^^rocker, it's being in a confined space. what type of young lady do you take me for?

One whose Custom Member Title a few weeks ago was "69 sounds good!"

That could have been out of 100...

Not if you read the story that went with it on the Off Topic thread!!

alrighty so I'm that type of young lady. I'm more nerd than anything

It's okay, we're ALL that type of lady! Although I haven't been in a while--maybe it is time again!

^^^TMI I cutting the brit off! I'm using my woman veto card.

Hey, his leg is in a cast--you have all the power right now!

not totally that didn't put a cast over that big gob of his.

I've spent the past year trying to help her let it 'sink in' but I feel as if I've been talking to deaf ears. She'll acknowledge that what I tell her is right and its the truth but she does nothing about it. Another excuse that she uses is that since she goes to school with him and sees him almost every day, she can't really avoid him. She says it would be too hard for her to avoid him since they spend so much time together. Sure, its hard to do but its not impossible.

We pass our wisdom down to the younger women but they have a million reason why they can't do it. Being single and running into the ex and their new GF/BF. luckily I've not had that happen but when it happens to my friends it's really uncomfortable

So, I've been playing around with an on-line dating service this last week.

After just a few days with it, I've come to the conclusion that this process seems a bit backwards. It's difficult to get past some of the photos (don't throw garbage at me) to what I'm sure are some genuinely nice guys. I've gotten a few hits, but the only three I've responded to include two who were perhaps wise enough to not include a photo just yet.

And then again, some of the profiles are just too wacky.

Some of it is actually providing a little bit of comic relief (I said stop throwing garbage). But I think I might have to give it a little rest.

I hope this works out for you Sammy. You'll be a great catch for some lucky guy on that dating service.

Thank you, RC.

You got any brothers? That live in Michigan?

Well, it was inevitable.

I've apparently offended one of my on-line would-be suitors.

I turned him down and he got a little sarcastic with me.

He didn't meet one of my requirements. I told him so (via a standard reply that you choose from a drop down menu). He snapped back by apologizing for not being perfect.

Some of Sammy's rules of internet dating are unflinchingly rigid.

He snapped at you sammy?

If it had been the other way round, he would have gave you some BS excuse. Ah, better off with out em'. He's proberly the type of guy who is neat freak but doesn't say so, til you go to his house and everything looks like a fine are musem. creep in the making.

How did you let a guy with such a charming personality get away? ( )

For the moment, I love being single. I can flirt with guys & be hit on without any guilt. I don't wanna be tied down with one guy when there are tons of hot ones around me. If I find a good one, than maybe I'll settle down but now it's fair game. I love men way too much at this point to be faithful to just one .

I agree with Liz. Who snaps at someone they've never met because they didn't get chosen? If you're going to be that sensitive, then maybe on-line services aren't for you. Did he think every girl was going to want to meet him, have sex with him and then leave him alone?

Good call ditching him--you have awesome instincts, it seems!!!

^^ I had a BF like that. He seemed nice til we went out then when I said I wasn't going to just sleep with him he turned into his true form...giant A$$****!
Too bad sammy won't let us all write a profile for her. We'd all pick her out a great guy.

umm...



Actually, that might be a funny thread....not making up my profile, but just making some up.

I'm calling it "Must Love Beets" until somebody comes up with a better title.

I see myself wishing I was single this week. I'm jealous of all of you right now. Seriously.

I should be jealous of me, too. I'm probably a lot better off than I think I am.

SharpSchruter:


Sharp,

This is very foollish on your friend's part, because she is not only jeopardizing her happiness, but her livelihood. If your friend does not graduate from school, she'll always be financially dependent on her college grad husband - who may or may not be around or be able to care for each of them and their children. Divorce and loss of job are obvious factors. In this day and age, it is not wise for an adult to be completely dependent on another, because jobs are not certain. Also, what about your friend's dream? Why in the world should she put her life on hold, just so hubby can get his thing??? That's soooo 1950'ish when there were no opportunities for women. She has just as much earning power as him-let alone both could be each other's safety net in case something goes wrong. Geesh - I hate to hear this story.

Besides - my mom's generation is full of stories of women who sent their husbands through school only to have them divorce as soon as they get their degrees and big jobs....leaving the women destitute. That's why my mother insisted on my finishing school before getting married. In fact, I met a guy in med school and she and my aunt almost screamed at me not to even date until he graduated for fear he would use and dump me after getting his degree. We never clicked.

Wow - that was longer than it needed to be. Take care and have a great 4th.

By the way - still single and loving it. Would not mind getting married, but not itching to do so.

Last night, I totally fell for someone. I don't know what's going to happen, and I actually don't think we would work well together. We tried to go on a date once about a year ago (she has a major crush on me), but never did, and I hadn't seen her again until last night. We danced in the rain while the fireworks blazed above us. Very romantic. She looked beautiful and I kissed her. It was amazing. I tried calling her tonight, but no answer. I can't stop thinking about her, and I got nervous before I called her. I never get nervous unless I'm really into someone. That's how I know that I fell for her. I am calling her again tomorrow and hopefully I can set up a date for Friday.

Wow, scotty....that's great!

Well, if you think you won't work well together but you're still feeling that way, I'd certainly give it another try.

Be cautious, but keep an open mind.

.....wait, you weren't asking for any advice, were you?

Good luck!

I wasn't asking for any, but thanks for the advice anyways.

We'll see what happens. Wow. I just daydreamed about her while thinking of what I was going to type next. Ok. I need to get back to work.

This is so sweet. I know someone mentioned this pages before, but that's another advantage of being single--that first head over heels feeling. It's nice. I remember it.

Great news Scotty! I'm happy for you!

Don't get too excited folks. We'll see what happens. I'll be sure to keep everyone updated.


*EDIT*
She texted me while I was at work.

Awesome: First Kisses

No matter how in love you are with your spouse or longtime GF/BF, you just can't recreate the magic of that first kiss. "Does she want me to? We're getting closer. She's not stopping me. That's her hand on my thigh! It's a sign. I'm going in... just for a little peck. I guess I'm committed for more than a peck, now that her hand is on the back of my neck. This is awesome! Okay, mister, don't get too grabby. What am I saying? Just put a hand on her side, you know, for leverage. She's not knocking it away. Now, is she turning toward or away from it? Was that a tiny moan or is she holding back a belch?"

Yeah, I don't do it justice, but everybody knows how great a first kiss is. Theoretically, the longer we stay single, the more people we date, the more first kisses we get.

Great post Diapers!

You're right. That feeling can't be replaced.

You single people have the journey to marriage ahead of you. And it's INCREDIBLE! I remember that day I got married. I could not believe this women was going to be my wife. I thought I'd be waking up any second from a fantastic dream.

And it all started with that first kiss.

That was really a great post Diapers.

No, you did it justice! Some of us are working here and you're getting us distracted!!

If anyone could do it justice, it's Diapers. The man has a gift for writing.

Hello everyone!!!

I don't usually post too often, but I got wrapped up in the conversation here and I wanted to add in my own personal experiences and comments.

A little background on me:

Believe it or not, i'm a real life Scrantonian, born and raised. Through high school, I had a string of girlfriends starting when I was about 16. They all came one after the other and, not to blow my own horn, I was pretty confident in talking to them, asking them out, etc. The summer before I went to college, I met a girl through a friend and we were in a pretty serious relationship through the next three year. By the end of the second year, the relationship self-destructed and I regret everyday not ending it then, but it dragged on another year until be both had enough.

Anyway, now i've been single for about a year and a half now and i'm really having a hard time getting used the the dating scene outside of high school. My confidence has hit the floor and I just cant seem to make it. Although I like the freedoms of being single, what I miss the most is the companionship. Just having someone there to watch TV with or talk to or someone to bring home flowers for or take out for the night is what I feel is lacking with myself now.

I've taken an honest effort at improving myself over the past few month. I've toned up and started to exercise regularly and i've taken positive actions at improving my financial life but something still feels missing.

I'm not going to say i'm just like Jim Halpert in real life, but I do have alot of his qualities. I'm definatly a romantic at heart and nothing pleases me more than to see the woman I love happy. I love all the mushy stuff (holding hands, long walks, late night talks, cuddling). All anyone my age is into is drinking themselves into oblivion and thats just not my scene AT ALL.

If any ladies here can give me some positive advice, i'd be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

This is a big part of why I say single. There's nothing like the taste of something new.

Becand75, I'm glad you decided to post. You're situation sounds very very similar to mine. Once I got out of my long term relationship, it took me forever to get back into the game. I mean, at first I didn't want to, and I still don't really try too hard. But I still do miss that companionship you mentioned. I try to be happy with myself and if I meet someone and something happens, then it happens. I'm pulling for you.



Diapers, never have you posted such sweet poetry...wait..um, yeah. You have. Nevermind.


It's a date!!!
Friday we're going to see Knocked Up!!!

Hmm...did you mean to say "sweat" poetry or "sweet" poetry? It works either way!!!

Good choice of date movie--you will have a LOT to talk about afterward!!!

Three new matches today. Who should I respond to first? Michael, Darryl or...








wait for it....













Drew?

I"ll leave that up to your imagination.

Being single sucks.

Don't try to convince me otherwise.

Ummm, how old are you? Sometimes it's nice to have a life that's all about you. You can go where you want, when you want for as long as you want. It's hard for me now that I have to stay with my parents. I really miss taking off in my car for weeks at a time.


Awww, that is really sweet! Except the first kisses are only good with someone you really like. I'm a little pickier now to see who is worthy of my lips.


Welcome becand75! Sounds like you are taking some positive steps. You are just not meeting the right people. There have to be some girls out there who are not into the bar scene. Do you have friends that you hang out with? Because that's who I go to dinner, movies, concerts and such with. Sometimes I even go by myself, because it's something none of my friends are interested in. I've found the best way to meet people is to join activities you would want to do anyway.


How old are you? Once you hit 40, everything starts to look pretty stale and moldy.


At least it's not Larry, Darryl and Darryl.

You mean we really get to pick? I choose Drew. Tell him you're not going to call him Drew. Start calling him Andy and see what he does.

I just looked at my hits for today.

Sounds like a good plan to me! If he gets the reference, I'll call it a day and just marry him.

I'm sorry your matches are making you cry. You wanna borrow Michael or Darryl?

atleast being with someone you don't go to bed lonely but then again when you want to go to bed alone they're on you like glue.

Sammy have you been looking around at any profiles? Anything good?

I've been single for quite some time now (over a year, less than two) and I'm starting to think it sucks. Sure, the first year was fine because I needed some time to recoup my thoughts and emotions about myself, get my body in a little better shape, and get back into the "dating" headspace.

Now that I'm ready to date again, I don't really know how to go back into it. My last relationship ended when we had my daughter. (Nothing I wanted, I WANTED to be with her. Not vice versa apparently)

I don't know how women will take the fact that I have a daughter ( 3yrs ) that will come first. How do women look at younger guys (23) who have kids?

IMO, it's a personal preference. None of my friends have problems dating guys with kids. In fact, one of my cousin's friends just got married last weekend to a 25 year old guy with a kid. So get youself out there!

I won't go as far as 'love 'em and leave 'em' Harlequin. It doesn't compare to the eternal bliss of a happy marriage. But until then, we get first kisses and the married people don't. It's a nice consolation prize for not picking "The One" this time out.

Unless... Shame on you. So between "awful" and "awesome", I'm going to file you under "undecided".

Awful: When you realize that it's not going to work with the person you've been dating.

Awfuller: When you figure it out way before they do.