Becca! Have you told him about us yet?

Sammy, you know I'm technically still single. Is it time for sexiestsammyskater577 to make a comeback???


Yeah. Some people might consider us people as "weird". Better spill the beans sooner than later, but I'd say you don't have to tell him your dirty secret just yet.

yes he knows all about you. I told him I put that little poem he sent up for my birthday on here and he asked about this place. And he doesn't think I'm werid! Infact he even loves my star wars collection How great is that. It's still so very early and I'm going a bit overboard but I can't help myself, I had been under such stress with nick that we weren't happy for a while and now I'm happy. So I can gush a bit right?

Fo sho.

I'll shut up about it though, talking too much will only mean bad karma will fall on it

Yeah,

Gush away! We like happy FNB.

What am I, the office bike?

Secretly runs off with Veebs

Yes, we do!

oh scotty you aren't the office bike. You just have many crushes on here

That's all I need to say about this new relationship.

I've been following your new relationship on facebook Becca. All of your status reports give out lots of info.


Scotty, I'll always still be your beyotch!


And technically I'm still single too. Our first official date is wednesday and we're doing a classic dinner/movie date. Even though I've been over to his house just me and him (he is roomates with a couple of my best friends...that's how we met) and had fun hanging out. He's also going to a bday party with me tomorrow night.

He is SOOOOOOOOOOO sweet! He treats me like a queen and with such a level of respect, it's insane cause I am really not used to that.

...and he goes to church Veebs.

That sounds like something I would do!

Dan will be home tonight. Apparently I will see him tomorrow, and i've heard that he's got some kind of elaborate surprise planned for me. I need to start thinking of some good ideas for him...

dang sharpie you stalking me No, I dont mind. I would have never shared stuff about nick cause he was such a tight a$$, but peter doesn't mind.

Now, in the span of a month I've lost a fiancee, had a semi date and found a new boyfriend It's been a happening month. My goal is to find my best friend a good man.

Awwww hottest you lucky girl Surprises are the best!

*cough*cough*erhem*

Hee hee hee hee!



I'd be relieved if I hadn't run off with scotty.

^^ LMAO!

Im glad you found a good one sharp

excuse me scotty I thought you and I had something going on now you want my best friend and veebs.

I talked to peter about my crazy side last night. He seems okay with it and reassured me and made sure to know we're soild and a couple. I still feel like a jacka$$ for letting it come out though

Today has been a very good day.

Details please.

Becca, so you are officially a couple?

Its been one of those weeks that I miss being single....yes I said that.

hottest what was the surprise??? I'm dying to know

yeah we're a couple offically. He and I are going to be talking later about how serious we want this to go. He's told me that he wants to keep me around...for the rest of his life OMG ladies I know it's all really fast but I'm taking things in stride but wow ya know

Aww...we all feel that way sometimes. But it feels damm good to be able to admit it! Hopefully he snaps back into shape soon!




Don't accept any proposals just yet, okay?

Wow, Becca...have fun, but just be careful, k?

Oh I'm not...I'm not rushing into anything cause I dont want anything to fall apart because of it. I reeeeaaaallllyyyyyyy like him though. And you bet your last dallor I'm having lots of fun. I'll have more when I can get out more too.

The surprise? A kiss. Very very cute.

^^^Awwww, that's sweet, Hottest!

See Becca, the problem with a lot of relationships is that people are on their best behavior for awhile, and you don't get to know who the person really is. So, you need to feel free to be yourself, and be loved for that. But yeah, take care.

Hottest those are best surprises!

I called peter when I got up. I just perk up when I talk to him.I said why dont you come stay with me for a couple of days since I will be alone. He said why not just move in with me then. I didnt know if he was totally serious, but I just said okay. I'm sure by morning it will be a different story.

But my drama is my friend who is still being a fish outta water and flip flopping on her feelings for this guy who wants money. She was thinking of asking him to go with her to the beach next week and share a room and she thinks that him wanting to sleep with her won't happen if they share a bed. I'm sorry, but they get alittle too flirty for nothing to happen. I told her flat out, you know you really confuse me on what you want or expect. It proberly confuses him too. I think she was hurt alittle but she doesn't see it like others do. I told her we're going to go out soon and find her a nice guy. She seemed okay with it.

You're right Veebs...I've been fickle.

Why on earth do I think I'm ready to be in a healthy relationship with these past two "relationships" under my belt?

I'm just using men. It's terrible and even though I already knew it, I am finally admitting it to myself. I've been lowering my standards to be with guys that aren't what I ultimately want in order to feel better about myself and to get over the big event that happened in march.

...and I'm just making it worse and wasting my time.


Siiiiiiigh. Now how to tell this boy I'm just not into him without hurting his feelings. What a mess I have made.

Wait--what made you realize you weren't into him?

Hey, becca, slow down!! Moving in? Even him joking about that is kind of soon.

Sometimes hurt feelings are unavoidable, Sharpie. Your intent isn't to hurt the guy, but to do the right thing before a bigger mess is made. Don't overexplain it to him or make a bunch of big confessions. Just tell him you're not ready. He probably will be hurt and may try to make you feel bad or guilty but you have to be tougher than that. Good luck.

Wait....you weren't really asking for any advice in there, were you? Well, you know me.....

I think you're right Veebs. After that first heady rush wears off after a few weeks or months, (it always does), then the deeper, longer lasting feelings emerge, (or don't). Funny, that's when a lot of couples tend to break up. We've got to hang in until then to see how things are really going to go.


This is going to sound harsh, but in my (first-hand) experience, a lot of young women are completely delusional about this.

Niiice.

How'd the cupcakes go?

mixed you have no idea how much she is. I talked to her late last night and we went over this again and I'm sure I hurt her feelings but she doesn't ever see things from the other side. She's too worried about hurting feelings as well. Sometimes you have to hurt someones feelings. It sucks but it has be done. I read sharps posts and sharp, just tell this guy. He may not like it now but it's gotta be done.
It just kills me that my friend has the thickest rose colored glasses on. She wants an craves the attention and affection but doesn't want to have a relationship but wants to "fix" him. I told her, I would get up and put my foot up her a$$ if she asked him anyways on this trip. What is scary is that I think I would get in her face about this, cause it's the worst idea I've ever heard.

I had a interesting conversation with peter. I said this is all the honeymoon period and things will kinda settle down and all so it might be rushed a bit and he said yeah but he knows. I said you can't know already we've only known each other really closely weeks, but we've known each other for a couple of months. He said, so what. I'm not freaked out by this. I just dont want to rush it an ruin it. I resepct him and if that's what he's feeling who am I to say he's not. We had a nice morning together either way

I am into him...but I'm also not. The more I am with him, the more I become uncomfortable with being in a relationship. He's wonderful. Really. I'm attracted to him, he has the most beautiful eyes and great smile, but he LOOKS young. He just turned 20! I didn't realize how big of a deal this is to me...but if I look back at my life to when I was 20 (3 years ago) I have grown and matured SO much in that time and at that age I honestly couldn't see myself in a relationship. Maybe he's different..but I just don't know.

Also everytime I think about it, I get this "Hey Christine...what are you thinking? You KNOW this is a bad idea." thought that runs through my head. He is roomates with one of my good friends and she is against it and has let me know this too because she knows my whole story and doesn't think I'm ready.

There are also little things about him that bother me. He is SO into me...which is nice. It's nice to be told you are beautiful/gorgeous and this and that...but he tells me ALL the time. He also says stuff like, "Thanks for letting me hang out with you tonight." Or telling me how excited he is to do stuff with me....a lot.

Many women would kill for that...and I thought I wanted it too, but it's just too much. Does that make sense? How wierd is it that him being SO into me is a turnoff?

I just think we are in different spots in life. I realize I'm 23 and I am still young, but I really am looking for THE ONE. You know? I want to be married and I don't want to wait for him to grow up...I just don't think he's what I want.

Does this make me a bad person? I'm so confused.





I like your advice.

Uh-oh . . . lopsided relationships are never a good idea. I still have guilt about one of those.

I'm a big believer in listening to the voices Sharpie.

"Sharing" a bed is almost a guarantee that the guy will test the waters. Unless, the young woman's "friend" is in town. Did I just say that.

Yes, you did, and that requires an admonishment from me, because I can't stand . talk.


But since you're a nice guy, I'll let it go just this once.

All anyone has to do is think about that and BMAC jumps right on it and stops that kind of talk !!!

But seriously, #2, that is a good point. She could try that if she was really set on just sleeping. At least she'd find out what the guy was really interested in. But still, not good to play games says the person who played a bunch to get her husband to realize they belong together.

Well, it's nice to know that you've come to some mature conclusions through all of this. And you will hurt The Boy's feelings no matter what. I believe in listening to that still, small voice as well. If you have doubts now, they will only get worse. My motto concerning relationships is, "When in doubt, don't." And sadly, it was easy for me to recognize what you were doing, because I had been there myself.


Umm, yeah, slow down, girlfriend!


Hottest's answer:

my friend and I talked about this man she has issues with and I don't know without giving up too much, I just don't see the attraction at all there. But God we laughed til we cried when we made fun of his problems.

I called up peter so she could kinda meet him, I've not introduced them and she likes him already better than nick. Why do men get all shy when you put them on speaker phone?

And yeah he's not joking about moving in ladies.

Cupcakes is going to have a whole new meaning to me now.

Ok...so this has just become soooooo much easier!

Here's the situation: (I'm using fake names)

Sandi is my one of my BFF's, she is roomates with Rachael, and Caleb (The boy I liked) (and two other guys...irrelevant). Caleb and Rachael used to be involved in the fact that they messed around every once in a while. Nothing terribly major, mainly making out. So apparently that was all last summer and they are over, right? hahaaahaa. So anyway I come into the picture and Caleb seemingly goes nuts for me. Tells me all of these wonderful things, takes me on a few dates, we had a little bit of physicallity going on as well.

So one night we are watching a movie and he is texting this girl. I ask if he likes her and he tells me that he is way too interested in me to even think about other girls.

He said that last Friday. Weeeell, last THURSDAY he made out with Rachael and Sandi just told me that tonight.

So basically I'm getting rid of a douchebag in the making and I cannot WAIT to have that chat now.


Also...there's a bit of backstory here that makes the story even juicier but is highly personal, so if you would like to know that portion just PM me.

^^Wow, Sharpie, good thing you found that out now. How many people live in that house? Are you friends with Rachael?

5 people live in the house (last year they had six and they tried to get me to move in earlier in the year...um...no.) and yes I am friends with Rachael (I met her through Sandi...so Sandi is really the one I am closest too, Rachael and I aren't super close.)

Although to her Rachael's credit, she didn't realize he was into me...which kinda delves into more of that personal background I mentioned and also makes him more of a douchebag.

I am so cheesed off at that guy. Why do people do things like that? That's the kind of guy that makes us all look bad. What a ******* douche. (yes, I used the F word)

*EDIT*
No one messes with my beyotches!

the honeymoon is over Just sprang it on me, I gotta go have dinner for a friends birthday and his wife and friends. I'll be in later today.

This post can go in the Venting thread, the Family thread or here. I will put it here because it perfectly explains why my idiot brother is still single.

For close to ten years, my brother was having an affair with the married woman across the street. She had a two year old daughter when it started. My mother was devastated--she's very religious and she would just scream at my brother daily. She actually went and confronted this woman and told her to stay away from her son. The husband worked nights and had no idea, but I really don't see how that is possible, because the entire neighborhood knew. My brother took her to a friend's wedding, they went on trips together. They almost got busted once, when the husband came home early. I swear this is true--my brother ran out the back door naked, jumped a fence onto the next block and was banging on the door to his friends house for five minutes before the friend got himself out of the shower and stopped laughing long enough to let him in. Again, the next day, the entire neighborhood knew. My mother came home and was like, did you hear about some idiot kid running naked on the next block, and I had to tell her it was her idiot kid.

Anyway, so when my youngest brother got engaged (idiot brother is the middle child and I have been married 5.5 years already), idiot brother was feeling a little left out and depressed. The end of June, he comes home with this girl who is ten years younger than him, but she seems very sweet. Very polite, very nice to my mom. I don't get too attached, because my brother tends to screw things up. He will see people, but he always winds up back with her. So I find out that this girl is coming to the rehearsal, spending the night at the house with everyone the night before the wedding, coming to the church, going with the family in the limo, all of it. Everyone is like, is this real or is he just making sure he has someone with him because he is the best man and his little brother is getting married? And as I said, very sweet girl.

The day of the wedding, the married chick comes out to move her car and sees the bells and the preparation and all of that and I remember thinking to myself, I haven't heard about her in a while. Well, she must have been watching the new girl taking pics with me outside the house because my mother just told me that when my brother and new girl were in the car together, she stormed out of her house, went to my brother's window and said "Who is that?". And what does idiot say to this woman who has been cheating for 10+ years, stringing him along, hurting her husband and just being a general b1tch? He says, "Oh, she's one of my friend's wives".

My mother said that she was heartbroken--she's only 23 and my brother is 32 and as I said, an idiot. She started crying and my mom happened to come home in the middle of this and she told my brother to apologize and to let her know that he wasn't using her and didn't just use her for a date to the wedding. And she was also upset because she didn't know about the married woman. If she ever hears this whole story, watch out.

I can't say that this girl is the one for him, but she is one of the nicer ones. I wonder about her age and I know how my brother is, but she didn't deserve that. My brother is such a freakin' idiot. I could smack him right now, but I'm not supposed to know what happened.