I wouldn't be surprised AT ALL. It makes sense, but it sucks.

I'm not picking on a child at all, I want to get that straight but I see behaviors in her that common when a child is possesive of a parent. I've made every effort with her,I've backed off, tried doing things for her, I even planned a trip we could all go on cause shes never been to certain places. I think she has her mothers temper and attitude. Sdaly dad doesn't see it that way cause dad is dad and blind.

My friend and her man drama...the guy she likes asked her to come talk to him and keep him company. So she did. she said 3 mins into their conversation and after she said she was going on vaction he had nerve to tell her, I'm too busy to talk to you now, and did that annoyed sigh. And he turned in her report that she wrote for him even though he was supposed to do it. Now everyone is asking him to help them with their reports. I yelled at her you see what you caused.

ugh men.

Good, and he will do a sucky job, and then they will know he's an idiot.

Becca, everyone's given you good advice, I don't know what to say, except move on, and good luck with the job.

One of my friends met her husband when she was working for Victoria's Secret. He came in to get something for his girlfriend. He broke up with the girlfriend and came back in and asked her out.

Becca, good luck on that job - that is definitely a sign that things are looking up for you! (And, Veebs, I love the story about your friend and her husband. A good omen to be sure!)


Dear Becca, you have been through the mill. No more advice from me, mostly because I think you are well on your way to getting out of this mess. Just a thought that I try to live by (and regret whenever I don't): If something is too difficult, it's probably not meant to be.

Hope your day just gets better and better!

Becca, I'm glad you're ready to let some of this go. The whole thing just sucks, and I wish it could have worked out, but you can only control you, not him or his daughter.

I hope the job works out! Good luck!

thanks everyone. The situation does suck more than anything and I'm being a adult and pushing things forward.

Yes, veebs my friend is alittle dumb to say the least and her telling me...I want him to like me just kills me. you either like someone or don't and then it either works or falls apart as you can tell from my own experince

Fancy New Grown-Up & Moving-Forward Becca!

i listened to 2 hrs of more man drama from my friend. I can't even put into words how ticked I am listening to her flip flop on reasons why she can't tell this guy she likes him.
NO phone call today not expecting one either. But I put in my resume in today so fingers crossed

I just want to say, that after a very rough breakup, and some pretty hard times being alone...this is the first time I've felt completely content being by myself, and am truly happy with being my own company

Yay! Good for you!!!

I can not tell you how happy I am for you!

that's wonderful Minkiloo. I'm happy that you're finally content.

I have nothing to say personally, it is what is it

I met someone

And I'm happy about it because I'm finally independent...if anything, I'll just be inviting him along for the ride that is my life

Have fun, minki

But be careful, OK? I'm only telling you what I would (and have) told any other friend in your position. Be sure you do take some time for yourself and don't commit to anything too soon. Think about where you've been and where you want to go.

^^^ I agree with sammy. Enjoy being yourself first. You're doing great as is!

It's great mink you met someone and depsite my own wishful thinking ways, really enjoy your alone time.

7 days of no speaking. I find it all insane an can't help but laugh that he's taking it this far.

My friends guy gave her the cold shoulder. So maybe he doesn't like her but I'm sick of him using her affections for him to get things. I'm going to cover his car in lunch meats and let it spoil in the sun.

I'm sorry . . . I couldn't help it.

Or use boxes and boxes of feminine products and cover his car

yeah you can tell I put a lot of thought into it. I would so do that OH as well but only if I add diapers and splatter his car with brownie mix for effect

Well, don't use my brownie mix... ...I'm saving them for my relatives...

That's wonderful, minki! And it's nice that you've met someone, and everyone's given you wise advice. Here's mine: If you think you're going to get serious with him, hire a private investigator.

I'm doing that next time.


So, have you reached that 3 weeks yet? Promises, promises, lies, lies and more lies. And no balls.

Lunch meat!!! Becca, where do you come up with this stuff???? I really like the idea of using stick-on feminine products. Or used ones.

I've not reached the promise date...it's fast approaching however. You're right, lies, secrets and well just the one ball
I like to be orginal...any woman can set his stuff on fire but a real angry woman can put the fear into him

! Becca! That is mean.

I must reiterate again, when he calls with the big secret, tell hm to send it over in an e-mail and you'll read it if you get a chance. Then hang up. You're doing awesome without him--chase that feeling!

Whatever gets you through the night...

BTW, I ended my three-year relationship with my best friend Mike...so much for my JAM ending...

Bessly, I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you hoped, but I'm sure you gave it some thought and did the right thing. Good luck.

That's rough Bessly, but now you can go out there and look for your Jim, (or Michael, or Dwight, or Andy . . . )

Im not playing nice anymore...I gave in and sent a email late last night this morning he deleted it. He can suck it like toby. I am extremely bitter

Sorry Beesly to hear that. *hugs*

Don't play at all, Becca. Just let it go (I know that's easier said than done). Don't give him the satisfaction of being mad or bitter about it anymore.

oh I'm not calling him or anything anymore, but I'm not playing nice in the sense that I will speaking kindly about him or giving him a 2nd chance or any of that.

It's sad that you guys couldn't talk and have a mature parting of the ways, but sammy is totally right. You need to let go and move on. You want your stuff back? Get all of his stuff together, send it back with a note saying you want your stuff back. If you get it back, fine, if not. move on.

Also like sammy said, we know, easier said then done, but I think it's been made pretty clear that he is not capable of being a man about this, so it is time for your health and your sanity to let it go.

I want my stuff oh yeah. I'll gather all his stuff up tomorrow.

I should have a ad that says wanted man, real man...no playing games or acting the fool man.

Send his stuff, but dont make a big deal if he doesnt send yours back. Just cut it clean as you have now and move on.

I will try my best to be mature about it

I'm sorry, I thought it was a given that she wouldn't be getting back with him.


Sorry Bess. It'll get better, in time. But at least he's not toying with you and stringing you along. Now you are free to find the man who is meant for you.


Bastard. How did you know he deleted it?

Becca, don't be bitter, be better. You're soing so well, new hair, hopefully new job, new body, new attitude!!!! Keep looking forward, not back.


Because he's not a mature individual, that's been the big problem all along.

Yes, yes and yes.


Put my name on your ad, too. And sammy. And Bess. Anyone else?

Day 2 of being single...



Thank you. I appreciate it.



Thanks. BTW, Dwight and Andy? Leave that to Angela! But I guess I could look for another Jim or Michael...if only...

beesly, I hope you are feeling alittle better now.

Veebs, I'll add who ever wants to stick their names on it I checked the status of the email on his AOL account it said deleted.

Thank you for being concerned everyone I am taking it verrrryyy slowly. I'm just happy being happy

guess who got a call? 3am, can't remmeber exactly what was said, but I remember this, stressed out, miss you, , bank account, money, this week.

I feel back asleep. I wasn't sure it happened, when I got up I checked my caller ID and it really happened. I thought it was a dream seriously.

WTH is this 3am crap. Who does this???

Don't take his money FNB.

This is what I heard:

stressed out: (translation: your fault because you're not kissing my a$$ anymore)
miss you: (translation: maybe saying this will get you back in line)
bank account/money: (translation: you don't have a job and by giving you money I am controlling you and keeping you in my debt)
this week: (translation: or next week, or whenever, because I am in charge)
3am: (translation: my mommy and my little girl are asleep so I snuck downstairs to use the phone and raid the fridge).

I know it's a pain to change your accounts, but I would do that so he could stop making deposits. In the interim, whatever amount he deposits, withdraw it that day, drop it off at his restaraunt with a note saying that you don't need or want his money.

I know I sound like a b1tch, but you are doing so well and, in my eyes, he is threatening that. Like mixed said, please don't take his money.

I'm in the WTH/WTF team too Becca Selifsh, uncaring people call at 3am on their own whims! 3am calls are when someone dies, is going into labor or calling from jail!!!!!!!

Please do not take his money Becca, that just keeps him tied into you somehow and will be used as a guilt factor.

I have to ditto mixed, wedd and OH. Please send the money back, Becca. This is messed up.

I agree with all of the above. Even right now, when you are really short on funds, he is trying to buy you back into his control. Even if it means having no money, it's worth it to be out of his control.

Give the money back. You are Fancy and New and you have your whole exciting life ahead of you! Keep moving forward. You don't need him.

I have no idea what it means because I really honestly don't remember it so well. He's not called since. emailed, texted or shown up and there hasn't been any money put into my account so I don't know.

Have to register on the "What is this 3am crap?!?" team. Becca, it's time to turn off your phone at night. Your mom is healthy enough to drive you insane on a daily basis, so you don't need it on for her. The only person who uses it during this timeframe is a man who can't be bothered to call you during decent hours.

You don't need this, and you deserve a chance to rest - undisturbed - so that you have plenty of energy to chase your new life.

In Brit-speak: What a wanker.

I know I should turn off my phone, but I have other people who might call besides him. My brother of course and andera my best friend. Sometimes she does give me the odd text at 12:30 1 am or whatever. Atleast it's not a everyday thing anymore. it's only when he wants something I guess. I'm not bothered by it really. It's insane yes, but I'm over that

I tried last night to convince my friend to ask a co worker of hers out on a date. She said if I ask him does he pay? I said well now of days if you ask, you might end up paying if he doesn't step up and offer. She doesn't want to do it cause he's the not the guys she really wants. And asked me, do you think relationship are nothing more than a exchange of services and goods? there isn't a crazy enough face to put on here for that. She's never going to let go and just date or enjoy life.

Hey, people know where you live, they can find you if they have to. What's so important that it can't wait until a decent hour??? A text at 1am isn't an emergency. You need your sleep, for when you get a job. No more of these middle of the night calls, missy.

well that whole just give me x amount of time is up. June 17th came and passed and nothing. No showing up, no call, no text ...nothing. I called his phone, it's switched off. I left a clear message and hung up. Men....stupid, mind numbing headaches.

Yeah, but it's got to be hard when the lie is shoved in your face like that.

Wanker.


FNB, there are so many better guys out there, and a least a few of them are going to see what we see, a warm, generous, funny, nurturing, vulnerable, sweet, (yes), woman. You'll see!

Wanker is being kind........my words for him consist of ****, ****** and ****** ******* *** ****