I totally think that too, that it might not register that your not answering his calls right away.

Do the both of you share mutal friends? I forgot to ask

...but maybe I am pulling away emotionally. I'm interested...but I'm not interested. IDK, I'm so confused and even scared.


Only one friend. That's actually how we met.

well, the only thing I can say is if he interested and your interested but not to that point, when you talk to him you should scope out where he wants to take it an figure out how you want to handle it. Perhaps tell him that you are too, but you just need to take things very slowly. IDK. Atleast you only share one friend and not a bunch so if something gets back to him before you say something it's not completely twisted. You might be in a rut though. A rut with school, your work, your own personal life and you want to date this guy but you see it as another rut. I wish there was a clear answer to give you.

Brit has til tomorrow night then I go MIA! I'm doing it. Wedd is my inspritation. I told him I would and he's said oh you won't hunny. HA! It will either work and make him pull his finger out, or he flat out dumps me.

It sounds like you're not sure 100% whether or not you like him. That's okay too. Unless you guys have known each other for a long time, you're still finding things out about each other. To not be totally invested in what happens next is good, I think. It's too early to feel anything deeper. I would be more worried if you were totally hung up on him, pining away and wanting to know exactly when you'd hear from him. Maybe you just need to suck it up and return his calls sooner, even if you don't want to, since the only way you'll know for sure if you really like him is to spend more time with him.



ITA liz, esp. the bolded part.



Good luck liz! I can't wait to hear what happens.

[quote name='QueenOfEngland' date='Nov 27 2007, 08:28 PM' post='2721191']
It sounds like you're not sure 100% whether or not you like him. That's okay too. Unless you guys have known each other for a long time, you're still finding things out about each other. To not be totally invested in what happens next is good, I think. It's too early to feel anything deeper. I would be more worried if you were totally hung up on him, pining away and wanting to know exactly when you'd hear from him. Maybe you just need to suck it up and return his calls sooner, even if you don't want to, since the only way you'll know for sure if you really like him is to spend more time with him.






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Perfect advice. Thanks Queenie and Liz ( I totally see your point about being in a rut, I didn't think of that. )

I'll keep you all posted on what happens.

Poor sharp. Do what you want, but then you don't have much wiggle room to say there are no guys around. I'm still trying to get my best friend to make the first move on a guy she likes. It's a horrible process

--umm, I got lucky that my walking away worked. I wish the same for you--please don't blame me if it doesn't!

I won't blame you Wedd, just you've made me want to do what I should have done months ago now. So either way it will work, cause I can't have a relationship in limbo forever

How do you tell someone you no longer wish to talk to them?

OMG. That's why! I had a bad feeling about it because deep down I knew he wasn't really compatible with me. AGH! He keeps f***ing interrupting me. I can never get a word in edgewise...and we just don't have as many things in common as I thought.

IDK if he gets that or not. Sigh...now I have to be a b****. At least that's probably how it's going to come out. RAWR!

Marry them.

Someone should PM me offering me some advice about stuff...because I have no idea how to write it out here.

I pay in Stanley Nickels.

This post intrigues me.

As it should.

I am less confused now. Slightly.

Thanks hon ! It's relieving to know that there are men out there who are kind gentlemen & men who can make a girls heart swoon only after one date. I may have said this, but one of the worst dates had consisted of a guy not helping me carry around this watermelon that weighed as much as two babies combined (my house needed fruit & I figure I'd get some). Not only that, but he pulled out a pack of smokes. That's a big no no. Needless to say, there was only a first date.

Last night I received a text message from my guy friend, asking if I was awake. I was way too tired to say yes .

I'm offically on my MIA stint. He's ****** me off for more than just not finishing this thing he was supposed to.

1-his cell rings all the time and it's always his friends
2-his promised to call me back that was over 2 hrs ago, he's not picking up his cell now
3-I was upset about a family thing with my jerk uncle, and the brits idea of comfort....run away

he's been the biggest &%#@*%! &%@hole this afternoon. He's put me in a foul mood

Are you going to check in during your MIA? We worry, you know.

And you are totally justified in splitting for a while!

You know what my situation was? It was a Casino Night type thing. Exactly like it.

Yes I will checking in here. I don't want anyone to think I've done something crazy too Tonight I don't think I will be on much, I plan on taking a muscle relaxer to chill out. My whole body is tense with stress

Well well well. All the boys are vying for Hottest's attention! I hope things get fully figured out for you!

I'm confused, . . . are you Jim or Pam? . . . . Or Roy?

Hottest, did you win a refrigerator?

I laughed for so long after reading that!!! Yeah Hottest. Which situation of CN are you in?

Ding ding ding! We have a winner!

But rly, i'm with a guy (and have been for kind of a while I guess) and another guy told me he loved me.

Funniest comment on these boards since your limerick Sammy!

Oh, . . . Did you say "I can't", or "I don't"? Seriously though . . . . awkward. . . . .

Oh dear. Which one do you like best? Do you believe the guy who said he loves you?
Because sometimes guys will just say that and not really mean it, you know.

I never had this experience in high school, but once in college, when all the planets were alligned in a pleasing order, I had a boy on the phone, one at my door and one on his way over. Yikes.

Bmac! My my!

Woah! BMac!!!!!

3 guys trying to win your affections on the same day!!!! WOW!!!!

Oh BMAC. I would've just hid under my bed!

He knows that i'm with someone else and i'm not breaking it off...and he's not sure how much he likes me I guess? Idk. It's still confusing though...I'm pretty sure I know who I want to be with but still. There was a time when I kind of liked this guy.

Hottest, that's exactly what I did! Those kinds of things happen like once every billion years.
What made you kind of like this guy before? Which one isn't sure how much he likes you....the one you're with or the one you used to like?

Because that's obviously the best choice...they can't get you there.

The guy who told me that today isn't sure how much he likes me. I'm pretty sure the guy im with likes me a lot.

BMAC!!!! That's awesome.



It actually sounds like you're already with the right guy.

I think so too.

And the other guy isn't ignoring me which is good because he's one of my best friends. Things are sort of working out now?

That was many, many moons ago.



Hottest...it's good that things are sort of working out now! I'm glad for you.

Bmac what type of spell are you putting on these guys?

More details, please? How did this resolve itself?

Sounds like something I'd do.

Sounds like an experience from my teen years... I had two girls competing for me, but they agreed to call it a tie so there would be no loser. Well, except for me. But I can look back on it and smile now: the Statute of Limitations has expired.

Well, this was 30 years ago, but I'll try to remember!

The boy on the phone was one I had a huge crush on. My roommate gave him our phone number and encouraged him to call me. He called on a night when I had a date with someone else..the guy on the way over. The guy at the door had a crush on me, and he was slipping a note under my door to tell me.
The guy on the phone never asked me out. I went out once with the guy who slipped the note under my door, but I didn't really like him. (He would be considered a stalker in this day and age.) The one on the way over was the one I dated for a while. He took me to an Andres Segovia concert at the University of Michigan. I remember that concert. I think he actually ran into stalker guy in the hallway.

Oh well, I didn't end up with any of them.

^^^ That is a great story!!

Awesome story BMaC!!!

I bet all 3 of those are posting similar versions of the story over at goodonesthatgotaway.com (no that's not a real site )

I woke up feeling strange not having my cell going off. No contact of any kind and tomorrow I might go stay at friends so the brit is still on his own. I can't leave town per say, cause I've blown all my money really on shopping The annoying guy friend who IM's me wants me to go to a movie with his son and himself. Despite my current situation, I don't feel too comfortable with this. I'm going to decline nicely.

Not nice to be popular?

Mr TV actor never called me or made an effort to contact me since Saturday. Well, he did write on my wall on facebook but it sorta doesn't count as I wrote to him first & he all he said was "glad ya had a blast on Saturday" . Even if he does like me still I'm not gonna wait around. I've already arranged to make a date with my guy friend. We'll probably end up going ice skating or he'll help me get my new phone & we'll grab coffee at Starbucks. Anyway, life is too short to wait for a guy to act so I'm just gonna happily take what I have now. Besides, I feel more comfortable with my guy friend & he allows me to joke & be myself. And honestly, I've been finding him more physically attractive lately. Hmm...

Good decision, liz. Others might jump at the chance to go out with someone...anyone at a time like this.

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

I declined the movie offer. I said, I can't go to a movie with you and your son. I'm just not good company. He said it was okay and perhaps another time. I didn't want to say to him I won't be going at all ever. Feels like he was trying to score a safe date by having his son as the primary reason to go.
I've been sticking firm to my guns. I added a ring back tone to my phone so when he did ring it, I got a text message 'what the he11 is that?' I didn't answer. maybe he thinks he got the wrong number. I know he won't be looking for me tonight since it's a school night so no trying to hunt me down but the text messages are adding up

Good for you, Liz!! Let him see how it feels!

I've gotten a message from the brit early this morning, Call me. I haven't. I have things to do and I'm cold and I'm not going round and round with him yet.

Until he gets my side of things I'm MIA

No offense, Liz, but what does this accomplish?

So how are us single ladies (and gents) going to get through the holidays this year? This is the most depressing time of year for me!