Awfullest: When there's no one* out there who isn't even remotely a loser. The slim pickins are slimmer than Lindsay Lohan.

*I mean humans I know, not people on this board. The people on this board are all fabulous!

That's so awesome scotty! Don't forget to give us an update on how things went!




I tried an online dating service and was matched with plenty of Michaels, and one Dwight, but not a single Jim. Oh, and one unemployed magician. (His name wasn't G.O.B...I would have gone out with him if it was.)




Awesome: the excitement of meeting someone for the first time and connecting.

Awful: waiting for a call that never comes.

Also awful: no prospects on the horizon.

But still awesome: believing that love can still be right around the corner.

I'm a ways from 40 Yet I know folks in that age bracket who are still single and dating attractive singles regularly, so I'm not overly concerned.




I don't believe in the eternal bliss of a happy marriage. It's not in my make. On so many levels, I disagree with the concept, and yet I'm happy for those people who claim that they've found their soulmate.

Shame on me for what? I'm mostly well-behaved...mostly

I didn't either before I met my wife. And I literally said the same types of things that you just posted.
You'll find your Harlequinette. Just be patient, keep your eyes open and don't try to make things happen.

Some of these posts just boggle my mind. This board has some of the sweetest, funniest, genuine and clever women I've ever met.

I amazed that guys aren't banging your doors down.

Strange....

mine didn't bang down the door but he kept calling til I gave in.

Why is that even though your engaged you feel alone at times? Do all men feel like their walking down death row to impending doom and we women are the wardens rushing them to it

I just realized something today. I've been single for almost two years now, and I don't miss it at all. I mean, I'm still pretty young, almost 18 now (yay!), but I was never very good at the whole relationship thing. I mean, the guy you date wants to spend every waking moment hanging out, or else constantly calling you. I have always enjoyed my alone time, and being with someone constantly is as annoying as ****.

Anyway, cheers to all you singletons, love it while you have it!

ahh, to be 18 and care free like that again.

I'm sure enjoying it

The only guy that's tried to bang my door down recently was a "recovery specialist" (i.e. bounty hunter) looking for the previous resident of my apartment at about 1AM.

And a couple of the women here wanted to know if he was cute.

Oh, I know what I'm looking for, but there is a fundamental flaw in the system, so to speak.

The girls I'm most attracted to...are the ones that *don't* call you back. And truthfully, I'm not looking, because I really have no desire to settle down with anyone. I do appreciate the input, though.

Wait...your a woman...and your saying that guys are that clingy?

My problem was always trying to get the girls to give me my free space. I dont' know if I believe you

I checked the date after reading her post to see if it was April 1.

Clingy guys

You just need a higher quality dating service Sammy. The guys in yours are obviously suitable for lessor quality women.

Tell me about. She's definitely got comedic talent

I think I can address this. I think part of the reason men are leery about marriage is all the horror stories we see and hear about women who change (and not for the better) after marriage. After hearing some dude joke "What's the surest way to get a woman to stop having sex with you,... marry her" We can't help but have some doubt.

Not you. Shame on married people who still have first kisses.
I can be.

I'm much better at the dating thing now, but I still have to fight those tendencies to want everything this second. "Hey, you're cute. What's your name? Wanna get married, buy a house and have some kids? No?

How 'bout now?"

Awful: I had to pass on a first kiss on Saturday that I knew she wanted.

Awesome?: Knowing that I could have.

Yeah, that's not really awesome at all.

To a degree, I'm philosophically opposed to the whole idea, but I don't typically prescirbe to "western" beliefs anyway...despite my heritage. However, this also does have a good bit to do with it.




There's a slightly more crude joke about why a woman smiles on her wedding day...

What really sucks is that some woman really do this.

Mine didn't, except for one thing - When I got married the fancy meals stopped that day. Seriously. When dating she would make meals like stir fry and shrimp with homemade tempura batter or honey grilled lobster tails. That all ended.

One day I heard her on the phone laughing about how she stopped the fancy cooking sessions when she got married.

We had a big fight (over something else that she started) and I brought this up.

The fancy meals have come back somewhat.

Sure it is. There's nothing more awesome than controlling the situation. Denial is a terribly effective weapon when employed properly

Okay...I'm going to be quiet now...I've already said too much.

Diapers, you can be married and it can still feel like a first kiss. I get 'crushes' on my wife. It's hard to explain, but it happens. She'll just look really hot doing something. Then those old feelings of nervousness and anxiety come back. I'll make a move and it will feel *almost* like a first kiss. Not quite, but a lot closer then single people think.

Oh, jeesh. I can't tell you guys anything. It has nothing to do with control. It's just about feeling desirable. I'm going to have to ask you and Roy to switch screen names. His fits you better.

I've alluded to that elsewhere. But for this case, I meant first kisses with somebody other than your spouse.

Yeesh, we've been patrolling these boards for more than a year?

Aw, GP. We're not all like that. Really. And it always makes me sad that there seem to be so many that are, and they give us all a bad rap.

I love to cook gourmet meal for my husband. It can't happen as often as I'd like because, well, that would be expensive for all of us, but I do when I can, and I try to make nice dinners as often as possible.

I think a lot of this comes down to the level of comfort you develop in marriage. It's both a blessing and a curse. It's wonderful to feel so at ease with someone, but it also lends itself to taking the other person for granted. A lot of women stop trying to look especially attractive (in a word, they get "frumpy"), because, well, they're not trying to attract anyone right? But they should. RC mentioned getting "crushes" on his wife. It's a wonderful thing to know that your spouse is crushing on you, but it doesn't just happen. We have to make the effort. Same thing with intimacy. When you're sleeping next to the same person every night, the electricity can disappear, but only if you both let it. It's easy to fall into a rut, especially after you have kids, but it's an amazing feeling to still be able to excite and impress each other.

That's a really good post Muffy!

You're right about keeping up looking attractive. My whole diet and exercise plan is for my wife. And it's working wonders

And although she would NEVER admit it (she's a big Karen fan) she's been fixing her hair in a surprisingly Pam-like style lately. I like that

I sent her a copy of some of your posts.

You're welcome

That whole obsession could have gone one of two ways for you.....I'm glad it's working out.

I put up with enough drooling over the old Clint Eastwood westerns that my Pam obsession seems tame in comparision.

I do not know why, but my mind immediately went to the Clint/Pam celebrity couple name. How do you like Clam Beeswood?

Funny how the brain works.

I consider that one to be one of my early hits. I've linked to it a couple of times.

Yeah, several of us have been complaining about not finding our Jims/Pams for over a year now, while people like Muffy, Officionada and KitKat have just sat back and laughed at us.

I must say, that Rocker Creeds sig is the best sig I've seen in a looooong tim.

We live for nothing if not to amuse.

Um, I'm kind of guilty of this one.....



Um, guilty of this, too. I guess I better step it up. Although I do explain why I don't wear makeup as much (I have pretty sensitive skin and I try to not to cover it) and he seems to be okay with it. I guess seems is the operative word.

There are two sides to every coin. There are plenty of times that I envy my single friends.




I think I remember those....they didn't involve kids' menus, right?

I never said they were clingy ; I just said I happened to like being alone even more than they did.

Dates?? the kind that are where you leave the house?

What a sweet post, RC. Onee of the things that scares me about getting married is that loss of excitement, nervousness, and the appreciation/adoration you get for someone in the beginning. It's nice to know the possibility of it existing after marriage isn't completely lost... I guess you just kind of have to seek it out.

I really liked your post RC. It's sad, cause I believe most couple think they know each other but still rely on that physical attraction as the focus point. It's really about the person and your right, it's in the way your spouse does something or says something that gives you that nervous feeling. I don't have the marriage experince yet or a long time with my guy, but he still gives me the butterflies. I hadn't had that with other guys and the second that I met him, I knew I was in trouble and it was for keeps despite the hard way it started off

Where do you live? Maybe I'll move there.


There are so many women out there who are indeed like this - they be what they think the man wants until they are married - then they can let down their guard and be themselves - and that person may not be as likeable or easygoing as the woman you married. However, the same thing can also happen with men. I have dated guys who have secretly been monstrous - and they hid it well. It important that you see the person you want to marry in a lot of different situations beforehand. How does the person handle anger, grief, sticky situations? For instance, if I am playing volleyball with a group of people and the guy on my team keeps hogging the ball, jumping in to everyone else's positions (especially the women), and has a temper tantrum when he loses, this tells me something important about his character. Likewise, taking a girly-girl on a camping trip will show you something about her character as well - does she really need all that makeup, is she a team player, does she help with all the setup and cooking? So many people are focused on the physical attributes and chemistry, but without a strong character, you'll be miserable.

Also, as a Christian I don't do the whole living-together-sex-before-marriage thing. When you are having sex, I think it tends to distract you from the red flags you might otherwise ignore. Because of course you think things are great when you are having sex.

See, it's people like you that give me hope that love is out there somewhere. I know many people who are happily married, and more that are miserable. This has helped me be a little more discerning about who I should date. And yeah, it's lovely some times when there are absolutely no prospects. But I'd rather be single than in a miserable marriage.


You mean patrolling or just trolling?



1. Guy calls girl at least 3 days in advance and asks her for a date*
2. Guy pays
3. Goodnight kiss optional

*Guy needs to let girl know this is a date (not just 2 friends, and that he is not playing for the other team).

Oh, I forgot - I am inviting all the singles without dates to drinks and chat on Friday night. All are welcome though - c'mon, it'll be fun!

Ok gals, I just saw an ad for a new show on Vh-1 - Scott Baio is 45 and Single. It's sad when former stars lose all their money, but even sadder when they lose their dignity.

3 days in advance!? And HE pays?!?!? Now I'm questioning whether I've ever even been on a date.




Did he ever have that much dignity to begin with though? (*cough*JoanieLovesChachi!*cough*)

Don't forget Charles in Charge.

Women love a man who's in charge.

Eh..um.....Scott Baio was on one the greatest shows in history - Arrested Development!

His small part in that show negates all of 'Joanie Loves Chachie' in my book.

You don't need double talk.

Oh yes!!!!!! YES!!!!!!!!!

I am happy now.

After starting work in the legal industry at 24 years old, I FINALLY get the satisfaction of seeing my products used by someone really cool.

My years of sweat and toil are worth it to see those books behind Bob Loblaw!!!!!!

baio has a show about finding him a date? thats just sad for him.

Okay, fine. He gets a free pass thanks to Bob Loblaw and...


Bob Loblaw's Law Blog.

"Wow. You sir, are a mouthfull!"