Well, it's the potential to make cash...

Jewelry is missing as well.

I like lots of money & a nice diamond

Women

the brit sent me a email. Yep after over 2 months I've heard from him. What did it say? I had sent him one last month saying did u get your stuff after I mailed his things back. I got a response today..yes thanks.
it's nothing major but yeah. I found it distubring since last night I had told my best friend. After these 2 months I'm happy, he's made up his mind and I made up mine and it's what ever he's happier and has no need for me in his life and then 2 words this morning. I've not replied to it, no point and I dont need to go down that road. But I know he got his stuff a week after i sent it so I find it funny it takes another 6 weeks to say yes thanks. WTH??

Why am I making a big deal outta this. I just am starting to really like this new guy I've started talking to and everytime I get really happy after a break up it's like he seems to know and does this to throw me off, but I'm doing my best to not let it bug me.

Stay strong, Becca. Don't respond. Who knows what he's thinking? Maybe he's just poking you to see if he can still get a reaction of some kind. Don't indulge him.

I'm not. I almost want to ask him why he behaved the way he did and who is he dating now but why?? He will think I'm hung up on him and Im not or I'm wanting to get back together.

I completely agree. He's got his stuff--you got your answer. It's done.

Nuff said.


What an ass he is. Well, it bugs you because it still hurts, and he treated you like crap. But now that you've been away from that for awhile, you can look at the relationship a little more objectively, and analyze what you've learned. And I am so proud of you for getting out of this relationship. Fancy New Becca is soooooooo much happier!

Becca, stay strong. I've been broken up w/ my ex for awhile now. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but definitely the smartest! There are definitely going to be times that you miss him and want to contact him, but it will just pull you back into the web. It will seem like he knows when you're feeling happy, he always contacts you when things start to look up...I almost think it's a way of testing us, but stay strong! I'm finally 100% over it, and I just went on a date with an amazing man not boy (!), and am really happy that I decided to move on with my life. You will realize that things are definitely going to get better, and you're life is going to be just as amazing as you are! Stay strong!

That's awesome, minki!! Details please.

She's right Becca. You are doing so well, don't give that ***** any more of your time, or your heart.

I wont be everyone. It's over and done. He had the chance to make it right. I told this guy I kinda like right now. I said I'm only telling you cause I dont want things to be a surprise or like I'm using you for anything. And he said well are you hoping to get back with him. And here's what I told him. You know I'm not. I didn't break down the relationship he did and right now I'm happy to be with you. You've made me really happy. He smiled.

On a unrelated note the Starbucks guy flirted with me. I got my frap and I said, Danke. I always say that. Habit really. And he smiled at me and said you are welcome back in german. I just giggled. He smiled at me. Then my friend got highly embaressed when and pulled me out when I said my pleasure back and he smiled so I said jokingly I love you He found it amusing but my friend didnt

Well, I got up the nerve to get an online dating account. I'm very shy, and don't go to the places to meet people, so I just sucked it up and did it. I met this guy on there (and found him on myspace to scope him out and make sure he's not a sex offender), and we hit it off, so we started talking on the phone. The chemistry was instant! It was so nice to just laugh and not be embarrassed about anything I was saying. We met up yesterday (and he called it a date!) and went great. He's a grown up, he has a fantastic job, he knows what he wants in life, and he treated me like a lady What a total difference from what I came from! Never, EVER again will I be in a relationship like I was in!

^^^Good for you!!!

I love that minki! I admire you for just doing what you need or think you should do to take care of yourself, despite loneliness or shyness or whatever. You better watch out. You keep this up and you're going to find yourself with a wonderful man.

Bring it on!!
I've never been happier just being myself. It's amazing how once change can you turn your life around completely! I'm somebody I never knew I could be...and I'm finally happy! And I'm glad I have you guys to share it with

We're glad too, minki!!! I'm so glad you're finally in a happy place!


Still, I'd hire a private detective if you're going to get serious.

good for you Mink!

it's already in the vent but pete met someone else. I'm not upset upset, I did like him, but I'm sure I'll met another guy soon. Is it possible that guys pick up on the vibe that your single, happy and looking? This other guy I sometimes talk to, he could be a contender He's nice, smart, active, fun and makes plenty of money so he's a got a great job.

Mink I'm going to tell my friend about your great story from the online dating service and see if I can't convince her to give it a shot. She doesn't go out to meet people cause she's shay and all too.

Okay ladies. So I went on the date on Saturday, now is the time I ask you all for advice. I haven't been on a first "real" date in four years. Scary so needless to say, I don't know the rules. We went out Saturday, had a great time, later that night I got a text message from him saying he had a great time, and we need to do it again real soon. I sent him a quick message the next day, got one back saying we should stay in touch for the next time he comes home (he lives locally but works 2 hours away, comes home on weekends mostly). That was Sunday. Now, I know he's interested, and said we should talk and hang out again, he said that a few times on the date. Do I call? Do I wait for him to call? Do I be aloof and let him come to me? Oy, I hate this part of dating

I know you didn't ask for a guy's advice, but I couldn't resist. If you I have the urge to call him, then call him. Don't let some so called rules stop you from doing what comes natural. Trust me, it won't make you look too eager or desperate. I think it makes a guy feel good for a girl/young lady to call him, and show that "games" won't be an issue.

Thursday would be a good day to call and say, are you free this weekend. That's what I think.

Thanks guys, I appreciate the input.

#2, I only said ladies because I didn't realize guys were still on here! Hah! It is definitely nice to hear a guys opinion. Anyone's opinion is nice, I seem to get lost inside my crazy head sometimes and need some help getting out.

If they dont call back after a week they proberly won't mink.

Ive already said stuff about you know who in the vent. He told me I should have kept all the stuff, he wanted me to have it. and he has kept everything I gave him xx. What does that mean? Why is he telling me this stuff now? Thanks for letting me know buttface after being broken up for 2 months.
I'm still moving forward not backwards or sideways. I'm my own person

He's playing with your head for his own selfish purposes Becca. Shun him . . . shun him permanently.

He's seeing if he can still hook you, he's testing to see how much power he still has over you. Show him he's a loser by not lowering yourself to his level.

I will not be doing any such thing. You all know I tried. And there is a man who is totally free and open that I like.

Good for you!

I just had to say this... the brit was on just now, on line...there was no IMing of one another. But why does my stomach feel in knots now?

Set his profile to block--both ways.

Sometimes it does feel like I'm the only guy on here. I'm going back to "The List" thread to re-establish my manhood.

Mike has been ignoring me ever since I revealed that I liked him. On two occasions I invited him to do two different things with me, come downtown, & have Starbucks. He told me that because texting him costs him money, I should call him or message him on FB. Because my free minutes have gone down the drain due to a family plan, I messaged him on FB, explaining how I was hurt due to the fact that he was ignoring me, how if he doesn't wanna do anything he can just say no, etc. Naturally, he ignored that too.

I'll admit that it doesn't matter as much as it would in the past, because I'm 99.9% over him. Ah well.

PIP another little boy game player. There is always another one out there.

p.s That's my fav avatar of yours

You're totally right Becca. He's a little boy who likes to play games. If he thinks that hiding from me is gonna solve everything, he's dead wrong. Running away from things doesn't make them go away. Sure, I'll eventually go away naturally though, because I'll give up due to his lack of maturity. He may be 25 but when it comes to relationships, he has the mentality of teenage boy. And he probably has the reproductive organs of a little boy. I don't gotta see 'em to know & plus, his balls have yet to drop . Ooh, & my friend said she saw him at a nightclub saturday & he was wearing a black shirt, khaki cargo pants & combat boots. How he got into a classy club wearing that I'll never know .

Thanks. No matter how many times I see my avatar, I laugh like I saw it for the first time. Pure comedic genius gold .

thats some clubbing outfit

I put my myspace back to in a relationship. I dont like way guys come one so strong..you single now? ewwww makes my skin crawl

Ewww creepy. Whenever a slimy guy hits on me, I always say I have a boyfriend. One guy said, are you sure & I replied, yeah I'm pretty sure. I've seen him around the 'hood cause he lives close by but luckily, he has left me alone. And one time my younger sister & I were coming home from 711 (we could pass for twins) & some creep says, "You're beautiful" or w/e. I give the good ol' "I have bf" line but she goes, "Umm sorry, I'm young." . If I wasn't 22 I'd use that line .

Mike caught me online on msn (I deleted him off my list so I wouldn't know if he's on) & he goes "Hey Mina. I don't hate you lol." I wasn't in the mood to talk to him so I said, "This isn't Mina. This is one of her friends, & she wants me to check her msn." Than he asked who "I" was & I gave him the name of a friend of mine who doesn't have FB, in case he decides to investigate . Anyway I said that I'd pass on the message & he said ok nice talking to you & I said same to you bye.

And that should be it hopefully .

I dont care, but I opened the latest email nick sent. He said Everything between us is okay, he doesnt' hate me and that breaking up was proberly best as something has happened.
He didn't say what it was but my mind has ran wild thinking what it could be. So we're both okay not being together even though it hurt and still kinda hurts. I don't know if we'll manage a friendship or he'll tell me what this thing is that happened an we then end all ties.
I've yet to tell him that I'm talking to a man and we're in the begining of dating. It's not his business but I don't know what the rule is after a break up like this. Do I tell him? Do I tell him only if he asks me?

It's none of his business.

It sounds like he might being using the breakup to make himself feel less guilty about something.

Hang in there FNB. I know it must still hurt a bit.

Exactly. He's no longer a part of your life therefore, he has not right to know what's happening in it. Even if he asks, it's clearly none of business. Once the relationship ends, so does the business of sharing everything with your ex. You're free to say whatever you want though, but you don't necessarily have to tell him about the guy you're seeing. He's not worthy of your attention anyway. It's sad that he's trying to salvage what's left of the past & trying to drag it into your future, along with himself. He should just leave you alone.

I don't lie. I want them to know they are slimy, and that they're not worthy of my time.

Becca, why should he hate you???? HE is at fault, HE was (and still is) a bigass dick, and he has no right to know anything about you. You need to cut him off, he's toying with your emotions, and he likes having control over you, even if you're not together anymore. Be friends with him? He wasn't a friend to you when you were together, why would you want him for a friend now? He's a manipulative *****, tell him to Hit the Road, Brit.

What can I add to this?? Besides he lied to you, evaded you, ignored you. He is not worthy of your time, reading or replying at all. Move on, I do think he is either trying to toy with you for his own pleasure or he has ponies for brains

pig ponies for brains

Thanks everyone for the advice on this. This is my first break up in a serious relationship. So I just dont get the rules of it. I mean I left the guy before the brit for the brit, so I've never had to deal with a break up where it really hurt. Okay that made me sound really cold but I was never in love with the guy before last like I was the brit.
I can't get past the fact he lied, and ran away from me and just was a like veebs said, was a dick. And I'm not excusing it because of some simple interactions. Don't think I'm soft on him but I don't want anything really bad to be wrong with him. That would just kill me.

No, it souldn't kill you. Sure, it hurts, but he treated you like trash and doesn't deserve to be your friend. You deserve friends who care about you for who you are, not what you can do for them.

I know.. I couldn't be his friend and watch him be with someone else anyways. And more importantly we'd bicker over things in the past when I did nothing wrong!

You two couldn't ever be friends even if you wanted to. He's clearly a user . . . and he uses up people's time, emotions, energy, etc. If you tried to be friends, he would just keep doing those things again.

After these recent contacts from him, he's definitely playing head games with you and testing his remaining power. Cut him off Becca.

I know you must have noticed by now, , that there are plenty of nice guys who will be interested, and worth spending time with.

It seems to me, the only people who can stay friends after a breakup are the ones who didn't have a super-strong, long lasting relationship to begin with or who were exceptionally mature. We know your relationship was long, and we know he is not mature.

Who cares if something happened? Who cares? It's been months, you're moving on, obviously he is moving on. It's better for both of you. Mixed is right, he may be trying to get over his guilt about something. He can do that without your help. Don't dwell on it, just keep moving on. And leave him behind.

Oh, and I agree with everything everyone else said.

What they said..

You can never be friends with him,even if you tried it would just be to emotionally draining. Let him find another way to deal with the issues he has yet to work out, like guilt.

Best thing for the both of you is if you just say so long and never talk agian.

Becca, a friendship will never work. My ex and I tried to be friends (please don't throw rocks at me ), and it was fine for awhile. Then he couldn't handle it and began stalking me...and still is. Trust me, it's not worth it. Once an ahole, always an ahole!

Being single is starting to get on my nerves The guy I went out on a date with lives nearby, but works 2 hours away and only comes home on weekends. He's been calling me and is interested in me, but instead of coming home for some more time together, he stayed home because he "has the house to himself". I was in a crappy relationship for so long that I feel like I've been single forever. I'm just ready for it to be my time for a healthy, happy relationship.

I am only trying to understand why from many different view points of his, be it right or wrong ones. And yes there are lots of other guys out there an one has caught my attention I can't forgive nick for everything he put me through. I do not want to win him back and he doesn't with me. That point is clear. I know you all might not get it, but I will worry until I know what this thing is. Because if it's his cancer, then I will manage my best to stay friendly with him. I broke up with him but I will be so cold to him that I can't give him compassion if it's something serious. He may treated me like crap yet I'm willing to put it aside if he needed someone to just be there for him. There aren't that many people he can truly count on. Besides, the new guy an I are...we're getting close and I'm looking forward to this new relationship.

Message received. Of course you can have compassion for him if there's something really wrong with him, no one's suggesting you shouldn't react like any normal person. His just dropping a hint without just telling you what is going on just smells like manipulation, something he excels at.

Now what are you going to do tonight with your friend? Movie? Dinner?

thank you mixed. I know I'm pretty dark at times and selfish on certain things but I'm not when it comes him in certain resepcts.

I think we're going to the mall my friend and I. I dont feel like being all flirty tonight. My jaw is still hurting a bit so I dont feel 100% cute today.

Girls Night Out then!! Hope you find something that makes you feel that 100%.