Good advice, PiP. And yeah, that'll change once you get older. I'm now looking at guys with grandkids.


You are too funny. Get back to those books and study, sonny!


Every guy in the world is, silly. And if a guy says he's not nervous, he's lying. Just go for it!

Wait - how old are you? If you're under 22, focus on school, not girls.


Exactly. True love waits.

and waits...


and waits...


and waits...

Thanks hon. I too think it'll change once I enter the stage of having children. For now, I'm still a kid myself (mentally & apprently to some people, physically) & I couldn't handle the challenge of loving a man & his kids, especially if the kid(s) is a teen. I'd probably act more like the big sister .

Sharpie, I agree with you. The only kinda games I play are on the soccer field & on my brother's XBOX 360 when he's not around (guitar hero anyone) . But lame jokes aside, I think playing games are for those who aren't 100% sure of how they're feeling. Otherwise, what's the point unless you want to lose that person to someone else. Anywhoo, a while ago on a date I was totally myself & the guy didn't know what to make of me . Finally I messaged him & than he began talking to me. I dunno, maybe it was the whole generic "I had a good time" that through him off but yep, once I confessed that I enjoyed being with him he started talking to me again. Like the flirting & eye contact didn't give it away? Thankfully he was the exception. But when it comes to guys, I'm straight up, always being myself 100% of the time so there are no confusions. I just hope the guy is the same.

I am a 'what you see is what you get' kind of gal. I've never played games. Well, board games, yeah. But not relationship games.

I'm tired of being honest. I'd rather be aloof for awhile. Honesty only seems to get things to change for a couple of days then it goes back. Maybe he'd find me interesting again if I was alittle secretive and stuff. I love him and all but lordy I get why people freak out when they think I'm going to be with this person for the rest of my life.

I personally HATE playing games, and people playing games with me when it comes to dating/relationships. I guess I'm a "what you see is what you get" kind of girl too. I just don't see the point in playing around...If I'm interested in you, I'm interested. If you're interested too, lets date. That's that. What's more to consider? But if I've been in a relationship for awhile, games are just not tolerable. My boyfriend does the whole "testing" me thing, and I catch him on it everytime, and call him out for it. Just don't!! If you want to know something, just ask me!! I don't find people more interesting when they play games or try to be "mysterious". It just aggrivates me and makes me leave them alone.

My exboyfriend in HS (I didn't want to break up with him, but I had to due to certain circumstances....and it took me a year and a half to get over him) just broke up with his girlfriend he has had since he and I broke up. (That means they were going together for 4 years.)

IDK why this makes me happy...but it does.

Is this the guy from the wedding, or was that someone else?

I dont like being single but I have a feeling this is the way its going to be (despite recent thoughts that it could change).

Grr.

It would make me happy too sharp. Sometimes you don't want to be happy but you are.

I tried to be aloof today and he took it for me trying to be cute with him. *throws hands up in the air* I give up. I'll just act normal

That was someone else. There's been a couple significant men in my life. A. My ex from high school that I still see all the time B. The boy from the wedding that I am friends with and never see because he lives 2 hours away (Oh...and we never went out, but I can't seem to get over him. and then C. Someone you all know and love (or love to hate)

Wow, only 3 letters in the Sharpie alphabet?

^^Be proud, Sharpie!!! I only have 2.

Have you got in touch with him or he got in touch with you the HS ex sharp?

Haha! Only 3 that matter.




Well...technically I only have 2 as well...I've never dated the guy I'm still semi in love with. That's not including the dates I've been on. Cause typically I only have one with a guy before I figure out that he's not good enough for me .




Well, we see each other all the time...but I "reached out" to him. We are going to have a heart-to-heart soon. Heh heh.

I dropped my internet dating service.

$18 a month, and the most interesting profile I saw was my brother's

I just shared this with Holdthechicken, and he said, "are you making this up?"

I'm thinking maybe the $18 would be better spent on professional help. I clearly have some issues.

I'm not talking about dated, I'm talking about men who are in your heart. So you have 3.


HoldTheChicken needs to get out more. Or get on the internet more.

Trust me sammy, I've been out there, I've seen what's out there, and you are not the one with issues. Invest that money, then take a big trip when you retire. Like to Scranton.

Why is it that I pic you sharp with this devilish grin when you say your going to have a heart to heart talk with this guy. Oh, sharp you make me laugh.

Well atleast the dating service didn't match you and your brother together sammy.

My friend made me laugh when she was talking about a certain guy and said "I'm going to get up on that" I told her when did you start saying that? A, you are not 16 B, you are not ghetto and finally C, you can't even talk to him about how you like him.
She just makes me laugh sometimes.

He's been doing both. He's been out looking for a new job, and when he's home, he hogs my laptop to do research, or work his connections.

Hmmm, I haven't seen him here.

Yes. I have 3.




Oh because I did! We are going to a movie tomorrow night and then out to eat (probably Denny's because the movie is late) so we can "talk". Muhahahahahaaaaa!!!!!!!

Maybe he will come back to me. After all...I was the one who broke his heart. Now that the circumstances are different I can totally see myself dating him.

Just watch your heart sharp. But I hope things work out the way you would like them to

^^

Thanks Liz. Yeah, I need to. I sure wouldn't want him using me to get over her. But to tell you the truth...I never fully got over him. There is still a part of me attached to him I guess.

It was a bad situation when I had to break up with him. He actually cried...and he is a manly man! It made me feel pretty loved and made the whole situation even worse because I didn't WANT to break up with him.

Sigh. IDK. I guess we'll just wait and see.

I take it he was your first then. You never get over your first love

They did match me with him That's how I saw his profile in the first place.

We eventually had a good laugh over it.

. . . . yes, I'm nosey. . .

*PMs Mixed

Oh my sammy

I hope someone has some exciting dating news soon.

...Wow this thread has been dead awhile.

Well, that night we didn't end up going to the movie (It was the boring Student Activities Council midnight movie of the month...and I am NOT seeing "Knocked Up" again.) but we did go out to Denny's and had a good time.


Anyway...tonight we are going out to my favorite local restaurant/bar. It's in downtown right by the river and has AWESOME views (of all the snow and ice, currently ). Then I told him he could pick the movie....I hope he picks a scary one .

Honestly....I'm not sure where this is going. We are having a good time hanging out, but they aren't "dates" necessarily...so IDK. I guess I can only wait and see...and I will definitely keep you all posted.

My co-worker handed me a stack of books to borrow yesterday.

How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace: The Smart Guide to Flirting by Susan Rabin

Smart Women, Foolish Choices: Finding the Right Men Avoiding the Wrong Ones by Drs. Connell Cowan & Melvyn Kinder

The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schenider

and The Rules 2: More Rules to Live and Love By

Those sound like the books Bridget Jones threw out.

No matter how it works out Sharpie, it looks like you get a friend back. That's a good thing, anything else is frosting.

Yeah, we've been living vicariously through you.

So which one is this guy? I can't keep them striaght. Does he go to church, what are his future prospects, what are his intentions toward you, and does he like The Office?

This is my ex from HS...the one who goes to my church. Been friends since 8th grade...then after we broke up, I hardly talked to him for the next 4 years.

He's a drummer. He just dropped out of college his senior year (this year...and yes we went to the same college) because he was in too much debt, so he's working to pay it off before he goes back to finish it.

Not sure about his intentions. As far as I know, right now we are just hanging out.

AND....He ADORES The Office!

Oh Sharpie, grab him and don't let go!!!! And the two of you can finish school together!

he adores the office, thats all I need to know, keep him.

Haha! I know, right? We had a BLAST tonight! We had dinner and drinks at my fave place (with awesome conversation) and then went to see The Spyderwick (sp?) Chronicles....but WOW that movie SUCKED...so we went to the theatre manager and got a refund after seeing the first 25 min or so and then decided to get a couple movies and head back to my house. We saw two really awful ones...The Host (a really bad Korean monster movie) and Joshua. Joshua was creepy and we gradually found ourselves scooting closer to each other throughout the movie.

Over all really bad movies were seen tonight, but it was fun to laugh over and it just gave us the excuse to pick better ones "next time" It ended in a big hug and smiles and I told him he couldn't use that "emergency refund" movie ticket we both got with anyone else but me.

Yeah...it was a good night. (oh and it JUST now ended. )

Awww I'm so happy to hear that . I'm glad that there's a second date & hopefully the next film choice will be a wise one . It's nice to hear that your date lasted long, which is always a good thing. I'd like to have that one day, when I'm with a guy & the date doesn't end until 3 or so in the morning. I'd love to sit on a park bench or a secluded beach & just talk about whatever for hours on end. But pardon me for going all Kelly but OMG *squee* heehee. So when's the next date .

Sounds like you had a VERY nice evening Sharpie.

I did have a great time, but I'm really guarding myself. It wasn't really a "date." As far as I know, we're just hanging out (one on one...doing date-like things .) I can totally be myself around him and that's what I like so much. I'm not pretending to be what I'm not, we are just so real with each other and we have a great time in each other's company.

The thing is that his ex-girlfriend (who he was on again off again with for 4 years) just ended it with the guy she left him for 2 weeks ago. In all the conversations he and I have had about it, he continually maintains that he will never take her back...but I'm not so sure. Plus she's been texting him a lot lately...IDK, I just don't want my heart to get stomped on, so I'm really playing it easy for right now. But it's difficult...cause I'm really starting to fall for him again. *sigh.

aww sharp. Doesn't it feel like in a small way you never broke up with him. I hope he means what he says and doesn't take her back despite her desperate texts to him. You deserve alittle happiness and she blew her chance, so hopefully this is good karma for you.

Hey, remember, you got to leave him wanting more. Send him home earlier.


OMG! He's Pam and the ex-girlfriend is Roy!

Send her a text for her to keep her oven mitts off of your man!

Seriously though, he is not doing her any favors if he is replying to her texts. She obviously wants him back (or she needs to have a man in her life at all times), so any attention he gives her is leading her on. He needs to cut her off.

I know, I know, I read in a book that a "date" shouldn't last more than 5 hours...but this wasn't a date.



As for his ex...I was a youth leader at the church...and she was one of my girls. She's 2 years younger than him and 3 than me. I actually worked with her at my previous job as well. It was just the two of us in one little room for 6 hours a day. (talk about irritating and complicated huh?! )

I told him that too...that a break up is just that...a break up...there should be no need for them to be in contact otherwise it just makes it worse to get over. He tells me he's almost completely over her...and I just find that hard to believe...but I guess I can believe it. And I agree...I know she wants him back. I'm just gonna have to show him how much he'll miss if he goes back to her.

If they were together for four years Sharpie, I think you're smart for just hanging out and taking your time right now. Despite what he says, ending a relationship that long isn't without some complications, and emotional baggage. Time will take care of that, but you don't want to get tangled up in the fall-out.

^^



I know...I'm getting worried though, cause the more texts I recieve from him...the more I want to hope, you know? Ugh! This sucks!

Yeah, that's got to be hard, but it's okay to enjoy your time with him right now. See how much you still like him.

Sharp don't get caught in the middle of a emotional tug o' war between those two. He'll hopefully come to his senses and end that and you two can build something.

Monday I am throwing down a time limit to nick. I'm so sick of all this BS that's going on. I love the man to death but I think most of the spark has gone.

Well, that happens all the time. Why am I answering you when I have a perfectly good man sitting on the couch behind me watching ESPNews? Because we still love each other but we are too tired to even think about anything. You can't count on the spark always being there forever because that changes. But when the kid is out of school for the week, she needs to stay with Grandma one night and you need to go out together and be a couple again. That is really important.

I'd like so show of that I still mean just as much to him now as I did then. I asked him about him having a emotional affair with someone else, since I know he won't cheat physically and he said no, I'm still the only one for him. And that I need to shut my crazy mouth and trust him.

Sometimes I think I wish I had dated more or had more serious relationships so I wouldn't always feel so crazy at times.

I know he was trying to reassure you liz, but this makes me a bit uncomfortable. Be careful that it's not a round about way of him trying to change the subject. Any time a guy says "trust me", my alarm bells go off. Why should he have to say that?

Thats kinda what I think. But then he says things to me, like when he told me about accpeting the free coffees and stuff from ladies that makes me get all crazy. I always have this thing that I think he'll leave me and he's got this issue that I'll cheat on him. I thank his ex for screwing him up that way. I think we're both too nuts at times for each other cause we get to that point more than we should.

It would be nice if we just had a long extended break for us and not think or worry about anything else but us. It's selfish but that's what I would like.