That's very scary for him. I hope that is the wakeup call for him and his parents. Wow. I don't know that I have ever heard of a person that young having a heart attack.

Yeah. I told him i'd run/jog with him, because he really really needs to. Should be fun...I miss having someone to work out with.

that's scary hottest. He must have a under lining heart problem as well that caught up with him.

Today I spent a good couple of hours texting a certain person and there was even a phone call! Oh my I really like his personality and don't think anything will really go on there, but he's so funny and interesting and it's nice getting to know someone over again.

Sorry, not a reflection on you at all, it was just so hard to believe, I had to think up some alternative explanation!


Wow, that's a sign of our times huh? I hope he get all the help he needs, wow, I'm still stunned.

Aw don't apologize Mixed, I was really kidding. I feel bad because we really did question him for a bit about it. Seems sadly legit. He is doing better though I think.

One of my daughter's cousins had a heart attack in her early 20's. She'd completely let herself go after she graduated from high school. You'd think there would be an underlying problem in someone that age, but there wasn't...at least in her case. Just too much food, partying and no exercise.

He might have an underlying problem. They ran tests on him and they were apparently okay...so he has to go back for more. This is just really weird!

Here is a case of when it may be good to be single:

My brother is getting married on Sunday. The rehearsal is on Friday night. My plan is to go get my nails done on Sat, see a movie and relax because the wedding is going to be stressful (family issues and all). Plus, I don't know how late the rehearsal dinner will be, and there will be family issues there as well.

We got invited to a BBQ in Jersey to celebrate the football championship the guys won. I do not want to go because we do not drive, we would have to rely on someone to get us back, the wedding is at 2 on Sunday, we have to pick up Jay and get him ready, I have to take pics of the guys, I won't have time to do my nails, my hair is going to be a disaster, I already know. Oh, and I can't stand the guy who is throwing the party. But I did tell Tom that I thought he should go because he is a huge reason the team won. His response: "Everyone else is going to be there with their kids and wives. I'm tired of going to places and explaining away how anti-social you are"

Not much I can say to that, actually. So I outlined all of my reasons for not wanting to go, including not wanting to rehash the whole POY saga and how everyone will be swimming and I probably can't and I told him thanks for making me feel guilty and that if it were any other weekend I would probably go. I told him again he should go on his own. He says that he's not sure now if he wants to go, but he is not going without me.

I just want to stay home and get my nails done!

Gee stay and and attempt to de-stress or go somewhere to get more stressed out before a very stressful event. Tough choice Tom

Stay home Wedd for sanitys sake. We know its not law that couples are joined at the hip to go everywhere.


I know MrOH's work all day picnic at this amusement park followed by a AA or AAA baseball game is coming up soon and I am not going. I refuse to go to the amusement parks on the weekend for obvious reasons and I would like part of a day to myself.

Well Wedd, brothers don't get married every day, and it's an important day for your family, even if it will be a trainwreck. And yeah, maybe Tom needs to explain you've been a little out of the loop because of the circumstances you guys have had in your lives for the last year. And if Tom is so tired of explaining, it, maybe he should have taken more responsibility with Jay than you did. You know, trips to the agency, therapist, doctors, dentists, etc., multiple times/week.

^^^

EXACTLY what Veebs said - Tom has a lot of nerve dropping a guilt trip on you after all you've been through. Next time he gets snotty about this, tell him you're sorry that you've exhausted yourself caring for his nephew and struggling with his family, particularly while you're hemorrhaging, but that you'll certainly work at focusing on the "important" things such as one more mindless event commemorating his commitment to sports and not to his own family.

A little dripping sarcasm, and you can make him feel like dirt for trying to use guilt on you after all you've done for him and his family.

^^I think he is over it already, because I keep talking about what we are going to do on Sat after I get my nails done and he hasn't once said, wait, I didn't know we had decided already.

He's right about me being anti-social, it is just that this is not the time to address that fact!

So, I might not be single for much longer. I can't remember how much I divulged a while back, but I was going to start dating an ex of mine again. The only thing is, she lives in Iowa. Anyways, she says that she's definitely going to move to St. Louis (although, I don't know when), so that's great news!

I'm supposed to go see her this weekend, but I don't know if I can anymore. Our plans kind of fell through, so maybe not.

Anyways, thought I'd update all you skeevy perves.

Congrats Scotty!!!!!!!!!! VERY COOL!!!!!

~Addendum to my previous post~

Sorry, ladies.

What are your intentions?
Do you intend to marry her? Does she come from a good family? Does she have a healthy relationship with her parents? Is she kind to children and animals? Does she dress modestly? Does she save a portion of her paycheck? Has she finished school? Veebs isn't here right now, so somebody has to ask these questions.

Well gosh Scotty...if she doesn't meet the above criteria...I believe that I do! ANNNNND I'm only an hour and half away from you.

I bet 1000 guys in your area would kill to hear something like that from you.

Good. Maybe. Yes. Kind of. Yes. Sorta. Nope! She's done.....anymore questions? LOL

Honestly, I could see us falling in love and getting married and having a kid or two, but I think most of that stuff is a little ways down the road. We'll have to see how it goes.



So close, yet so far! lol

Yes, we will.

When are you going to bring her by to meet the family forum?

Little update--he is actually down to under 100 lbs and they have finally determined that it is Crohn's disease. Tom and I are talking about which one of us, if either, should visit him. I am going to talk to his brother at my brother's wedding and see how what he thinks. The strange thing is that I think his brother is in denial because I am the one who is calling and e-mailing the friends telling them how bad he is and that they might want to go to see him. It's very awkward for me to do that, but I have known all of these people for close to 20 years and God forbid something happened and I didn't let them know. And Tom and I talked about that, too, because he was actually friends with my ex first. It's a long story.

So yeah, I have to decide what I am going to do.

You forgot an important one:
Does she watch The Office?????


So, she dresses kinda slu++y and she doesn't save???? What are you thinking????

Hey, that sounds great scotty, I really hope things work out for you! And both of you better start saving for that big wedding you're gonna invite us all to.


That's what I have, as well as several of my cousins. For most people, it's not serious, but 2 of my cousins have died from the disease. He sounds like he needs to be on TPN (Total Parenteral Nutrition), which is a daily intravenous administration of essential nutrients to people with severe malabsorption. One of my cousins (one of the ones who died) was on TPN for over 20 years. No one he worked with even knew - he would eat lunch with the guys, but didn't get any nutrition from what he ate - he ate for socialization and enjoyment only. At night, he would mix his own IVs, hook it up and it would run all night while he slept.

If your ex really weighs that little, he's going to start going into organ failure. Both of my cousins died waiting for liver/kidney transplants.

Crohn's and Colitis Foundation

Oh, VB, I'm sorry. I know it is manageable, but I don't know how late it is for him. I did look at that website briefly yesterday--I will have to do a little more research. Thanks so much for the info.

My 11yo nephew was diagnosed with Crohns earlier this year and he is little, very thin. I think he mother(ex-SIL ) waited to long to find out why he kept having stomachaches and not eating, but whats done is done. So far he has put on weight but only b/c of the medication he is taking that his face is puffed up but he is still small.

She LOVES The Office!!!! "Sorta" means she's not slu++y but she's not layered under sweaters. And I thought it said "does she have a portion of my paycheck"

Whenever I do get married, you are all invited!!! I'm not paying for your flights though.

That's ok...we'll figure out carpools.

Just don't moon anyone during the convoy.

On a side note (since we're in the singles thread), my brother broke up with his gf last night.

I am getting an ad for ChristianMingle.com?!

Oh, and by the way...I still have not gotten to see that guy. Probably won't happen for a while either since he's going on a trip to VA and i'm going camping.

I'll videotape your wedding!

I saw that. And, why?

Sweet!

Oh great, now we're going to have to think up other car games.

I want you to videotape MY wedding RC!



Sooo...I talked to the boy about remaining friends until I can heal a bit from the past two hellish relationships I have had and since then we have just been hanging out as friends and talking.

I didn't think I was that into him at first but WOW...we are crazy compatible. Same taste in music, tv ,and what a personality! Sure he's 2 years and 11 months younger than me, but I think I can overlook that.

He's unlike any guy I've been with. He has integrity! And he told me he respects me so much for wanting to make changes in my life before I pursue a relationship. He said that whether it was with any other guy or with him ("which would be great because you are GORGEOUS and amaaazing.") He respects the fact that I need some time and until then he wants to get to know me better and hang out as friends.

Yay! Perhaps he's a guy worth getting to know.

I finally got to see that guy today, just for a couple hours and we didn't really do much but it was great. I'll see him again Tuesday when he gets back.

Sounds like he might be.

Good for you for taking it slow and giving yourself a chance to get to know him first.

I have a date, win!

^^^ Good for you, Hottest!

Apparently I am so awesome that you only need to spend a couple of hours with me before you're hooked.

And yay Sharpie! Good things seem to happen to those who share a name?

We could have told you that.

I just seem to attract the creepiest guys. On the skytrain today I had this creeper stare at me, than proceed to tell me that I was beautiful. Normally I never tell strange guys where I'm going, but for some weird reason, I decided to tell him that I was going to the doctor when he asked. Well, at that point he decided he wanted to acompany me to the doctors. He said so himself. Boy, I could've gotten rid of him right there by saying that I was pregnant or that I was going to get meds for my chlamydia (neither of which I didn't have). Anyway, the creeper got off the skytrain same time as me & decided that he would join me for a lovely walk. He's like, you look so nervous. Well, not sh!t sherlock. Finally, I got sick of his cr@p & told him that he could leave, as I was waiting for a friend. However, that wasn't before he asked what my plans for the evening were. I told him that I would be meeting my "boyfriend" later on for coffee. Boy, the boyfriend excuse bounced off him like nothing. Anyway, as he walked away dejected I ran the other directon, constantly checking over my shoulder. Than thankfully I never saw that slimeball again.

Accompany me to the doctor. HA!

^^
Ick! How uncomfortable!





Hooray!



We're just awesome. Totally awesome and people are noticing.





So I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be single too much longer. WOW....I like him.

Baby steps, girlfriend.

Not too wise, pip. Next time, just ignore them. Never engage someone like that in conversation. You have a cell phone, right? With an emergency number on speed dial?

Okay I had been talking to this other guy for a few weeks and well, I'm not single anymore. We're a couple now He's a nice guy, and has no kids So yipeee!

Okay and that guy he left mexico early drove all the way up from mexico to fresno and I met him at his hotel and he drove. We went and had drinks and talked but there was no spark at all. He was nice but all he talked about was his business an how much money he had. Then my back went out and when I couldn't go out with him the second day he got pissed off and stopped talking to me Oh well. But, this other guy, he's sweet and we've taken things slowly to get to know each other and since I'm flat on my back he's been really sweet. I'm a happy gal now.

I'm glad you found a nice understanding patient guy Becca! And the dude from Mexico you know your better off w/o that.

I'm sorry your not feeling better but glad you have someone to talk to.

Yeah, screw the guy from Mexico. I mean, um, don't.

yeah. I mean he was good looking and all but all he did was just look at me and we talked over drinks and there was some playfull touching like hand on the shouler or knee or thigh but nothing else happened. I didn't even hug him goodnight or kiss him. It just seemed that his focus was making lots of money, then quitting at 45 to buy a boat and sail around the world. Yeah seriously this is what we talked about. It's fine if you have money and are used to a certain lifestyle but it's laughable when that's all you talk about...everypoint came back to guess how much money I've got. Now, yeah I felt alittle uncomfortable cause the dude was worth like 7 figures, but I tried to talk about other things.

But peter! OMG he's so sweet. He's funny, smart, good job. And ladies he's cute We've been talking for some time even before the whole nick thing blew up but it was never flirty. And I kept my male friend a secret cause nick didn't like me having them. But once that relationship went south, peter kinda moved in closer and yeah I let him And We've been offically a couple for a few days but it's great. I'm happy and it's still early on and anything can happen but I'm glad I'm with him

So, it looks like all my beyotches are no longer my beyotches.



I'm glad to hear that everyone is finding some romance!

awww scotty...just say the word and I'll hop a plane for you