lol my grades have been slipping

Ooo, well what do you have? Fashion show at lunch, fashion show at lunch, fashion show at lunch !

shouldn't be hearing about sharpies date with the guy from the gym soon?

JAM, wear something springy, flowery and girly, kinda like your signature.

lizzy, we think you are awesome!! That's why we don't like you being treated this way.

And actually Wedd is in a similar situation with Jay, the way you are with Ms.Thang. Relationships have bumps, some bigger than others. Ms. Thang is not going away - she will always be his daughter. The two of you need to come to some kind of agreement of how you are going to parent her together. And he is either going to marry you or he's not. But either way, the two of you need to find an effective way to communicate and reach decisions together, and not by cuddling either.

You are a wonderful person, and if you don't think you are, you need someone in your life who is going to tell you that, including yourself.

Yeah, where is that Sharpie? Is she still staying at the cat lady's house?

^^ that was as sweet as sugar veebs. I never knew things could get this bumpy. It's not as bad as when we did break up once before but when you throw a child in the mix everything gets turned upside down.

I know sharp is MIA

Mr. Security Guard? Maybe the date hasn't ended yet. (Hey, get your mind out of the gutter. . . )


Even when it's your own child that will happen. Kids change everything, (except the thing that brought you together in the first place. )

'Kay, here's what I got. Red plaid tank with bow around the top, with a brown cardigan over it. Brown flats, and light wash skinny jeans. But idk what to do for makeup!!!!


Read my above reply. Does that sound springy?

this week is one of those week where I am feeling loney....sigh.. it will pass

yeah where is Sharp?

oh cr@p, what brought us together...we picked on each other, and then it was just a need to always be around each other, the attraction was intense. now, well you've read the posts..it's up and down.

Sharpie is and her muscle man. Maybe he's still flexing for her.

try not to feel lonely pam. I know it's not easy, but I've got rice krispie treats.

Hey guys!!!!!!! I'm sooooooooo sorry I went MIA! Since we had an ice storm down here, our cable line got ripped from the house and was hanging down on our lawn for a week, when I came home from housesitting that woman's house we were without cable/internet/and phone...we just got it back today!

And we haven't gone out yet because I got my wisdom teeth out on Friday (all four) I wish I could have been here with you all telling my funny stories when I was high, but it is what it is.

So anyway...I told him I was getting my wisdom teeth out and would be unavailable this past weekend. So I see him tomorrow and will let you all know what's going down.

^^ awesome. we're all curious

my phone line is a no fly zone. it's a rude brit free night

Nice! You're young and cute, what do you need makeup for??? All you need is a Bonnie Belle Lipsmacker.


Well, la dee dah, I have PopTarts.

ooohhh what flavor of pop tarts?

Strawberry, no frosting.

Home-made Rice Krispie treats? The store bought ones are lousy.

Yeah I probably won't be wearing any.

So the girl I've been seeing ("Kam") stopped by this weekend. We went to a Cold Stone Creamery and then went to go watch NO COUNTRY FOR OLD MEN. It was a nice date, but I could tell something was not quite right. Nothing major, just a teensy bit off-kilter in the vibe department. Still, I knew something was bothering her. So anyway, after the movie, we went back to my place to discuss the movie (ostensibly). Midway through that conversation, I took something she said about the movie and abruptly made it about something more personal. Next three hours flew by in deep conversation. We talked about ... a lot. Even the status of our relationship. I told her that even if this was a friends with benefits deal, I didn't want to focus just on the benefits and lose sight of the friendship part. She visibly relaxed when I said that. That's what was bothering her the whole night. She looked at me differently after that point. Like I cracked some of her emotional armor. And then, um, chemistry continued to NOT be a problem

I think we're shifting over from a FWB stand-point to an actual full-on dating phase. Still a ways from the official bf/gf stage yet, but no rush to get there.

Alright Tim!!! It sounds like you're pretty in tune with her, and she must have been reassured by your talk, I'm sure she trusts you all the more for it.

Aww, this is so sweet!

PS--I married my FWB.

Oh dear... that sounds so not that fun! glad you are okay!

despite my errand running all day, I had a brit free night and today, this afternoon he was actually very nice and really aware of being more polite of my feelings about his phone. We talked, just sat together. He teased me a bit but it was only in fun and it was nice to have that back. He was really good today. His doing his dad duties tonight, ms. thang is having cramps too so he's got to pmsing women and he feels like he's being ambused

^^ Poor him! That's like my dad, surrounded by women!
I'm glad you had a good time with him!



That's great! I'm so happy for you!

Still, it would be nice to have that old feeling of what it was like when we first started dating. I miss that. Now we're just 2 people used to each other. Tim's situation with his new possible GF makes me long for those days again

Even though I'm trying to be all patient and "chill", I kind of wish he'd just text me...its been a few days.

LOL liz, is that ambushed + abused = ambused.

^^ that was a pure accident. I hadn't noticed I left out a letter. but how awesome now. I've made up a word
But looking at it now, it looks pretty cool

Sounds like the talk was productive, Tim.

Stay cool, mambo.

Liz, that is awesome!

I'm such a dork I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to snag me a hunk

Alright, here's the latest on the security guard....


He has a kid.


This is a HUUUUUUUUUUUUGE problem for me. I know I sound selfish and possibly even judgemental but I just don't want to date anyone with kid. There are a plethora of reasons for this and I'm sure Liz can share her insight, but I just don't want to deal with it.

He still hasn't called me, but my friend talked to him ( ) and he said he was giving me time to recover from my surgery but would call in a couple days.

Now I'm in a dilemma because I don't want to like him! I'm already semi-turned off for several other reasons besides the kid and I don't know how to handle this situation.

I don't want to play games, so I don't want to go out with him and have him think I like him. IDK. I don't think I'm making sense. What should I do?

Then don't, because it will only make things worse on everyone. If you are already having doubts about it, even before you found out he had a child, then don't go any further. I'm not sure what you can say to him to let him down easy, but I wouldn't do it.

That's just my opinion.

I have a brother who was single with three daughters, and I always wished for him to find a nice woman, etc. . . . .
After watching everything they've been through, I go back to my very first belief, that if a kid is not something you want in a boyfriend, then say so up front and move on. It's nothing personal about the guy, but kids change everything. Parents just don't have the same freedom to commit and give their time and attention. There's nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship to start that way Sharpie, he'll meet someone nice who has different feelings about it. To each its own.

sharpie if you are having second thoughts then go with your gut. Just tell him the truth that you are not ready to date a person with a kid... breaking it off now is much better in the long run for you, him, and the kid.

Sharpie, you have every right to feel the way you do. If it helps, I couldn't date a guy with a kid either. Maybe that'll change once I become older but as for now, all I want in a relationship is the guy & only the guy.

The sooner you tell him, the better off you'll feel. Now that you have a grasp on your feelings, I imagine any moment is the right moment. The best approach to be honest. You don't need to lie for the sake of pleasing him. Either way, when it comes to a relationship *both* people involved need to be happy & if that's not the case, it's time to move on.

Good luck dealing with all this .

Being single is fun.

Sharpie, let me tell you one thing. I love my brit. I love love nick despite it all and even though we've broke up once before nad got back together and we really worked and are working to make it work. Things were so great at first, the privacy the ablity to do whatever and when ever I, let me repeat I urged nick to get his daugther back. I even told him to ask the court for his ex to submit a drug test, which she refused and ended up that's when she knew she wasn't getting another penny outta him and gave up her rights as sole parent to him. At first it was fine, they were getting to know each other again since she hadn't really seen him over the last 5 yrs. Then the drama, of daddy don't leave me daddy take me here and there and spend all your money on me when Nick and I tried to do our things. It's gotten alittle better but not much. I hate to say it but I sometimes wish she wasn't around as much so he and I could just be together. I know she does it cause she'll lose attention and all that I like lizzy if you like lizzy stuff is over. But I love him. And I want a future with him and I try very hard everyday to make things work cause it's not a 2 two relationship, there are 3 people in it. And what he and I do affect his daugther. So sharpie, if your not worried about him or you getting hurt see him, if you really like him and see a future, work on it, if you just are crushing and are more lusting over him than anything, walk away by telling him nicely you don't think you can do that.

Thanks guys.

I'll just tell him no, cause I really don't want to get involved. Oh...and I found out he's actually in the middle of a divorce and he has 2 kids.

........so that's an ex and two children....nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

run screaming sharp run

Run away, . . . run away!! I wish the guy well Sharpie, but his life sounds pretty complicated right now.

Here, sharpie....we'll all hold the door open for you. Run and don't look back!

It doesn't have to be anything personal about him. He's just not for you! He'll find someone who is looking for just that kind of situation.

so yesterday i decided that i have a gf

so ilm is now your gf? or did you get one at school

Single for the last couple of months my ex girlfriend was good but meh the sparks ran out so we decided to be friends but I still get kinda jealous when I see her with other boys but their is this pretty girl who sits next to me in my peace studies class and we talk a lot she already gave me her phone number to call her and for texting now the hard part is asking her out

Lol i decided ILM was officially my GF...well Paxy kinda decided

o ahhh and I am such a wimp man I hate asking girls out so nervous

Sharpie's Awkward Conversation 'O the Day:



On my way out of work tonight (I have to pass the security guard on my way in and out...it's unavoidable)


Hot security guard: "You going home"?
Sharpie: "Yeah, I'm gonna skip the gym."
Hot security guard:" Hey are you doing anything this weekend?"
Sharpie:"No...not really."
Hot security guard:"You want to go do something with me?"
Sharpie:" *intake of breath through teeth.. ummmmmmmm.......well......uh....(*walks over to security guard) You have 2 kids, right?
Hot security guard: (*face drops and disappointed face is evident) "Yeah."
Sharpie: "And you're going through a divorce?"
Hot secuity guard: "Yeah."
Sharpie: "Yeah, um...well that's kinda a problem for me. I mean...you're really cool and all, but typically when I date people I want to make sure that whatever relationship develops could eventually lead to something and I just don't see that happening. I basically just don't want to waste anybody's time. Does that make sense?
Hot security guard:"Yeah, I understand."
Sharpie: "I mean if you want to hang out as friends and all that's cool, I'm totally up for that, but just that.
HSG: "Cool."
Sharpie: "Gosh, I feel like a bitch."
Hot security guard: *laughs "No, it's cool. I understand."
Sharpie: "Will you still be my accountability partner in not letting me out of here until I go to the gym?"
HSG: *laughs "Yeah."


That's basically it. Thanks for being with me guys.

^^^Aww, Sharpie, you did the right thing.

atleast it went smooth. Glad you told him though

Awww Sharpie, you did great. That must have been a hard conversation to have. I hope you guys can continue to talk and be friends.

You did good, Sharpie

Very classy, no game playing, and you've probably made a friend.

Dating is tough, cause the pool seems to be shrinking in the sense that you might have to put up with more. Kids, ex spouses.

The brit has been overly attentive, which is what I have been asking for outta him. I'm not sure how long this will last. The marriage talk has been happening again, so maybe we can actually get this ball rolling.

Yeah, it wasn't too awkward tonight. (a day later) I was just my normal bubbly self engaging him in (albeit short) conversation. He responded well. Everything seems to be ok.



That is a high compliment. That's everything I always aim to be...classy and never playing games. Life's too short. I mean...who says exactly what they're thinking? What kind of game is that?