Are you serious???? Wow.

I'm with Muffy, it's astonishing people can be that clueless.

I saw something about a ferret in this thread.

I hate that clueless people vote.

Did you give her a mean evil look pam?

Wedd, my older brother is asking me questions about the brit I've said nothing. That doesn't make me horrible, but I like my privacy when it comes to family. When I told my mom he's 38(at the time I told her, he's 39 now, 40 next month) she went all strange. So what, a 10 to 11 yr age gap isn't a big deal. My ex was 6 yrs older. Does my mom think I'm going to marry the brit, no. she has no idea we're engaged. People who ask is your married, should be allowed to get punched IMO

Should have told her you had a girl and seen what happened!



I completely agree-people need to mind their business!!

IMO, a ten-year difference only matters if you're talking about something like 17 and 27. But if you're talking 29 and 39, BFD. Everyone's all grown up, and the age differences become more a matter of personality and maturity.

So can I, but for different reasons...

Yeah. And this lady was a mother. Like I went to school with her daughter for about 8 years and she knows all of us. So when she saw me that is what she asked....

I also was the " bad child" at school so she asked me how my job was going and when I told her I was in school she looked all surprised.. but whatever



I gave her a big smile. and that is when she said oh you got braces what happened...I then had to tell her that I never had braces when I was younger and that I go them in college instead.

I do not think age matters I mean really why is it a big deal if you are married or not??



Oh you and me think on the same wave lenght... I was going to say yeah it is a promise ring to my girlfriend ( this women is as southern baptist as you can get) and see what happened. But instead to make her shut up I just said it was a promise ring to honor my promise to God.. which is true.. but still that is personal.

I mean I know like 5 of the girls in my class ( I went to school with the same people for about 10 years) are married now, so it is not a leap to think I could be but really?? A mother?? At least she did not say anything about her daughter being married.. just that she is off in Italy. ( there is a reason I left that soul sucking school)

Other women give you this "I'm so sorry" look when your over 23 and not engaged or married yet. Which I don't get. Why are you sorry for is what I would like to ask. Then ask them how old were they when they got married what number marriage are they on and how happy an perfect have they been? But I guess that's rude? But we're all thinking it.
10 years isn't bad. I think everyone thinks cause I act silly and goofy and really not my age most times that I'm not ready to handle a adult. HELLO I'm 29 now I'm wayyyy past teenager. The brits daugthers reaction when he showed her my picture before actually meeting her. "dad you sure she's 28"(at the time I was). Then asked politely if I was just a young thing for a possible mid life crisis. at 11 she asked that.

Pam I would take you for the bad child.

Me thinks I won't be single for much longer .

Last night I meet a gorgeous Italian guy named Armando at an Italian cafe that I frequent with my best friend. I've seen one two other occasions & I've noticed him looking at me but something was unique about last night. This is not a five second glance. It was a full on stare. After I finished my gelato I decided to reapply my lip gloss & eye shadow. at the table. I feel someone watching me, so I turn to my left & *boom* there's the guy. Naturally I tell my friend. So anyway, she would tell me that he kept looking at me. Shortly after the server at the cafe sat down with the guy. I thought, "Screw it, he's not getting away this time." So I take my friends napkin (unused, mind you) & write out my digits & my first name with my black eyeliner. I realized that I'm too scared to just walk to him & hand him my cell number so I take the key to the bathroom to relax. Now my hands are shaking because I'm super nervous. I come out shortly & hand the key to the server who proceeds to say, "Have you meet my friend Armando?". Thankfully he broke the ice which allowed me to give the guy my number & also allowed me to talk to him. He had this sexy accent which I guess meant that he recently came here. My friend comes over & we briefly chat, but we had to head out. So we said our byes & that was it.

Now I'm playing the waiting game. According to my friend I was blushing like mad but this guy was gorgeous. He had olive skin, dark black hair & these amazing eyes with this sexy accent . He's a fine dresser too & was wearing nice jeans & an Armani exchange shirt. He was waiting for his friends so he could go clubbing. I just can't believe I didn't notice him come him but I'm so thankful for the server. I guess the server knew how Armando felt. Woo hoo!

That sounds soooo exciting, pip86 Good luck.

Thanks hon . If he calls me, I'll make sure to update everyone. Now I'm just waiting for my phone to ring...

Hope things go well, pip86! It's so wonderful - that feeling you get when you find someone you're attracted to - and vice-versa!

Thanks dear and yes, I totally agree. I can't believe that I find a guy whom I truly like & I still giggle about how we were introduced. I wonder if the server was told to say that or if he noticed something too. I don't think I've ever had a guy stare at me the way he did. Normally I would be creeped out but with him, I didn't mind heehee.

OK everyone, I owe you all an update.

I's sorry it's taken me so long to fill you in, but i've been crazy busy lately.

Anyway, i'll start where I left off in August.

I had been talking to her via AIM for a few weeks and I enjoyed talking to her, so I decided to invite her to my birthday party that I was having at the end of the month. Although it was a party, I was considering it as a date because we would get to spend some alone time together. She agreed that that if she was heading in my direction that weekend, she would def come.

Let me fill you in on this aspect too. Her hometown is is New York, but she went to the a university in my hometown for her bachelors. There, she met the girl that was getting married. She graduated from the university and decided to get further her education and is now attending a larger university about 2.5 hours from where I live. She still has ties to my area since she lived her for 4 years, so she visits when she can.

So, a few weeks pass and it comes to my birthday at the end of August. She couldn't make it to the party, but i'm glad she didnt because I drank WAY too much and ended up getting sick and going home early.

Lets jump forward a week or so. Now, i'm REALLY into college football and since she suddenly relocated to a college town, I figured it would be the perfect opportunity for us to have an opportunity to be with each other, so after some searching, I found tickets one of the biggest football games of the year. She was so excited, which made me even more excited. I didn't even care about the game, I was just so happy to get to spend some time with her.

So, I was a little nervous about meeting up with her because I hadn't seen her since the wedding, but when she opened her door, all my fears went away. If you read my post about the wedding, I said that something triggered inside my head to talk to her and that her beauty set me back. Again, I got hit with a wave of the same emotions as she opened the door. She was so easy to talk to and as we walked to the game, I didn't have any problem finding things to talk about and we were hitting it off really well.

The game was incredible. I stood and looked over at her at certain parts of the game and she was smiling from ear to ear. Her joy made me so warm inside, I can't even explain it. It was a feeling that I have never felt before. As we talked more, we found out how much we really have in common. We connected on so many levels.

At one point during the game, I was hunched over watching and a felt something on my back. I turned and looked at her quick and she looked at me with the cutest face and said "there was a bug on your back". I nearly melted right there.

We had a nice walk back from the game. We talked about so much. She was so easy to talk to and I loved her attitude about life, her personality and her sense of humor. We ended up getting some pizza and hanging out for a while. I decided to leave and head home at about midnight. She wanted me to stay and crash on the couch. I wish I had stayed but there is one thing i've learned from past relationships and that is the take things slow. I ended up getting home at about 3.

I sent her a message yesterday that said that I had a great time and that I wanted to see her again. She responded back that she also had a great time and that she would be coming up to my area soon and wanted to see me again.

So, all is well there. I'll keep everyone posted as to what happens.

Great news!!!! Congrats!

Sounds like things are progressing well.

And now my friends are started to flame me for not staying. I don't think I did anything wrong.

Opinions???

Your friends are NOT you......dont go by what 'they' would do. Do what you feel is right and comfortable for yourself and her. You were right Good luck!

You did the right thing. Tell your friends to back off!!!

Congrats!!

You may have ruined a potential longterm relationship by staying. You did the right thing. You've established yourself as a gentleman in her eyes.

You leaving was an excellent move.

Being single means means never having to explain why you get so many magazines in the mail and hardly read them

Nice to hear things worked out nicely for ya becand75.

PNP86 he sounds good looking. you didn't get his number as well did you?

being single sucks cause when your annoyed you have no one to take it out on.

It sounds like it's going great! It sounds like you guys might have something very special here. And leaving that night was totally the right move. You showed respect and that you were a gentleman. Tell your friends to shut up.

That sounds great! She wants to see you again. See, you did the right thing by not overstaying your welcome. Boo on your friends - what do they know anyway? Keep us posted. We'll keep our fingers crossed.

I'm glad most of you agree with the whole "gentleman" approach. I don't want to seem lame either. I sincerely was trying to be a gentleman and not overstaying my welcome. Some girls see this as being lame.

Well that will tell you something you need to know too.

I believe there is a time to listen to your friends and a time to ignore them. You picked the right time to ignore them.

When is the right time? When your gut tells you a relationship has gone sour. When you're spending a lot of money on a girl and the relationship is getting worse. She won't return your calls, she's never around, etc. At these times your friends will say 'Get rid of her!' and they're right.

I realize that this has nothing to do with your situation. But I'm just pointing out that sometimes your friends can be right.

That's a great story, and yes, you did the right thing. You were a gentleman and you're going to see her again. That's just between the two of you and no one else.

Except us, of course

Brits gone to work again tonite. 3 people called in "sick". I hate being own my own

Sigh...I want to talk to someone about my day. Sigh again.

Tell us about it Sharpie!

^^

That's the thing...there's nothing really to tell. Today was rather uneventful. I just want someone to talk to about nothing.

^^^That's what the Off Topic thread is for !

is it normal for guys to just give girls a few good days of intense attention and then kinda space out til the girl nags the guy again??

Congrats becand. May I ask what game?

I took a girl to a Boise State football game one time. She seemed excited about it at first but it flopped in the end. I'd be curious to know what it was.

The longest relationship I ever had was with the only girl who understood the difference between encroachment and offsides...that tells me something...

Ya, I'm a football nerd, don't judge ladies.

um... is it mean to tell your friend she is easy because she goes out with every guy that asks her out on myspace??

Yeah I thought so. I mean she told me that I was a prude because I never go out with anyone. I mean is it my fault that I know I am a good catch and therefore need to be chased? I am not just going go on a date because I want to see the new movie for free..

( getting off soap box now)

Liz.... I mean not really, you should never have to nag a guy to look at you ( IMHO) Then agian most men need to be naged about everything else so why not that?

"Then again most men need to be nag(g)ed about everything else so why not that? "
Methinks there may be a second reason why you're not going on dates...

Yes. And it means no offense to the women. Men aren't as naturally in tune to things like this as much as women.

Oh I put that one in there just for Liz!

Actually if you saw me in person you would find my comment funny, nagging has never been something I am good at. Plus I am a psychologist if I want some one to do something I just offer them a reward for doing that task.

I mean men are just like dogs right?

It was the Penn State / Notre Dame game.

Nothing wrong with a football nerd!

We have our good points too

Ouch!

meow

At the moment all I see is good old boys that want to get drunk and ( well what else rhymes with that)

I know good ones are out there.. I just have to get out of college first.

Woah!!!!

It's nice to know it's not me then RC. today when I got up early and saw him it was a different story. barely said hello and things heated up very quickly. I don't understand the male brain at all

As a man, I deeply resent that statement. It's indicative of a cultural tolerance (and seeming encouragement) for man bashing. If I were to use that term (or the feminine term) to describe a woman, I'd be flamed from here to eternity (and maybe further). There are far too many examples in entertainment today where a man can be made to look foolish, be subject to putdowns, etc., by a woman and it's considerably not only acceptable but funny. Switch the genders in your mind and watch the programming again. Not so funny, is it??

Just another example of the total lack of respect for men in our culture today.

I was just trying to make a joke... and really if you said it back to me in a funny manner I would laugh becasue that is my humor.

My personal views on that subject are exteremly deep, I am a psychology and anthropology major, I take a gender studies class, trust me I understand. I did not mean to offend you. I was just making a joke to be funny. and really agian I have been told that joke the other way around and laughed.. crass I know but that is just me.

Lets even it out with some woman bashing



Why arent women good skiers?













Because there is no snow between the bedroom and the kitchen.



Another-


Why was Helen Keller a bad driver



















Because she was a woman.


There. Enough? More?