Is this the brother you fight with?

Way past time for an update on this.

What's happened since ...

"Paren" and I talked a couple times over the phone in the six weeks after she's left for overseas. Nothing deep, just how she was doing at school and whatnot. Her mom once invited me to dinner, and since I was hungry (and being a bachelor who rarely cooks), I accepted. So I was really kinda up in the air about where I stood with her.

Until a week ago. Got into a conversation with her and mid-way through I just bluntly asked her if she was still mad about anything. That, my friends, is a classic example of opening a can of worms. Apparently she was. Paren was angry at me for disagreeing with her in her fights with her family. She dislikes my "new attitude" and blamed the change in me due to "Kam" being around. This infuriated me and the conversation quickly went downhill. Badly. And she broke off the conversation.

After that, I have no more questions about her. Someone like that is not someone I want to be around. It's over and done with. Six years of turbulent friendship, finished. Won't be accepting any more invites to her mom's house for dinner. Washed my hands of this whole affair.

In hindsight, this really wasn't a healthy relationship. My friends had described it as a "toxic comfort zone", something that feels comfortable but is really confining. I didn't listen back then, but now I see what they were talking about. Live and learn, eh?

Anyway, as for me and "Kam", things have been progressing since New Year's. No problems physically. Plenty of chemistry there. And our conversations are really deep (and the equivalent of mental gymnastics). But it definitely seems to be a friends with benefits deal. There may be the option for more down the road, but there's no sense of exclusivity or possessiveness. This situation is the exact opposite of the Paren deal: with Kam, there's plenty of heat but not enough closeness, whereas with Paren there was plenty of closeness but not enough heat. Neither situation is good long-term, but I think Kam is the perfect antidote to Paren.

Problem is, you can't survive on antidote alone for very long ... sooner or later, that antidote has to become real food.

Tim! You've really got things figured out. Good for you. Thanks for the update, I always like to hear the next chapter. And I hope that real feast is just around the corner.

He asked me out tonight!

Squee!!!

Good luck, Sharpie!

Thanks for the update, Tim. I'm glad you recognize things for what they are. Your friends sound pretty wise as well.


What are his prospects? What are his intentions? Do we get to meet him before you go out? Where are you going? When? What time will you be home?

Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

Did you say yes? When do we get to meet him?

Perfect advice.



Of course I said yes! I'm getting my wisdom teeth extracted this weekend and I told him we can do whatever sometime after next weekend.

He's so cute! (At least I think so!)

I'm in the process of recruiting him to the Office...he's open...so it's gonna happen.

*Niiiiiiice*

nice sharp!

a possible boyfriend and flan in the making. You've struck gold!

That's swell Sharpie!

That's great, Sharpie! Looking forward to hearing more about him.

That's awesome Sharpie!

So the guy I mentioned liking a week or two back is making me very confused. Up until sunday-ish, everything was going good. He was calling/texting me, and I hardly had to do a thing which was nice. But then he kind of stopped "taking the reigns", so to speak. So I've been texting him but I really hate being the one to contact him. Gaahhh I wish he'd just text me!

That kinda sucks mambo. Maybe he's just busy this week? I hope he texts you!

Aw, that sucks! Does he still seem to like you? Hope things get better! Try not to fret too much!

I don't think anything big or grand will be happening tomorrow. Maybe later this week we will do something.

All I know is I went over board with stuff an if he pulls another "roy" this year. I'm asking cupid to aim his arrow lower

Spent Valentine's Day with "Kam". Went out to dinner and then hung out at her place. Totally worth it I'm not sure, but I may not be single anymore . Afraid to talk about that directly with her for fear of ruining things as they are or weirding her out. So technically, it's still a friends with benefits affair, but we seem to moving in some kind of more exclusive direction. Guess I'll just play it by ear.

That's probably wise, Tim_Halpert. Ideally one day soon you both will realize you're a couple, and it won't require a discussion - but you'll be able to have one without fear of ruining it.

Good luck

YAY sharpie! so excited for you! can not wait to hear more!!

I'm losing the brit to a new friend. He's this younger kid. I say kid cause he's 20 or 21 he's just starting a new job next week and he's a friend of a friend of nicks. Nick tells me he see's himself in him a lot. should I worry about him having a mid life crisis?They hang out a lot now. Do guys get man crushes? I swear he's got a non sexual man crush

When he starts going out with him to bars and clubs instead of with you, then you worry.

The brit already has one kid. He doesn't need another one - he needs to grow up.

He does go to the bar with friends, but he used to own his own little pub and that's just normal to him and I'm used that. But if it's club he ends up at then I'll go hulk style on him.

Veebs, you've heard all my vents about how he raises ms.thang, he doesn't have a child, he has a friend

He told me today, the first time someone mistakes him as my dad then he's going to be depressed cause he doesnt want to look like one of those types of guys. Hello, I'm going to be 30 in less than 6 months, there is no way I look like I could be his daugther.

Today he was in a mood about something and I stayed quiet cause it's best to just let him get mad while he's fixing something. he said talk. I said I'm waiting for you to finish and then you can walk away from it and you and I can talk. He said I have nothing to say and if I don't have anything to say then I'm going to just go. WTH!? He said he was sorry, but rather than cry in front of him again, I let him go.

im kinda single

Liz, WHAT is going on with him?

Uncle Jerry, you wish you were single. I don't even know ha ha ha.

I have like 8 bf's.. Ha ha ha ha.

I have no idea. Maybe it's just gone stale after 3 yrs. None of our plans recently have gone wrong. He's told me that wishes we would have been married by now and stuff so I don't know if thats part of it. I just don't understand how to deal with him. cause he doesn't open up so much

C'mon, U_J, it's kinda like being pregnant - you either are or you aren't.

Aren't you like 50 years old or something?

Things are kind of sounding weird lately liz. He seems more withdrawn than you usually describe him, kind of depressed. Is that anywhere close to what you're seeing?

I think I just peed my pants.

I'll get Diapers.

Thanks!

Goofballs.

yeah mixed he's gone very with drawn. I've tried to get him to talk but he doesn't. All I can think of now is to ask those well questions. You know, well do you want to take a break? Well do you think you need to see a therapist? well do you think your not in love with me anymore.

oh veebs you crack me up.

funny how diapers seems to sense when his name is being said.

Some guy on myspace sent me a message. And his pic is I swear to god his butt in those tight white boxers that look like lyrca bike shorts. He wanted me to send him pics and my number. I don't know this guy, but I sent a message back. I said that pic of you is a great axel rose tribute and if you had gone past my picture you would know I have a boyfriend(fiancee) duh. what weirdos

Ewwwww liz. . . .

yeah after that no more messages from said weirdo. I don't have werido friends expect for all you guys here

But at least it's weirdness you know.

yes the wierdness here just leaves me happy and all warm and fuzzy

Liz, couples counseling is not a bad idea. I woudl do it if I had a second to breathe.

Today would have been the 17 year anniversary of me and my ex getting together. Do not ask me why I keep thinking about it, because I can't tell you. Maybe becuase everything is all messed up and all. And that relationship was all messed up, too. So I guess I'm just thinking that the messed up stuff started 17 years ago!

It's okay to let things pop in your head like that wedd.

I wouldn't mind seeing a therapist with him. I don't think he will right now. He thinks I over react to everything. I will say 75 % of the time I do. You can't keep saying though we're fine, when one or both dont feel fine.

I called him first thing to ask him those well questions. I know a lot to spring on him right off, but he just kinda laughed and said lizzy you know your crazy cause I don't think those things at all, we are great. Your a nutter but I'm nutter too because I do love you. I'm so screwed up that I'm still not sure how to take that As soon as I hung up and got in the shower, I thought was he just humoring me so I wouldn't get upset? Lordy, someone just slap me

lmao im 13

the girl in my sig is kind of my GF...

Last night I went dancing and worked, like I do every friday. Anyways, my sister and I are getting hit on a bit!
This guy when I first arrived just like grabbed me for a dance! It was lots of fun, he was a good dancer. Then later, just when I was about to start my shift, I was sort of looking for someone good to dance with before I went to work, and then he says "your looking for me right?", so I danced with him again!

Oh, and another funny story, this guy from my lesson was talking to me last week, and then he asked me were I went to school and I told him I was in high school, and then he told me where he went and slowly backed away!

Because despite Tom's nutty family, you are thanking your lucky stars you're with him and not your ex.


13? No girlfriends til you're ready to get married.

how come!?

I talked things out with nick, all the crazy thoughts in my head and he said see, we're fine it's just you thats not. I said your awful to me and he said that's why you love me. he's sorta right. He did get mad at me and asked me why in the he11 I would ask him if he thought I was good enough for him. he's just far more accomplised in his life than I am and I wonder ya know. He thinks we should have a engagement party and that would cheer me up and make things feel more final. I wouldn't mind actually since we've not had one, but partys make me nervous.

I think you are too good for him lizzy.

You need to focus on school. Once you get out of college and get a great job, then you can have a girlfriend, settle down, get married...

Luck be a man tomorrow afternoon. I changed the words. I'm finally talking to that guy. So. What should I wear?

Liz, no offense, but don't waste your time planning an engagement party. You should be planning a wedding--haven't you been engaged for a while? That idea seems like a stall tactic, I'm sorry to say.

I'm not trying to be mean, but he is getting on my nerves.

veebs and wedd I think you gals are so great. *hugs*

yes we have been for awhile. We just didn't do a party and we basically planned out what we wanted for the wedding and between his foot being broken then and ms.thang it would have happened. maybe hes just trying to cheer me up some.

I am a awesome girlfriend but I am the most insecure one. Is it mean to say that if ms.thang wasn't in his full custody that our relationship would be on track. Things were so much smoother then.