oh pam, chance encounters are a big deal. what does your gut tell you?

No. It was a short thing and i never trusted her, so i never put myself out there to be hurt. That is kind of a running theme with me. I dont trust people.

^^ let me ask you something. If you never trusted her and you have this theme in your life as you said, why did you start something with her short or not? Why do you want to torture yourself like that?

Okay, maybe I need glasses because I was reading this thread as "Being simple" and couldn't understand what the attractions was. Geesh.

^thats actually made me laugh. thank you

I agree, & the romantic in me loves chance encounters . That's how I met one of exes. I have a slight faith in fate, & I believe most things happen for a reason. Like, if I never went to my friends birthday dinner I would've never met that exchange student. Or, if my friend didn't frequent that Italian Cafe I would've never met that other guy, who was always there too. With my parents, it seemed like their relationship was by chance too. My dad met my mom when she was a waitress & to think, if he never attended that restaurant regularly they would've never met & I wouldn't be here. The same goes for my mom's parents. They were on opposite sides of the streets in Greece & my mom's mom brother asked my papou/grandpa if he liked my yiayia/grandma & he said yes. Than the brother asked my yiayia if she liked my papou & she said yes. They were strangers & *boom* they began dating, fell in love & many years after they're still married with 3 lovely daughters & 9 marvelous grandkids. So if you're gut tells you to approach that guy or girl, do it as she or he may be the one, or a great boyfriend/girlfriend !

pip what a lovely story. awww that totally warms my heart

So my best guy friend has a girlfriend for awhile now. I liked him forever before she came into his life, but I got over it. But recently, especially because I've become kind of friends with her, it's been making me upset to see them together. Its awful. Its not even a jealousy thing at all. It just makes me sad to think, I dont know, that could've been me? Maybe? Or I just want that in general. Man I need a boyfriend.

aww mambo. No matter how much you don't like seeing her with him don't interfer. Just depending on how much he likes her. If the chance comes up that your friend has those feelings too by all means take it.

No, you don't need a boyfriend. You need to focus on your education, and make great friends. There will be plenty of time for boyfriends when you're older. You are a wonderful, gifted, intelligent person without a boyfriend!

See, that's the trick. I never trusted her, so i never actually opened up emotionally, so i never was hurt. I mean it kind of sucks, but im not listening to dashboard confessional or anything.

And the reason i didnt trust her was because it was so short. Im sure if we were together for longer, i would have opened up. Maybe around month six.

Not sure if I buy into this theory.

People analyze things too much.

Yeah, she's an anthropologist who specializes in the evolution of love. She's got books, and she's done documentaries on it as well. I guess she gets paid to analyze too much.

I dunno......my son was born in June but then again my two girls were born in Feb & March

The only thing I believe in are the September/October babies that result from the Christmas/New Year celebrating!!!

Oh, and the November Valentine's Day babies!

Winter time is the best! Snuggling is best in winter.

RC, what are you doing this weekend? Huh? Celebrating anything?

Mrs RC informed me that several kids are just being dropped off for the party. That surprises me. So now I have to help watch kids.

This made me think of Homecoming, once you got into the swing of things at school (like around the end of Sept) and going out with new boys. Ahh. Good times.

I missed all of that I had the same girlfriend all through high school.

I did too for 10-12th grades (and college - *barf*) but I broke up with him - briefly - around the beginning of October in 11th AND 12th grades to go somewhere school related (Homecoming, cast party) with some hot guy in my Anatomy class/another hot guy in the school play with me.

**clarification: He was older than me, and had never attended my school, so when it came to doing all the fun stuff you are supposed to do in high school, it was over for me half way through my sophomore year when he and I got together, so i know what you mean, RC.

Note to my kids: DATE, do not do the five year on again off again relationship.

I have two of those!

Do you have twins PB?

Dangit. I had a long post replying to a few people and when I clicked "add reply" I didnt realize my internet connection got lost. Ab fab. Basically the jist of it was that I cant decide if I actually like my friend who I mentioned before. Its a weird feeling though. I think I just liked him for soo long that its kind of hard to get over it. And as much as I'm "over it", I dont know if I really am. Plus hes just such a great guy. His gf is lucky! And I honestly like the girl, she super nice and they're cute together. But still, something inside of me when I see them together makes me feel uneasy and sad. Its awful! And thanks for the words of advice, VB and I know I shouldnt focus on guys. Its just hard not to.

One daughter (5) and two boys (3 and 2).

The boys are both 'wedding' babies.

Excellent point--forgot about that!!!




I agree-my first boyfriend was 19 and I was 16 and I never got that dating in high school thing. I got the oh, I have to run home to my boyfriend thing. I missed out on that.

Oh...just in case not everyone knows...I am single and taking applications.

Please don't all jump up at once and I would appreciate it if you could form an orderly line outside of the door...I mean come on now, we are all adults here.

Also, please do not skip the credit card and social security number line on the application. If you do so, your application will be considered null and void.

Thanks.

I wish I could do that. Gosh liking someone doesn't make being single easy.

Today I was approached by a guy when I was in the library. He followed me from the video section & asked me if the library had anything with Snoop Dogg ie music, books etc. He claimed that it was his first time at the library, & he was waiting to get a book. Afterwards he said thanks & nice to meet you & made his way to the front desk. That was the end of it, except when he was checking me out later on. I suppose he was semi-cute, but it was nice to get the attention .

Rabid, you speak my language.

I totally agree. It's especially harder when you purposely date other people to get over the other person/ However, the reality is that casual relationships won't fill the void in your heart that the person whom you truly like left . The hardest part is not knowing how the other person feels, & rejecting others in hope of starting a relationship with the one you really like. I'm in that situation at the moment, & it sucks .

Sorry guys, this may not be the right thread for this, but it's the most fitting I guess. I miss my boyfriend. He lives in Kansas and I'm in Utah. I went to visit him a few weeks ago, and now I miss him a lot. Being in a long distance relationship is almost like being forced to remain single! You don't want to, and can't go out with any guys. And what's worse is you don't go out on Friday night dates because your bf isn't near you! No kissing. No making out. No hand to hold. No foot rubs. No massages. No one to keep you warm when it's cold outside. It's horrible!

I'm sorry sharladawn. You pretty much described why I hate being single in the first place. I hope things get better!

That continues to boggle my mind that someone like yourself is single!

All week, I've been either busy, moody or tired and the brit has been busy. we've not managed to have 2 hrs together. I feel single. We make plans but they seem to get broken lately

Yeah, I remember those days all too well. Thanks.

Sorry to hear about that Liz, it totally sucks! But I guess the important thing is, who's doing the cancelling? If both of you are, that's okay, but if only one of you is doing most of the cancelling, that could be bad.

Yeah it's only one of us, him. I give his daugther a round of appluase for making it happen twice. one day was my jury duty. But later tonight we have plans and if they don't happen I'm going to go ape ****. you can print that!

Well then, the best of luck to you STL! I really hope he doesn't flake on you tonight! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

*ugh! Jury duty! I had to do that a couple months ago.

I'm making a huge effort, Ive got a new cute top, boots and jeans. Im doing my hair and everything. All this to watch dvd's. It's better than nothing.

Oh, thank you RC! I didn't realize how much I needed to hear that until you said it, and, well...it probably sounds silly but it means a lot to me.

Had a prety nice time with brit. Still feels little funny but I guess we need some work

In general I would watch out for guys who try to hit on you in the library. I don't know why, but that kind of stuff happens there a lot. When I was a librarian in the public library I used to see it all the time. Maybe because it's usually a fairly quiet and calm atmosphere, some guys think they can be forward with someone and the worst thing that will happen is they will get shushed.

My very first job, fresh out of college, was as a reference librarian in a Detroit suburb. One hot summer day, this guy walked in and he had on the shortest cut-off denim jeans I have ever seen on a man. Even for 1979, it was shocking. Suffice it to say that he was more ample than his shorts and modesty was not something he valued. That guy went up to every woman in the library and made some little comment. I don't think anyone took him up on his offer, because he walked out alone. We never thought to call the police, we were too busy giggling.

Bmac, how adorable he must have looked. I second bmac's warning. The worst date I ever had was with a guy who asked me out in the library, (where I was working). He was attractive enough, I had seen him in the library before, etc. Turned out to be very creepy, and a recovering heroine addict. He took me to see "Fatal Attraction" on our date. I was young and stupid.

^^^Eeeeew.

Yeah, it is. And attraction to the opposite sex is normal. It's hard when you like someone so much they constantly invade your thoughts.


Yeah, I need to run the credit reports. And don't forget the fingerprints and DNA - I want to make sure they've never committed anything worse than a felony.


Of course it's the right thread! You're not married, you're single. I had the same problem with one of my exes - all I wanted to do was walk around the mall and hold hands with him. And I was 28 at the time!

Yeah, I am having one of those melancholy days, especially with all the talk above about when babies were conceived. See, cold weather can be a really good thing - but not for the lonesome.

Oh no worries, I wasn't too interested in him. Thankfully it didn't reach the point where he asked for my contact info. For some reason, I can't give out a fake phone number .

Two days ago my friend informed me that the guy I like, the foreign exchange student from Brazil, is going home early. I was emotionally devastated when she told me, as I like him a lot. Apparently he doesn't like it here & another reason is because he can't cook & that alone made me cry. I hope to see him at least once before he leaves & I hope she passes on my contact info before he heads back home . Maybe I could teach him how to cook...

I wonder if I should tell my brother that our internet dating service thinks we're a good match.

I love being single. It means I can have little mini crushes on people. Like seniors... He he.

Senior citizens?

Ha ha no. Seniors in high school. I'm a freshmen..