and now will likely not feel comfortable posting anymore. Gee, I hope you're proud, nasty one.

DaraCat, you are far more impressed by your writing skills than anyone else is. If you had a prestigious career as a writer you would not have time to write 600 messages on a message board. You have no life and no career so you have time to indulge yourself on this message board. Anyone as impressive as you think you are would not have time to constantly monitor web boards. Go back to watching Jerry Springer or America Idol or whatever trash like you likes to watch.

You say you will not read this thread again, but I know better. You enjoy the drama this brings in to your life so you will read it because it is about you. You will not acknowledge reading it, but someone like you will never be able to resist reading about yourself and everyone knows it.

PrettyNPink: I haven't read the other thread but my hub just did and told me what u wrote. I refuse to go on any thread where there R gay-bashing comments.

I'm going to be leaving this board. I suppose it is not U that I dislike so much as the message U have put out there. Remember that other people have come from a very different place & have seen the great harm that being unrealistic can do.

I thought Fattapottamus wrote a GREAT post to the lady who wanted to get her friend on the show. She was positive but very realistic and gave solid advice about what to do now. This is EXACTLY what I think many of us wished U would have done. Instead, U probably would've answered ignoring the fact that this woman wasn't facing her probs, & simply tried to give her every detail about getting on the show. I've seen some really devastating things happen as a result of people not listening to reality.

i wasn't going to bring this up, but when DCTubbie/Tom spoke about his friend attempting suicide, well, it hit a nerve b/c one of the women who did NOT join our group (b/c she said she didn't want to hear a bunch of bull -- she really didn't want to face the truth) did end up committing suicide. Well, i am keenly aware of how staying in denial can be deadly & i see U as an enabler who can't separate dreaming from solid encouragement. I have felt that U cannot tell the diff between someone in crisis or someone simply dreaming about gettng on the show. In a nutshell -- that is my problem with U. U seem like a really sweet person but U have truly made me crazy. I do feel like I want to apologize 4 sounding so cruel -- i suppose if I didn't feel some of your posts were dangerous to others i wouldn't have really cared. Then, to add to that all of the ways U twisted Claudia's words, etc., well, u made me nuts. But no, I don't hate U and I hope U find happiness & great success in your life. I hated your message. I'm sorry -- i've seen life thru very diff eyes than U and i can only imagine what Claudia has seen working in LA for so many years.

So, I will be leaving real soon b/c U R right -- too much nastiness on the board. I cannot even understand this sicko MaxHouse44Fan going after DaraCat -- one of the most FAB supportive people ON HERE. I don't know if U were on the board a really long time ago, but DCat & another poster were online when a really nice lady named Ally wanted to kill herself. DaraCat & the other lady stayed online w/her & she got help. Her daughter Tonie came on much later to post that the board saved her life. (Read her post; it's on the Warning About Posts thread). Can U imagine if DC & the other lady suggested that she try out for the show? (This incident was one of the reasons that the WARNING ABOUT POSTS thread was started b/c they didn't think that thread started by Ally was appropriate even tho it was all very loving. I am very affected emotionally by all of this & U, unfortunately, just pushed my buttons. I apologize 4 sounding so mean. I am not a mean person. I will come back another time to say goodbye to my GREAT friends, but PnP, don't worry about me -- just stay out of the path of people who just like to target people for sport. IGNORE THEM.

U take care -- i will be back to say goodbye to Nikki, DC, Henry, Gman, Shay, MISTY GIRL & everyone else L8R.

Kresine

Just wanted to say a couple of things, I hope you do know I am not a 'gay-basher'...I think you do know that and good about not wanted that thread to to keep going on..I feel the same.

I didn't know about the suicide...I'm not on the board that often..believe it or not I haven't read all the threads and so forth, I missed that...so maybe I understand where you are coming from better now.

I know we must be careful and temper our hopes and dreams with a dose of reality. We also can't run scared all the time either...I know there must be a happy middle ground..a place where I can be excited for the show and you can let folks know that the show isn't the answer...becuase, Kresine, that is that is how we both feel.

With that said, I thank you for your compliment to me,I am so happy to know that you don't hate me and I don't hate you either, never have...I just felt misunderstood...but you probebly did too.

Sorry so for any bad stuff that I did say, I don't like feeling defensive...

~PrettynPink walks outside, looks up into the sky and sees a star..."I'll name that one Kresine" she says with a smile~

Take care Kresine,
PrettynPink

Hey there PNP:

Thx. 4 responding 2 me. I really appreciate it. FIRST -- YES, I KNOW U R not a gay basher! NOT at all. In fact, U were on of the 1st people to rush to Bob's defense! I have NEVER had probs w/U in that area & I respect that U had the courage to speak up.

I read your post to Denny. I don't know if he'll come back. I loved him a lot. I feel TOTALLY bummed that he left so that's another reason I'm leaving, too. I think we all had a really close relationship on that board & Denny felt really protective of us. I cannot speak 4 him (he has one of the most unusual minds EVER!!) but i think when he left & said something about offending ladies on the board, he might also have felt bad about U, w/o mentioning U by name. I have a feeling but I cannot prove it. I feel really bad for GMan who also has been a real pal & also a great defender of us all.

U R right -- there IS a middle ground we can all enjoy. U prob. wouldn't know it from my posts 2 U, but I'm a BIG dream booster! As I said b/f, when I think encouragement will bring about pos. results, I go 4 it. We don't always know what's going on inside someone's head & even really SMART people like me (LOL!!!) can't tell 4 sure. i swear, PNP, I had a really BAD feeling about this woman who died b/f it happened. We were all begging her 2 join the group b/c she needed it the MOST. (i won't go into all the reasons -- it would be a novel & them some!) Her hub who was also in denial supported her by saying she didn't need it, it was bull, etc. This psychologist was SOOOOOOOO FAB & to this day, I REALLY believe she'd be alive if she had faced up to reality. She always talked about getting a personal trainer when she was ready (one who trained STARS!!) & he or she would make it all go away. WHEN she was ready; WHEN she had $$$. Yeah, right! Every time I see her kids (who go to school w/mine, I want to cry all over again). I tried SO hard to help her as did the other moms and U just can't make someone get help if they don't wanna do it. U know?

I guess on this board, I got a little crazy b/c it was like I thought it was all happening again & I just HAD to stop it, U know??? Does that make any sense to U? We are all a product of our experiences & those of us who care take time to learn & evolve. This has been a real learning exp. 4 me & I do feel bad 4 hurting U in the process. I hope we have both learned something.

U take real good care -- that was SO sweet about the star! I really mean that!!

Take good care of yourself,

Kresine

"I could tell you a lot more about myself, but it's none of your f/ing business."

WOW. Soccer mom's getting fiesty!!

Hello Kresine & PrettyNPink:

I have not posted in quite a long time as I've had quite a bit of morning sickness. I'm not quite sure why they call it morning sickness when it's not limited to morning! But my pregnancy is going well and I am beyond happy with anticipation!

I was both happy and sad to read this board tonight. I am very happy to see that you two have come to some meeting of the minds. PrettyNPink, I can tell that you are a lovely, sweet person who really cares. Kresine, you are the same kind of person and I do understand what upset you so much, as I have seen a lot in my time (having BEEN 100 lbs. overweight for most of my young life into adulthood) and I recently posted about a lady I met who gained weight thinking she'd get on the show. Kresine I think you made it all very clear when you talked about simply looking at the difference between a person who dreams of getting on the show and a person in crisis. I would say that was the crux of your differences for sure. At least something positive came out of your disagreement. I believe things happen for a reason.

So, I'm very happy that this is so much better between two sweet and caring persons, but I am so saddened by the ugliness of others. Right before I came on this board tonight, I learned that the lady who lives next door to us, who is 32 with three children, has advanced breast cancer and her prognosis is very bad. When I came on this board and read the childish & cruel remarks of some, after hearing such horrible news, I just could not feel anything but sick. Why do some people take such pleasure in being so cruel? It is a question I have wrestled with all of my life. It took me several hours to post. I didn't want to, but I felt I should post. I'm feeling very sad and depressed despite the happiness over my pregnancy, which is a lifelong dream!

After reading the posts from Kresine & PrettyNPink, I can truly see how two nice people misunderstood each other, but that nobody was trying to be cruel or hateful just for fun, but simply got upset over the frustration of not being able to communicate.

Kresine, I am SO sad to hear that you want to leave the board. I wish you would reconsider. You, DaraCat, Misty and other were the first to welcome me here and you are such special people. I am sad to see Denny go even though the first time we were online together I got scared and signed off. (tee hee!) He sure is different from anyone Ive ever read. What a fascinating mind!!!

Okay, well, I must go. I just wanted to say hello. I will be back but if the ugliness continues, please know why you don't hear from me.

God Bless you both,

Windy

Maxhouse44 I have to disagree with you. Anyone with enough time on their hands to write 600 messages could not possibly have time to be a soccer mom. I am thinking she is a middle aged failure. No husband because no man could stand to listen to her because she rambles while she speaks as much as she does when she writes. Someone who never quite measured up in her career choices because she is delusional about her talent. She latches on to other people?s problems so there is always a crisis in her life since she has no life of her own. Always looking for something to be indignant about proving that other treat her and her friends badly. Always looking to pick up someone else?s cause because she has no direction and does not stand for anything.

Not that anybody cares but I made a blog a few weeks ago. Here is the link:

www.chamspage.blogspot.com

Nice-looking website! I'm swamped now but will make a point to read it later. Beautiful outdoor photos & all very nicely done. Thanks for posting it.

=^..^=

Hello All:

Kresine, thank you for your eloquent post. I also do not want to hurt PrettyNPink and my frustration, like yours, came out of my own personal experience in this area (and lots of it over the years) and for reasons similar to, but different from yours, I also became enraged as I thought people in crisis were being encouraged to do something that would fail in the end, when, as you said on another thread, there are truly so many creative and inspirational things we can all do NOW to get going.

PrettyNPink, I am with Kresine. I do not want to be your enemy and I apologize for bouncing off walls. The miscommunication coupled with my vast experience in watching people turn inside out for crazy dreams, just made me go a little nuts. I wish I could tell you all some of the stories, but in doing so, certain people would be identifiable and so I cannot. It would greatly help me to illustrate my point, but I'm not a gossip and certainly not one who posts other people's business on the boards.

PnP, while I did find you maddening, I never thought you were a cruel or mean person. And I also, like Kresine, was keenly aware that you defended Bob as did we all. I suppose when you, for reasons I still don't understand, used me in an effort to "out" someone else, my upset really snowballed. I hope you can understand that.

So, I just want to let you know that you will not having to worry about the crazy documentary producer from LA anymore, okay?

I think we all had one thing in common ALL the time: we all just wanted to be of help to those who are struggling, and we all saw the solutions in different ways. We all meant well, which is far more than I can say about others. I also will not/have not been reading those vicious threads.

Again, PrettyNPink, I apologize for my role in any upset.

Keep rolling w/the punches & be the sweet lady I know you are.

Best wishes,

CC

Always looking to pick up someone else?s cause because she has no direction and does not stand for anything. [/quote]

Gee, haven't you picked up Maxhouse44's "cause" in the same manner as you accuse others on this board for doing?

JJ nope but thanks for playing. You need to come up with something better than this.

I do not remember Maxhouse44 pointing out how DaraCat likes to repeat herself. Maybe I missed it but I doubt it. Nice try though.

Cham101 - Hey I just read your rafting trip story WOW !!! Im glad your story turned out with a happy ending ! It sounds like you guys had lots of fun . Ill have to check out your other stories some time . Thanks for sharing with us .

Nikki

hey Claudia:

Claudia Cool trying to keep cool in LA! LOL!

Anyway, i was SOOOOOOO glad to see your post as I didn't want to write on anyone's behalf but my own, but i was hoping U would drop PnP a line or two so we could ALL put this behind us!

PnP: hope U R stayin' cool, too!

Kresine (who hates humidity w/a passion!!)

i was real glad to see yall writing this post. I wrote more about it on the "marshen" thread so i hope the pretty pink lady will read it. okay then bye.

Hey there Krisine and Claudia~

Wow, I just got done reading both your posts! I feel like we have come to the end of a really great 'feel good' movie...ya know what I mean? Except that it doesn't have to end...this message board wont be the same with out Krisine and the Hollywood documentary producer Claudia..hehe..sorry Claudia, just had to poke a little bit of fun..it's all good though!!

I have learned alot here as well, mostly about myself..and about life...

I was reading a quote from mother Teresa I wanted to share it here...

"We can not do great things, only small things with great love"

Thank you both for your kindess, caring and friendship..I hope to know you both for a very long time and hope you will stay here on this board. Sorry again if I said dumb stuff that seemed mean or what not...I guess we all have out moments!

Hugs,
PrettynPink

Hi there Mr. Marshen Guy..

I haven't read your post yet, but I will tonight..and I'll write more to ya then..just wanted to let ya know I read this post so far! Thanks for posting to me!

PrettynPink

HI PNP Im so happy that all is good now with everyone . Im also very happy that Denny Crane has returned to us . I just wanted to say hi to you .

Nikki

hi Seansmama,


It is good to hear from you too...how is the Atkins doing?, I think you had said you were on it, I have been trying off and on..more off lately then on..but I'm working on it..life is a work in progress always..one day at a time!

I'm glad things a better here on the board..it got a little crazy for while..how are doing?

PrettynPink

Hey there Guitar man

I just read your post over on the other thread...thanks..I think you are way cool for sure!! I know a lot of folks including myself got caught in some misunderstandings n' stuff...it's too bad..but it's over now..the storm has indeed passed and we are a happy bunch once again!! I have loved reading your posts ..mostly your conversations between you and Mr. Crane...what a cool guy he is..well you both are so cool! I somehow missed out on knowing where the "Marshen Man" thing came from...could you catch me up on that one?

Nice chatting with you...by the way do you play 'Sweet home Alabama' on your guitar?..that's a cool guitar song!

PrettynPink

Hey PNP Im doing good thanks . I know what you mean Ive been doing Atkins on and off too . I can lose real good on it if I stay on it but its hard because there is so much that you cant have . I keep my carbs under 20 how about you ? For the most part I eat the same thing every day . Ill be glad when I get closer to my goal weight so that I can add more carbs and have more to choose from . I agree take it one day at a time . Come on get back on the wagon with me , we can do this .

Nikki

I am new here and just like everyone else who is here I also need help. No one around me gives me a positive thoughts so Im here looking for one.

WELCOME ! Well you have come to the righ place . We will help you anyway we can . You are not alone ! We will lose weight together . Would you like to join us in the Biggest Loser Challenge ? We would be happy to have you .

Nikki

Yes, you are not alone! We will lose weight together. I am here for one. My name is Jen, my email is dj_jen702@hotmail.com in case you ever want to send me a email. I have a little poem for you, it is very inspirin...

No Amount of Sugar could ever replace the feeling of accomplishment and quiet satisfaction I feel just being a healthy person who is in control of her life.

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS THIN FEELS!

Remember I am here for you!

Jen
Lincoln Park, MI

It is hard to get positive anything from family and friends because they love you just the way you are. But is is nice to have someone to share you demons with, like when the ice cream is screaming at you from the freezer if you know what I mean. It is nice to have others in the same boat as yourself while trying to drop the pounds, a understanding shoulder to lean on. I am ready to start to battle the buldge my self and will most likely need an open ear too.

I have done really well lately, if I do say so myself. I have been walking my puppy at night (she's a boxer with tons of energy, no easy feat) and have stopped snacking during the day. I used to sit in my chair all day watching television, snacking on this and that.

Now I have cut out soda (only 1 glass a day) and I have more energy than I ever did drinking it. I have also cut out the snacking on unhealthy foods. I didn't even have a snack yesterday.

Now the problem is that I can't get into the workout I wanted to because of this darn back pain. It started a week ago and I can barely bend let alone get in downward facing dog position!

I can't stand it. Doing what little housework I can helps to get rid of some energy, but not enough and then there is this pain that I am walking around with!

It hurts, A LOT. I would almost liken it to the pain you get in your back when you are in labor.

This sucks.

~FM

Has anyone heard of "tennequoit" or "sunlann"? Better yet, can anyone explain either of them to me? I checked on the internet and the best info keeps leading me to the Birdwing Spa website. There isn't any real info there other than they offer the two as part of their packages. (I did email them, but sometimes they are a little slow in responding. Tennequoit seems to be a "Canadian" type thing (Alberta comes up alot it seems) and I was hoping that one of our "North of the Border" board members might be able to help me.)

Thanks,
Josie

Tennequoit's a game -- teams play on either side of a net, and instead of a ball, there's this donut-shaped ring you toss back and forth, catching it by spearing the hole in the donut with your arm. I found this out by googling "tennequoit."

Yes, Tennequoit, aka Ring-Tennis. Tennis style game played with a ring rather than a ball.
Sunlann appears to be some form of exercise like yoga or pilates I think.
Sorry Josie, that's all I could find out. I am Canadian, born and raised but this is the first time I have ever heard of either of those things. Not a spa-goer, myself.
NBMG

Thank you for the info. I was kind of hoping to find out rules and such too. I seem to have issues with needing as much info as possible before I get into something...maybe the spa people who play the game will answer me someday.

Thanks again,
Josie