Hi, guys! I'm at work, on my lunch break, and wanted to let you know that Taryn is moving in this Saturday! Yay!

YES! I miss you, Scootay!

Wow scotty! That's a big deal! Does that mean you're going to be a baby-daddy?

thats awesome scotty. Good luck to you and taryn

Nick is being stupid. I know it was him who screwed my email. I had a issue with my email and spam fliters being all knocked off. I know it was him. So I've reset them today. He's left me a note telling me, he's not fighting with me or getting into in a shouting match cause I'm too nice and too dear to him for that. And that he does love me and he's gutted that it didn't work out.
It would be worth a new credit card to send him 500 bucks worth of elephant poo.
I talked to the new guy about it and even though he was at work he talked for a bit and asked well what do you want a future or a past? I said future of course. He said well then no more emails or talking to him and how about you and I see each other and just each other. So I said yeah I'd like that. So now it's not just a flirty type of thing and we're going to go forward with this relationship we're building

Becca, reset all your passwords. And if you are on accounts that he is paying for, get rid of them immediately and get your own. And stop listening to his bullsh1t, because last we heard he was okay with being friends. And that doesn't sound like it.

And this new guy is right--he doesn't want to get involved if it appears that this Brit thing is still going on.

Im not on his account. I'm on a friends account. I think he tracks me by my IP address. I dont know I dont care. It's just annoying. I've moved on. I'm happy with my choice

If he ever contacts you or messes with your accounts again, tell him there's a stalking law in California, and you're not afraid to use it.

Good luck with the new guy Becca. I really, really hope he turns out to appreciate all the wonderful fanciness of New Becca.

Yeah, it's definitely not gonna work out with the guy I just met either. He sent me a text that read, I can't wait to rock your world. I know that phrase has different meanings so I decided to ask him what he meant. Seconds later he texted me back & said, Have some drinks have some fun what's your favourite posistion? I texted him back & said I'm sorry if I gave off the wrong impression, but I'm not like that & I don't put out. He got all confused & sent just a question mark. Than I said that I'm not looking to have drinks & than just have sex. He quickly wrote back that he was just kidding & than asked again what my favourite posistion is. I than said that I don't have one & that I feel very uncomfortable talking about all this. And it's been ten minutes & nothing.

I seriously wanted to throw up. What he said made me feel violated & like I'm some random chick looking to sleep around. I didn't dress like a ****, nor do I talk or act like one. I'm througly disgusted & if he does get back to me, I will not reply. I refuse to associate with any man who is looking for a quick time, because I have my dignity & I am far from insecure. He can go pick up a woman in a club or a street corner if he wants that.

Sure, Mikey isn't as good looking at that guy but Mikey would not ever do that to me or any girl.

I have not had good luck with guys recently. That is all I have to say.

ewww PIP what a creep. A guy asked that once, what my fav position was. I told him any that your not in with me. He laughed but I was mentally thinking I should smack you.

Hottest...things will no doubt change.

I saw a really cute guy tonight. Some guys are so pretty

D@mn I wish I said that instead haha. And he's definitely a creep & much more than that. Still no response so he must be choked.

or choking tasteless but I had to.

Yeah, what she said.

Congrats, scotty! Can't wait to meet Taryn. Are we gonna have a "Name the Baby" contest?

^^ Oh I vote for Domo! Thats a cool baby name

Idiot.

Sure, we'll have a "Name the Baby" contest. Haha! And, yes, I'm going to be a baby daddy. We're just telling everyone it's mine.

Just curious, why are you guys saying it's yours scotty?

No news from the brit...day one

Talked to the new guy..I should give him a better name. Okay, I'll just call him MD. His initals. He's got this huge contract in the works and asked me if I would like to help him once things are moving along help him look at new places to live in. Kinda exciting right? He wants a slightly bigger place. He thought it would be a good thing to do together and I guess to see if I have expensive taste

Oh yeah. He's an idiot, & every other bad word in the book. Still no word from him (thank gawd!) but I guess he realized that I'm not one of those good time girls. Plus, I have a feeling he's a walking STD cause he probably does the same thing to other girls, & I'm sure a few of them are willing to comply & let them know what their favourite posistion is. Good riddance Peter the pervert .

I met this guy at the mutual friend's bday party last month & we've been talking, but it's always been a platonic thing cause I've never felt any sort of attraction or sparks. Anyway, last week he told me about this girl that he met at this party & he said that he liked her, but he didn't know how to approach her. So like any good friend, I gave him advice etc. That yesterday on FB, he said he had something to tell me, & it felt weird cause he likes to reveal stuff in person rather over the internet. So I told him go ahead & he drops a bomb. Apparently, the girl that he likes from the party is me! So I've been basically telling him how to woo me . Than he says that he finds me very attractive, & that he'd like to take me out to coffee. Naturally I was flattered but instead of leading the poor guy on, I'd said I'd accept the coffee invitation but only as friends, considering how my luck with relationships haven't been so well, lucky . Plus, I told him that I'm still majorly confused about my feelings regarding Mikey (this guy is Mikey's best friend, & the guy knows I kinda have mixed feelings). He understood, but awww the poor guy admitted that he was embarrased(sp) & said he had to go. It must have been awkward for him. Poor guy haha.

Everything's been crazy as of lately .

Congrats, scotty. I hope Taryn knows how fortunate she is




I vote for Scaryn.

Or Tartty. Either one works for me.

I feel bad for scotty. He's got many months to go with taryn of hormones and demands an everything else. He might be more often than he thinks after all

I hope she has twins.

All righty, because I've missed so much, I better keep my responses brief:

Scotty - exciting news!!! How about naming the baby "Tater"? You are a dear and good man to take on this little family.

Becca - the Brit is a waste of oxygen. And the new guy should be paying more attention to you, but don't hold your breath that he's going to lift you out of your current situation. I know you have the strength to do this for yourself, and when you're out from under all your current stress, you may look at this new guy and see that he's a great guy, but not nearly great enough for you!

Pip - hate to say it, but I think you should give Mikey's friend a chance. He sounds like a GREAT guy and he clearly values you much more that Mikey does. Yes, "heat" and physical attraction is really important, but I think the happiest long-term relationships I've ever heard of started with friendship that grew to love.

Hottest - sorry that the high school boys are causing a great deal of pain and consternation. It doesn't make up for much, but I just don't think they can help themselves at that age so all you can do is defend yourself against it... and I have no doubt that you can do this splendidly!

True, but we're so different that I don't think it would work. I mean, the guy is super religious. I'm talking about going to mass weekly, attending church groups etc. With me, I pray every evening . The only thing we share in common in Mikey . Common interests need to be cemented for any sort of relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic. And like I said, I think I still might have feelings for Mikey so until I realize what my heart wants, I'm not going to date anyone. I can still be this guys friend though, cause there's nothing wrong with friendship.

Mikey hasn't talked to me since Saturday . I think he's upset about what happened at Starbucks that evening.

Am I a bad person for laughing? It reminded me of a movie or two that I've seen.



It's way too early for that kind of talk. He must be real confident in himself.

new guy is going out all this weekend and I am really looking to move things forward...a lot forward. I miss being held and touched and kissed and yeah we've had that but I need more

That would make it a tater tot.........




Me too, and I've been married for 20 years.

^^

I guess Mikey is still mad from what happened Saturday (see vent thread). I said hi to him on msn & nothing. But when my friend said hi (I asked her to) he pretty much said hey back right away. Like, I aplogized multiple times for not saying hi to him & he knows the reason why. The friend who I was with cannot stand him & he knows that & because of that, he's not fond of her either. Our mutual friend (Mikey & I) even said that if I came up to them with my friend to talk, one of the guys would've confronted her & that's the last thing I need to happen. So yeah, I risked not saying hi for the purpose of avoiding an arguement in Starbucks. I did wave when I was leaving, & he waved back. The mutual friend said that him & Mikey were wondering why I didn't come over. Also, I wonder if the mutual friend mentioned Peter to Mikey cause I brought up to the mutual friend that I was kinda seeing Peter, before he became a perv.

Bah. Why do I care so much .

The grass is always greener on your opposite side.

That is all.

It's not grass, it's mold.

I asked new guy when are you going to take me on a date, a real date or to a party with you? He says you dont like to go partying all night and didn't say anything about a date. True, I dont care to get drunk all night an I'd be happier to get take out and stay in a cuddle and mess around alittle, but I'd like a date

^^^Yeah, he needs to take you on a real date.

There is no grass here.

what if you have crab grass?

I heard a commercial for this today and I thought it was a joke, but it's not:

Ashley Madison Dating Service

It is for married people who are looking for someone to have an affair with. WTF?

Well, there goes my plan...

well some people just have a open marriage that way I guess an are fine with it wedd. But it's messed up.

Ah Jazz

New guy hasn't called me since saturday night so it's been a good 24 hrs. I called him no answer. hmmmm this better not be happening to me again

My guy friends seem to have HORRIBLE taste in girls lately. It's ridiculous.

Coincidentally, one of them got dumped by his psychopathic girlfriend last night after she told him how she wanted him to die in a gruesome car crash, among many other things. Guess who got in a car accident on the way to his house to drop off his stuff?

Did she intentionally crash her car?

No...she was actually sobbing while driving and couldn't see, and then ran into another car.

thats creepy hottest.

still no answer from new guy

WTF????? That's disgusting.

Yeah...from what I know of this girl, she definitely let her emotions control her.

^^ You gotta have a balance. My best friend over thinks everything. I call her spock. poor girl will never be able to form a attachment to any guy.

New guy popped up! I got huge ta-da. I was mad but so happy to see him. He left his phone in his friends car and his friend went outta town and he got his phone back today. Plus he's been working so he's been really tired. So I forgave him. He's not pulling a nick he's actually really different. I was so happy to see I shrieked, he was so thrilled that I missed him that much. We had a great talk and I'm just

Awww Becca that's so sweet !

Mikey finally decided to message me, explaining why he's been ignoring me for nearly a week & a half & this is what he said:

the reasoni havenot talked with you much is you do so many things to me that are rude and not nice and dont realize that and top of it you have a wierd as$ friend who hates me for nothing and you took her side on top of always talking about dudes,saying you wanna hang out,and so on.

I dunno, I'm confused. We barely talk as is, so I have no time to be mean to him & I never talk to him about guys either. I'll just let it be.

^^ pip sounds like he likes you. complains about you talking about guys to me that's a sign he likes you. He could just be feeling left out but still.

^^ That's what I think too, than I remember him telling me that he likes being friends. I honestly cannot remember talking to him about any guy in months. I told our mutual friend about Peter, but that's it. I am just beyond confused now.

More from Mikey...

It's ok I just don't think you realize things you do.At first we did flirt a lot but when you asked me out or told me you liked me I was not sure about what i wanted and wanted to stay friends at least.The reason for that was I get afraid to get hurt so I stay single for so long.But you took that wrong way and actually start being more rude tome and sayingthings about dudes all the time. .it turned me off alot and I still wanted be friends but never saw you different after that.With the whole aggie thing i was only ver nice to her because of you and you told me to be so I did.but since i have lots of girls that are friends and im nice to everyone she thought it be cool to bad mouth me calling me a eurotrash player.you obviously did not stick up for me much cause you never said hi that day. if anything i would ave been nice to her and if she was rude id be like listen u retarded girl i was never mean to u so shut your mouth.thats all.It also seems you always plan these things u dont really wanna do so gets little annoying.as far as the freddy things thats awesome he is a swede lol and an awesome soccer player better than the greeks.at least we agree on the croats haha anyways i let it all out so lets just be friends and talk nice like we did.

I'm just glad he's honest.

thats good he was honest with you pip. Atleast you know where he is coming from now.

Drama ladies. I've just been out with my best friend. We went shopping had dinner and talked. I called her 5 mins before she got out of work. Told her come pick my ass up we have to talk...Nick popped up. Yeah he had nerve. I felt this was kinda weird like some strange omen cause I had spent last night writting out a letter to him like a therapy excerise, getting all my pent up feelings out about him the situation and the recent stuff he pulled. And this afternoon later it was like he knew. So it was so ackward cause ladies you hate me. He asked me how I was and he wasn't surprised if I hated him and he's sorry. He went on about how he's scared that what if we tried and we didn't work out. Like I guess if we went through with it getting married that it would change what we had an the spark would go away. BS I know. Then he let out this charlie brown type sigh and said lizzy, and I thought he was going to cry but he said I really do miss you. I don't want us to change, that scares me. I said well do you like it the way it is now? He said no. He said I'm afraid we'll change and the spark will go, so I ran. And then you hate me if I go and I'm scared if we lose the spark we'll change and we'll seperate and you'll hate me for wasting your life. I told him, we'll you've already managed that. We went back and forth about it for about ten mins. The love word was never said and he gave me this new number of his and said anything, anytime I'm here for you.
I told him I'm trying to just figure out why and move on past this cause there is someone who likes me and shows signs of actually wanting a serious relationship. I told I only wanted answers from him and that even now they seem liek empty words. He said what do I want. I said to be happy with someone who loves me back. He said well, I want you. There was a silence that was spooky.He said I have to go, but I want to speak to you again. I didn't say anything. He went.

My whole body was literally shaking talking to him. My stomach went all crazy, butterflies and everything. it's not supposed to happen like this after things go bad. I had to sit down cause I was going all woozy. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME???
I really am falling for this new guy, but it's like the whoel first love thing still has pull. And he just shows up and calls with numbers I don't know so I can't block him. I could change my number but I'm doing job applications on line an I can't change my number now.
I feel sick with myself

Becca, you were with that manipulative bastard for a looong time, and you loved him. Of course you are going to feel confused, sad, upset, and whatever else you're feeling. But good for you for recognizing what he says is BS.

Who does he think he is that he can just show up whenever he feels like it?????

Sparks??? Sure, chemistry is great, but sparks aren't love. Love is a verb, love is commitment, love is honesty, love is through thick and thin, sickness and health. Love isn't whenever you feel like showing up, it's all the time. He's scared??? He's 40 fricking years old, and he has never committed to anything!!!!

He "doesn't want us to change?" There was nothing good about this 'relationship.' it was all one sided - you were there for him, you did everything for him, and what did he give you? A little cuddling, period.

Anything, anytime, he's here for you??? He's never been there for you, and that will never change.

Now, here's the good news: you didn't waste your life, because this helped you to know what you want in a relationship, what is healthy and what is not. You've learned to become discerning, and if you meet another guy like him, you'll figure it out a lot sooner. Just continue to move on, but you need to tell him in no uncertain terms to buzz off.

You are Fancy New Becca! You can do anything!

^^^Everything VB said is perfect.

Oh, and this. If he was so worried about a spark (which is his dumbass way of saying sex) then he should have talked about that with you instead of running. And you know what, in most cases that does diminish as time goes on. I think he's taking these breaks trying to work up the best angles and speeches he can and then hoping you fall for it.

I really hope you don't. And seriously, you have told him no enough times now that he is bordering on stalking. And shouldn't he be a little more concerned with his daughter? And his imminent move?

If you let this keep happening, if you keep entertaining these calls and pop ups, you are going to lose this new guy. Which, as I've said, there is nothing wrong with being alone. But if you really like this new guy and want to keep him around, you have to stop this. You have to stop hearing Nick out. When he shows up, say I have said all I have to say and leave. When he calls, say the same and hang up on him. Same with e-mail. Every time you sit and listen to his sob story you are making him think there is a chance.