D gives such good advice. After the email that you sent, don't respond to him ever again. He sees any attention from you as a positive sign.


Well, there's always calling the cops. If he continues to contact you, he could be considered a stalker.

Why are your friends so worried about this, if there was no relationship? Is he talking to them behind your back?

I will only say this much, it's nice to have someone around cause tomorrow I want cuddling. I'm in pain

Mutual friends were the ones to set us up and I didn't tell him I didn't want to see him anymore until after vacation had started so they went the entire break thinking things were moving along and it's probably more surprise than anything right now. I do feel bad that they went to all that trouble but hey, it just wasn't going to work.

^^^Ya, but you really shouldn't feel bad. They had good intentions and were trying to be nice in putting you two together, but it didn't work out, and that is no one fault. I totally understand how you could feel bad, even if you know you shouldn't, for I am like that too, but you shouldn't. I really hope this passes smoothly for you !

I don't think I will be getting any cuddling if nick is sick.

I'm still trying my best to get my friend out on the scene to find a man. She's just way too shy and I keep nudging her. She's never had a serious relationship and she's my age. Her reasoning is fear of rejection. I guess in her mind she'll meet a guy and that guy will be it and he won't brake her heart. She needs to take the rose colored glasses off and just meet a man

liz, I hope your friend gets a little braver. Did she ever have her heart broken before?


Lenny, there's no reason to feel bad about it! So you didn't click, it's not your fault!

yeah she did. Even though she was never offically in a exculsive with this guy he kinda just let her know by ignoring her then he told he was seeing someone else

^^ That's not very nice of him. But you should tell her she shouldn't judge her opinion of what guys will do or how relationships will turn out on that one guy and circumstance. She should really move on so that she can find a real relationship, and hopefully love!

I hope she will. It's hard to get her to mingle. She's even more shy than I am. And her clock is ticking because she's got getting married and having a family on the brain.

Okay, advice time. How do you respond to an email to someone who's openly had a crush on you before? This guy, after a semester of no talking and me letting him down, emails me again asking how I am, etc. Now I know maybe I'm being cynical and harsh...but I kinda just don't want to reply to the email, but I know it will be rude if I don't...and what if I run into him on campus?

Reply but keep it short and sweet, and don't ask any questions if you don't want him to respond back.

Do you really expect Snogs to take advice from the girl who's having her own issues with a clingy dude?

That's good advice Lenny!

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Ok, I feel a little silly cause this guy--who is cute and I kinda very slightly flirted with (slightly I swear!)--said "hi, how are you?" to me tonight (he has a dance class right after mine) in french and I said "hi, how are you?" back but I used 'vous'--the formal polite 'you' that you should say to strangers and people how have more seniority then yourself--and not 'tu'--the casual 'you'. it's just cause I've been indoctrinated to be polite and say 'vous' and I end up saying it to everyone, and I just realized when I was saying it! And last friday this guy said hi to me and gave me a peck on the cheek (the french way, which people do here often between friends and family and stuff) which kinda made me go-> . Anyways, I tried to recoup by waving bye with a friendly smile, I hope he ain't insulted or anything, I can't help it I'm more of an anglophone !

I think the message has finally been received successfully.

So my friends and I have been reading Dark Sign Zodiac and I went online and was looking up best matches and stuff and everything, all of my past/current relationship issues are so clear now and make so much sense. The clingy boy is a Leo. One website said that a relationship between a Leo and a Virgo (me) has a life shorter than that of a May fly. Um, yeah.

The guy I have a massive crush/have been in love with for years is a Gemini. Gemini and Virgo have a strong attraction and great communication but rarely get the timing and logistics of a relationship right.

The second guy in that love triangle is a Capricorn, a fantastic match for Virgo. He's the one I've known my whole life, get along with great, etc. but have always been more attracted to the Gemini.

Of course the three of us, Gemini, Capricorn, and Virgo, were great friends and none of us have ever really come out and said how we feel about the other(s) in the triangle so nothing ever really came of any of it.

Yet. We're neighbors back home and going to school in different areas has kind of put anything here on hold.

I'm sorry if this is boring but I feel like I've just been to a therapy session.

^^^That's really cool and interesting! I believe in that kinda stuff--zodiac signs, tarot, palm reading, etc.--and that really rings true. I hope something does culminate between one of them, and hopefully flourishes!

snog if you don't want to answer you don't have to. Why fame a relationship if you dont want to. Girls don't always have to be nice. Take it from me, who has a annoying male friend who still doesn't get the picture.

Brit is super grumpy. Enough said

You know I was just teasing.

Best of luck with your Gemini.

Exactly! Before I would always be nice to guys, even if I didn't have any romantic interest in them. Now I really only give special attention to guys that I'm attracted too. There are some guys out there who thinking that even saying a friendly hello counts as interest & flirting. They don't grasp the concept that you're just being nice. I've come to the point where I had to say that I was dating someone (sometimes I wouldn't) & they'd still pester me. Basically, do what you have to do to get him to leave him alone, even if it involves being rude & ignoring him. It's better to be called a b!tch or jerk than it is to be harrassed. I personally don't mind being called a b!tch anymore . Sometimes a guy thinks that headstrong, independent girl who knows what she wants is the five letter word & there's nothing wrong with that. If that doesn't satisfy them, than let them go find another girl to chase after. Less work for me anyways to not have to deal with them .

^^^ Yeah, I'm the exact same way with broads. I'm all like, "You look nothing like Angelina Jolie. Why are you even bothering to talk to me? You should send your friend over here."

Who didn't talk to whom? Was it mutual, was he annoyed with you or were you annoyed with him?

Nobody says you have to respond to him, you didn't ask him to email you. It's not really that rude. I would question his motives in emailing you - does he want you, or is he ready to be friends?

You sound like you want closure though, so if you must, just respond by saying, "I am doing great, thanks." Period. Don't ask him anything. There, you answered him, you weren't rude and you didn't invite another conversation with him.

Personally, I think any answer you give him will be an invitation to more conversation. So just think about what you want from him before you respond.





Exactly.


Exactly.

I'm a Virgo...so who does that mean I'm compatible with?

Also, should that type be in my screening process?

I know. I'm just so relieved that it's over... again. I'm keeping my fingers crossed though.


Based on my research, we Virgos are most compatible with Capricorns and Taruses. Scorpios make great friends. We don't really mesh with Leos much at all (which also explains why my brother and I tend to not get along so great).

It's all really interesting. I have always been pretty typical Virgo but when I was reading the different analyses of compatibility my jaw kept dropping because it was all so true (at least for my situation). I'm not going to let it deter me from pursuing my Gemini, but it's given me some insight into the areas he and I will need to work on if/when we get together (*fingers crossed for when*).

Aww. We can be great friends.

There has to be a better way.

Um, Tom's a Virgo and I'm a Gemini and it seems to be working pretty well. Our five year anniversary is in March, so I guess we're okay probably 85% of the time! It was 97% of the time when it was just he and I, though!

You have given me amazingly great advice and you do a good job of keeping me sane (especially with that Leo situation). You do remind me a lot of my roommate who is also a Scorpio.


Thank you for giving me hope for the future of the Gemini I have my eye on and me.

Lenny--do you know about Pisces? What are we compatible and not compatible with?

Yeah I'm dying to know now about cancers, who are we compatible with?

All I did really was use Google and I can't find the one I liked best but here's another good site.
http://www.astrologycom.com/astromatch/

If I find the one that was really accurate, I'll post it.

thanks lenny...I've saved it!

Ooo, thanks Lenny, I saved it too !

That is so cool! Thanks for sharing! I really like that kind of stuff, like tarot, etc. It's so interesting and frighteningly accurate sometimes! (Here are Tarot meanings if you want to check it out!)

I hope it works out with your Gemini! Sometimes these things can be a little inaccurate!

Great link, Lenny!

I'm a Gemini and the bf is a Scorpio..."not an easy match" apparently.

I'm glad that everyone's enjoying it. It's one of those things where it can be shockingly accurate and it isn't concrete that things will or won't work out, but it can give you an idea of where problems might arise before they happen. At the moment, there's still nothing going on with the Gemini. I'm hoping I see him sometime over the summer break though.

Can you call, text or email him Lenny? I hope you get to see him before summer break!

^^^Ya, it's like the Tarot, if you do it right, it's usually creepily accurate! I did a reading for my mom and she asked a question about her job and all three card (in the three card spread) were pentacles--which have to do with career among other things.

I hope you get to see the Gemini more! You should try to contact him and get together, don't be like Pam and wait for things to come to you, you must be the one to move things, especially if you really like/love him !

I read those things once in a while, usually Yahoo! Horoscopes, when I have a particular person on my mind or whatever. I've noticed one thing with Scorpio matches... They almost always mention things like "extremely passionate", "fireworks" or "rollercoaster". Apparently, we can be pretty difficult people to deal with, but when it's right, it's very, very right. Very right. Very.

And if it's bunk, it's still fun to read about bunk once in a while.

I shouldn't mention this because it always blows up in my face, but... I have a lead. No, it's not my boss.

I vote bunk, and yes.


*crosses fingers*

Killjoy

Not easily. I haven't talked to him in quite a while, he has been my neighbor for years, and he's going to school in Oregon but I'm back home in Mass. I finally caved and got IM and am sending out feelers for his screen name so I can get in touch with him. I don't think I'll see him before break unless our spring breaks are the same week and he comes home (unlikely). But, his younger sister (who was a friend of mine but not especially close) is graduating from high school this spring and we might get invited to the party (they were all invited to my brothers, etc; our families are kind of close, more the parents because of the whole school situation and stuff but, yeah). I have a plan; it will take a while, but there is a plan as long as the fates don't intervene. We'll see and I'll keep you updated (if anything does happen, know you guys will be the first to know).

I read mine and nicks and we don't mesh. I would say right now thats true

YOu have a lead diapers..sounds like a detective. Good luck on your lead.

Rrrrreally?

my friends ex boss and now friend has made a advance on her. we spent 2 hrs on the phone talking about this. he's married and 21 yrs old than her. And I told her, if you don't want to have that type of relationship then say no. Sadly she believes she has to be "nice" cause it would be rude to not be polite when handling this matter. I told her knock that idea out your head! just cause your a woman you don't have to be nice. You keep being nice he'll think you are interested. I don't know if many other of you ladies will think the same as me on that

Nice?!?! Wow.

Spot-on advice liz.

didn't think I had it in me mixed?

I get more and more frustrated with her on this when I think about it. She told me he doesn't want to divorce cauase of kids and money issues. Okay so that right there means it's just a sexual encounter he's looking for and apparently this isn't his first flirtation with a woman other than his wife and my friend. She said he's never taken it further but he would like to with her. My head wanted to burst like a gernade when she told me that.

I would suggest telling him off, telling his wife or telling a lawyer; That or blackmail. It seems to work in the movies.

yeah diapers I can see my friend doing this. She's too shy and timid and would think it would be morally wrong. she's not very adventerous

That is NOT what I meant.

Brains are exploding everywhere.

I'm only teasing you mixed. I knew what you meant.

She left my brain totally fried after our call. The things she told me. Oh, I just wanted to shake her

I hope your plan works out! And I really hope that you can see him sooner than the summer! Good luck!

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liz, that is the perfect advice! I hope you'll knock some sense into her!
And I find a cold shoulder works very well, without being overly rude.