^^^Well, I think that Becca has had bad luck with the last two older men she hooked up with, so she is thinking of looking for someone closer to her age. She is 29? 30? A 20 year age difference can be a big deal sometimes. I don't think she specifically meant all older men. But I'll let her clarify that!

it's not all older men. Your very right about what I meant wedd. It seems that I've had some bad luck with older men.

Awww jazz how can you think I was insulting you? You know I think you are adorable.

Just thought I'd let everyone know that Taryn and I are together, and yes it's complicated, but I am very happy and it is awesome. Please don't give me advice. I don't want any. I just wanted to let you guys know how happy I am!

As long as you're happy, that's good enough for me. Congrats scotty.

I'm glad you're happy, and you've heard all the warnings, and you're mature enough to know what you're getting into. You know we only say all that stuff because we care so much about you, and we'll always be here for you, no matter what. Now that the decision has been made, you know we're behind you 100%.

So, when do we get to meet Taryn???

ah scotty

Don't give advice? Don't you know who you're dealing with?



Taryn is a lucky woman.

!!! Have fun!

It's so nice that people are so happy lately

Well, I finally know where I stand with Mike. I got a response after him, & all he said was that he likes being friends, & he likes being friends with girls because he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship.

Sure, he didn't say that he likes me as friend but that was the jist of his message. I'm not that hurt, because I kinda expected it. It does suck though, especially after seeing him yesterday. But ah well, it happens to all of us where we like someone & they don't like us & someone likes us & we don't like them. That's how life runs, & it's time for me to move on while being his friend.

he just likes being friends with girls? Sounds like his way of secretly dating different girls. Remember the old seinfeld episode where elaine made that bet with the guy and then he turned it into a date but said it wasn't. Hmmmm sounds like that

Thank, everyone! I know you guys support me and lobe me. (I mean, how could you not lobe this face?? )

About meeting Taryn...maybe. She knows about you guys, so it's not out of the question. I actually told her about the chats after new episodes and she said something about stopping in and seeing how nerdy we all were. I don't think it'll happen, but maybe you'll meet here one day. And remember, if I ever get married, you're all invited.

Better be careful, I'll actually take you up on that.

can you hurry it up scotty I have a open invite to missouri in oct/nov

I'm 100% serious.


Sure. I'll propose tomorrow, just for you, Liz.

It's not the first time I've heard that from a man scotty. I have a reason to try out my spanx now.

Spanx!

Sorry, Andy beat you to it.

^^^ what's so funny veebs? my poor man's verison of a lower body lift and lipo

No, don't wait til scotty's wedding to wear them - get yourself out there!

I'm going to veebs as soon as I can find the perfect shoes

I proposed. The wedding's tomorrow. Be there, or be square. j/k

So Scotty who gets to give the uncomfortable skeevy perv toast to the new couple?

Congratulations and good luck, Scotty!
We'll be standing by with large amounts of advice, just in case.



in St. Louis? careful, I'm not that far away.

OH, I'm going to break a pool cue in half and have "tryouts".

^^


The new guy and I are talking a bit more. I was joking around and said if you like me as much as you say you do you'll get me a potbellied pig. He said when he gets his new place he will woo hoo I get my own spider pig

But I didn't buy my bridesmaid dress yet!

wait wait wait. Are these bridesmaid dresses supposed to be cute or the kinda that are truly awful? I have a old choir dress thats hardly been worn, okay its from when I was 13 but it should fit right?

Oh those were the worst!!! I cut all of mine to shorter lengths and donated them to the preschool I used to work at for dress up clothes.

Ooooh! My daughter still has some of her prom dresses!

Of course, you'll have to give me time to make some alterations...

how luch can you let out before you need barb wire to hold everything in?
Yes I got mine still. My mom thought I needed to keep it. It's royal blue and god awful. We all looked like blue berries singing. No wonder I didn't have a BF in jr high

I talked to pete today. He asked me if I was happy with the new guy I said yeah. He asked about the ex? I told him everything. We talked about his new GF. We flirted a lot. There is still a little spark. But he reassured me that if I wanted he'd send some guys over to smash the brit for me.
Remember Airplane where everyone got in line to slap the woman who was going nuts. Thats how everyone is feeling about the brit lately.
oh and despite the fact the brit and I dont speak, see each other or anything...I got told today by his royal highness in a rare path crossing that he's working things out and sorting things hunny. Cha ya know what? whatever

Marriage talk gone bad

I had a moment of weakness. The brit. No shirt, awesome upper body, new tattoo. I did not sleep with him but I was thinking about it. He was checking up on me again. He told me, that he and I must be crazy cause here we are again. He said we both have been asses, him more than me but I gave just as good at times. We just talked. We both agreed it's a deep rooted unexplainable attraction.
I called my best friend and told her everything. She said well better nothing happened but do what you want and what you feel is right. I said do you understand I'm the Kevin bacon getting spanked on the ass by the frat an I'm asking for another!
He said call him if I need anything.

It was so weird. The anger wasn't all boiling up but I felt weird. Like shy and nervous. I dont know. I dont think he'll ever be serious and give me what I need in the long run but his arms, those shoulders and the pecks I know he knew I was just staring.

Becca, seriously? He is coming over and taking his shirt off? And no, it's not, here we are. It's, here I am, showing up uninvited and trying to trick you into bed and to take me back even though I treated you like crap 85% of the time.

I'm not trying to be mean, but I see where this is going and I don't like it at all.

I think the advice of "do what you want and what you feel is right" is about the worst thing someone could say.

You said it yourself...he can't give you what you need in the long run. Here's where you get to either prove that you know you deserve better....or not.

You do deserve so much better.

Jerks can be sexually attractive. It's not news.

its all very true everyone. so true.

Okay the guy my friend liked gave all the money too. He's been drunk dailing her but what is so weird is he's not just doing it to her phone. But the over night crew says that you can nearly time it, someone calls her work phone at 11ish at night then 1 am or so. This has been going on for nearly 2-3 weeks. Weird huh. He's just stares at her and tries to be mean but then she catches him looking at her. I think he's a stalker werido.

Nice way to try to change the subject Becca, but we're on to you.

One other thing. People use sex as a means of control sometimes. And that is obviously what he is trying to do by e-mailing you pics of him with no shirt on and then coming over and doing the same. He knows you had a good sexual connection and he is trying to get you to give in to that so that he can have control over you again. Are you going over there in a push up bra and short skirt? No, right? He is hitting on you and trying to get you to give in. DON'T.

And yes, I believe in second chances and all, but he's already had his second, third and fourth. And I don't believe he is moving, either. Unless he's just looking to get laid before he goes. I know it will be difficult, but you have to look at him face to face, shirt or no shirt and say "It is over. Please leave".

Yeah well he tried to get alittle something something today and he didn't.

Seriously, I want to punch him in his face.

^^^

Ditto, Wedd, ditto.

Oh, Becca, he's reeling you in again. Remember the eternally valuable words of Michael Scott: "Fool me once, strike one. Fool me twice, strike three."

Nick has more than struck out, again and again and again. You have the power here - you can choose whether or not you want to have your heart broken again. There is no happy outcome here - the guy has already set his exit strategy, and you aren't part of it.

We just hate to watch you go through the same old pain over and over...

I don't want to go through all the pain and disappointments trust me. There is a dangerous lure though. But the new despite his one huge foot in the mouth comment I like him.I think something could really come out of it if things go well

Again, not trying to be mean here. But you gave us a huge list of problems you guys were having, lack of communication, lack of respect, choosing his mother over you, on and on. You stood up, said what you needed to and that was it. And you've done great these past few months.

Did anything change? Did he come back and say, yeah, I made mistakes, we need to talk more, we should go to couple's counseling, you're right, I didn't make you a part of the family, I let my mom NOT TELL YOU ABOUT SURGERY I WAS HAVING, I told you to butt out when it came to my daughter? I mean, if he did all of this and took some responsibility for the past few months, then maybe I could say, take it slow, go to counseling, and maybe give it another shot. Oh, but wait, isn't he moving?! What happened to that?

As far as I can tell, he did nothing. He worked out, got a little hotter and started showing up hoping that the increase in muscle would make up for his lack of brains and consideration. And, he is disrespecting you by thinking that that is all he has to do to get you back--show some skin and you will be drooling and forgiving the sins of the past.

If you have any interest in getting back with him seriously--if he's not moving--you need to tell him to stop showing up, for you two to get into counseling ASAP and no sex. If you jump into bed with him now, you are going to be right back where you started, even worse. Because you will know that you can live without him and you chose to go back to the way things were. Because he is counting and you guys having sex and falling back into the old pattern and forgetting that the split AND THE REASONS FOR IT ever happened.

Perfectly said, Wedd.

there was no talking to the brit today. it's the weekend isn't it and he's out and about. He did leave me a message saying we need to talk, call later. Which he never did and I was surprised and didnt care really.

i called the new guy. And had a great conversation. He was staying at his friends and when his cell was dying he gave me his friends house number and told me to call him there. I was pleasantly surprised. He wanted to talk to me that much. And he knows all the drama an is still hanging around

Sorry to hear all the Brit-drama, Liz. I'll try to lighten the mood... Taryn sent me the pics of her first ultrasound! I can see the little baby feet and the little baby arms and everything!! It's pretty exciting, but it kind of makes me sad. I'm going up there in November for her appointment and I'm really excited to see her! Things are going great with us, too. I'm totally in love.

Scotty, you are an amazing guy! You're being very good with all of this--it has to be a bit difficult.

awwwww scotty I'm thrilled for you. You know how awesome I think you are so this is the best news.

Thanks, Wedd. yeah, it is a bit difficult. It's bad enough living 5 hours away from each other, but we don't even get to talk everyday. We email each other all throughout the day though, so that's good at least. I hope to talk to her tomorrow after I move.

Awww, scotty's in lobe! If it's a girl, I like the name 'Victoria Barkley scottyskater77'.