Liz!!!

I think I posted that last Valentine's Day or something depressing like that. Stay away from the West Coast D.! And you're absolutely right about the reasons being complicated, even when both go into the relationship with serious intent, but not being ready to settle down. I think that happens a lot too, especially when people are still in school and trying to establish their careers. I think a lot of people have plans to get married after *insert grad school graduation date or first big job offer*. But so many things can happen along the way. In my friend's case, it turned out one of her boyfriends discovered he was actually gay.

There are some real b1tches here who only care about looks and money. Unfortunately, I know a few of them.

Bahahahahahahahaha. New released spring break pictures of that guy are AWESOME.

And here I've spent two years trying to convince him that this is the place to meet women! (Sacramento is swarming with single gals.)


Happened to me, as well as two of my friends. That's a risk you take in this area.

It's funny that I've always been one of the most ambitious people I know, and yet I'm one of the "early settlers". I was very studious and was always in the top of my class, but my parents came from a background where college was considered for boys, unnecessary, and not the parents' job to finance. I started paying for it on my own, but my then-boyfriend and I decided to get married. We couldn't both afford to go to school at the same time, so we decided to put him through school first, and started our family. It was important to me that once I started going to school again and got back into my career, I wouldn't have to stop again. That's why I've had my kids in quick secession! I'm only turning 27 this year and I'm done having kids, so from here on out I'm free to finish school and go back to work without maternity leave along the way. If I had waited until my to-do list was done, I never would have gotten married and had kids. There always would have been a higher degree, a bigger house, a better job, etc. It doesn't work for everyone, but I consider myself very fortunate that I have the baby years out of the way, and have rest of my life to move forward in my education/career.

Yay! I finally talked to that guy after like a whole week! I was going crazy without him.

Shoot. I had my B's messed up. MB, not VB. Gotta give credit (blame) where credit (blame) is due.

Did I mention my friend/college roommate now lives in Sacramento?

I wonder if she's dating anyone, . . . time to call.

yes a foreman grill! I enjoy waking up to the smell of bacon as well.

I'm not showing that map to Nick, he might take off for the east coast

Are there not a lot of people in the upper mid west? It's very bleak up there.

...Or you could show him the map and say, "Do you see that? You could be replaced by one of the millions of available men right outside my door. Don't cross me."
There are plenty of people out here. It's pretty balanced except for in the bigger cities where the ladies congregate and where the men moved to find factory or farm work. Hence, all that white space between the dots.

Also, yes, it is very bleak up here. It's actually snowing right now...after raining for five days straight.

^^ ha diapers I've played that card before there are other men out there. He simply said no there's not. british wit.

I don't dare replace him. Chances are I'd replace him with a ex gang member or con. Stupid fresno

Or a software designer. Aren't there techies who make that commute or is that a little too far?

Happened to me. Twice. See what I do to men?


I wondered why that didn't look all that familiar! I just figured I forgot, and trusted your elephantine memory.

So I need to move to the west coast, Texas, or back to Florida. Was there anything on that map about sexual preference? Because I've lived in Florida, and I know who's there.

A little change in topic for a second....

Last night Tom and I finally got some quality time together and we were talking afterwards. He had went out with his friends and had a few drinks in him. I told him what body part most attracted me to him and he seemed surprised and I said, jokingly, "What? Was I supposed to say your mind?" and laughed and then he laughed and said, "No, if it's my mind then this marriage will be over sooner then I thought".

I was like, did you hear what you just said, and he was like, what and then he realized and his face went pale and he was like, you know what I meant, I didn't mean it like that, we were just joking around and I was like, do you think that our marriage is going to end and he was like, no, it just came out wrong.

I know we were kidding around, and I know he was drinking and what he was trying to say, but it still bothered me a little. I told him he would never live down and he would have to make it up to me and then he spent a good deal of time trying to do just that.

Just one more thing for me to worry about and obsess over.

Did he say anything about it this morning, Wedd?

I understand how that would concern you. But (and this is from the Princess of "I didn't mean it that way" ), I hope you can let it go. I'm willing to bet it was just a clumsy attempt at humor.

It's about 2.5 hrs. one way from techie heaven. Liz is just out of range.

Oh, I didn't give him a chance! I brought it up right away and he said "You know what I meant. It just came out wrong. I am not going anywhere and neither are you".

So, I do believe him--I just didn't need an anxiety attack last night!

I wouldn't worry until he starts introducing you as his first wife.

yes just outta reach for me. Mixed knows it alittle too well the distance. have you been mapping it out for your own self mixed?

I went to an AP Biology conference at Clovis High School a few years back. I remember the drive.

hahaha the worst drive ever! Los Banos to Fresno is like death row.
And I have to say it, clovis high sucks!

Wow. I hope you guys have patched up over that awkward moment. If it were me, I'd probably do worse.

awww wedd at least he tried his best to make it up to you Tom is a good guy. Nick had told me if I had kids he would have ended things with us. He refuses to date women with kids. It's a huge double standard I know.

We had this talk..If things hadn't changed between you and I back then, would you still be my friend if I was with my ex? he said yeah. I said if we did break up and I dated someone else could you still be my friend. He said no, I'd change everything so we'd never talk again. I couldn't be our friend in that case, if you were with someone else and I still loved you, no. Then he told me to stop reading stupid bloody cosmo

Why am I such a baby around the guy I like??? UGHHH.

What? Nick needs to keep his mouth shut sometimes!



Yeah, guys don't take too well to that, I guess!

I harrassed Tom a little more about his comment and then I let it go. I know what he meant, but I didn't like the way he said it. He has a habit of doing that--once when we were going through a bit of a dry spell (pre-Jay) I said, sometimes he feels like we are just roommates and instead of saying, "No, you're wrong", he said, "Yeah, you know what, you are right".

Not what I was looking to hear, but I guess I deserved it since I said it first! All I know is this--there are SO many things I want to do with Tom that I can't because of the situation and I feel like we really wasted a lot of time. I told him that when we are free, I don't want to waste anymore time because you never know what can happen.

That's what the duct tape is for

Good for you Wedd you and Tom have given up so much of your life that when it's time you and him need to take it back full force. Things should hopefully get back to normal then.

How would you feel if you got this card?

I think this mom is overreacting and she probably needs to get some. I don't see it promoting teen sex. It's just promoting sex, and what's wrong with that?

Why does it have anything specifically to do with teenagers? In fact it seems to me it's aimed for a much more adult buyer since alcohol is the theme. Someone's a few sheets shy of a ream.

nick was doped up on pain meds and with him that's like truth serum. I had fun for about 10 mins asking questions.

I thought it promoted wine drinking.

What teen drinks wine?

I had such an amazing date with the tv star . We started it off with a 2.5 hour walk around the seawall & we just talked. After that we rode the bus to go have dinner at my sisters restaurant. Well, she doesn't own it but she works there as a waitress. Ironically enough she was there haha. After that we met up with some of his friends for karaoke, which was a blast. Him & all his friends sang. His friends are pretty cool people. After that me, him, two of his friends & a waitress from the karaoke joint to a little Greek restaurant nearby for late night food & drinks. I had so much fun!

Unlike last time there were no awkward pauses. We enjoyed ourselves & the coversations we had. And best of all, the date lasted from 4:30 PM to 3:00 AM . I feel another one coming soon. We're all getting together again next tues for more karaoke. My song choice will be Pour Some Sugar On Me .

I'm glad I went out & had fun !

^^ ah PIP so glad your date went so well. It does sound like a second date is on the table for sure

The brit well, I'm not calling him tonight. He can suffer. He thinks I'm being silly, he nearly said stupid but caught himself. I'll see if my friend wants to hang out tonight instead

Aww thanks hon ! I'm really help it went better than expected, & I'm happy I wasn't nervous.

A bunch of his friends got together & sang The Lion Sleeps Tonight. It was frigging hilarious . He sang Someday by The Strokes & he did pretty well. But the best song of the night was when they all sang that 500 Miles song. Seeing him really get into it was awesome . And his friends liked me, which is always a positive. They're all great people who know how to have fun.

I can't wait for karaoke again next Tuesday !

One of the men who viewed my internet dating service profile posted his driver's license photo. The "Michigan" watermark is a dead giveaway.

(but it's one of the best looking photos I've seen )

oh sammys blushing

I spent some time with a friend tonight. We had the biggest laughs. The brits unsent text message finally showed up but I didn't text back. I'm home relaxing and I'm making plans for tomorrow with friends

Good for you, liz!

So... what happens next?

(And, for the record, I like that this guy isn't a narcissist - the fact that he doesn't have any other pictures of himself is kind of charming, in my opinion. In the original Office, do you remember that picture of David Brent, when he's laying on his side, shirt unbuttoned, that he gave the women he was going to date? This seems like the pendulum swing away from that. Oh, and any guy who can look good at a DMV must be even better looking in person!)

That adorable senior said that for my birthday he's going to get me a big kiss. Yay! I'd like that very much so. He he!

Sweetness.

He he yeah! My birthday should be interesting...

Nothing. I was just browsing I don't even have a paid subscription anymore, so if I really wanted to communicate with someone it would have to be worth shelling out $18.

I think if I ever do meet someone, it's going to be in a very unexpected way.

would it be worth joining again to just to get in touch with him sammy? Ya never know. They say it always happens when your not looking.

I've got plans tonight with friends. The brit is being nice to me after I called him a rather rude and dirty name. He's even going to try to postpone his knee replacement so we can work on things we have been talking about and really talking about his surgey. So that's a plus right?

he said to you jam he was going to give you a kiss from him for your birthday? ohhhhhh

That's exactly what he said. A big kiss.

are you ready for that?

Well, that's good, so he hasn't lost his license. And generally that means he owns a vehicle.


It's been in my experience that very few men are worth $18.

But there's always a chance....


Like what he's wearing to the wedding?

Only on the cheek, JAM.

Lol, not really. But I'm sure it shall be fun!


It's up to him! Probably won't happen because he'll chicken out buut the offer was nice.

ah veebs, I know one day I hate him the next I love to bits. I know I said I would support him when he fought to get his child back, but I didn't think it was going to be this hard You put a child in the picture and it changes it all.

I called him out on ms. thang possibly turing off his phone so that's why I can't get ahold of him at times. He is actually siding with me on this one! He said he would talk to her about it.

Good luck with that Jam enjoy the moment

Thank you, I most definitely will.

Exciting pretty in pink!!

I went on a second date with that guy from the pool party to see if the first date was just due to first date jitters. The second date was kind of awkward as well. I think he got bored with me because we kind of ran out of things to talk about and I am pretty shy to begin with. I don't know, he seems like a nice guy, but I didn't really feel a connection. If he asks me on another date, I could give it another shot, but I don't want to lead him on. I probably should just let him down gently. I feel kind of bad about the whole thing though.

I'm back playing the good fiance and I feel bad now for being so witchy now that he's all laid up. Tomorrow, I'm going to do a day for him. I've been upset with him so much and doing things for me and going out with friends more. And I honestly don't like when we get like that.