oh veebs. And yes he is farty two.

OMG Pete just called me. I know it's like 12:40 am but who cares! I'll always have this soft spot for pete. Anywho just calling to ask how I was and such. How is my relationship going and I asked about his. He's still dating that girl but instead of moving up there now, he said after christmas becuase he was rushing it after only 2 months.
I joked and said well if your not moving then we should go celebrate. He said of course can we have more than drinks though? He laughed after but I think he was half serious. I dont care, I was fine that the relationship I had with him was very short lived but I have this amazing friend outta him now and we can talk about anything.

Good advice and I'm not offended. That is sure something to think about, but I really do want a good guy. I'm much more comfortable without risk, but I guess you have a point. Knowing that he likes me so much and is so willing to make it work is kinda making me feel a bit suffocated. I guess what's bothering me the most is this feeling that has been niggling in me since I started that site...a feeling that I probably shouldn't sign up for the site, that I should give myself more time. IDK. I guess I thought it would go away because we seemed so compatible (and we are!) I just find that he's not everything I'm looking for and I guess we can't always have everything we want, but the thing that bothers me most is that I feel like I will be settling if I am with him. I don't want to settle. He's wonderful. Really. But I just don't feel chemistry. We are continuing to talk and I think I'm going down there for Christmas. We have talked all about it, and are on the same page. I know what feels right and yet I sometimes wonder....







Thanks ladies.




I haven't TOTALLY ruled it out...but I'm not holding out hope either...and niether is he. I made sure of that. The last thing I want to do is lead him on. And you asked who was the big bad wolf in my halloween pic in the halloween thread...well that is him.




I think the long distance thing really is an issue. He is 1,000 miles away. Not just a little daytrip. If things progress, one of us would HAVE to move. I'm uncomfortable with making a decision to move there after I graduate because I don't want to make such a huge decision based on someone else. I want to go where I want to go or am offered a job. I mean...if it doesn't work, there I am stuck. Same with him moving here...I don't want to be responsible for that. What do you all think?

That was him as the wolf? He's cute sharp

Well, sharpie, I think it's really good of you not to want to lead him on. But you're young, you have plenty of time, you need to get yourself in a comfortable position, and if you really don't want to move for a guy, how about staying off those internet dating sites?

new guy is so busy so should I be offended if he's asking me what am I doing if I'm not spending time with him??

I wouldn't be. Sounds like he's just interested in what you're doing. But then. I'm not suspicious by nature. Others may think differently.

^^ you mean you aren't Jazz? *hugs*

hahahahahahaha nick popped up. Nothing happened but the fact he said how have you been all week. Made me laugh. I have to clean and sent him on his way

The correct answer is, are you here again? I'm busy, leave.

Dumbass Nick. Doesn't he have a f-ing job and a daughter, by the way? WTF is he doing with the housecalls?

Amazon discussion thread:

Is it OK for a married man to go out drinking all night and not come home?

I have not read all of the responses, but I am going to have to go with no.

Office discussion: Is it OK for Wedd to go out posting on some other board?

*cough* hussy *cough*

^^^LOL! I rarely post there--I just read other people's posts about how the Gold Box specials suck!

Haha, just checking.

hahahaha he does have a job, he came over durning free time.

Wait you can post on amazon??
And no it's never okay for a married man to go drinking all night and not come home. why do guys think that would be okay

My 2 Cents

^^^Does anyone else find it just a little bit disturbing that Lo-retta sang this on The Muppet Show????

Yesh. Which is why I picked that one out of hundreds of 'em. I knew y'all would appreciate it.

Okay so nick called me and I didn't want to answer it but my friend was like I wanna know what his deal is. so I answered it he said hello and sounded so terrbile I couldn't believe it. I asked what was wrong and he has the flu and apparently more antibiotics than the pharmacy. He just wanted to whine I think. He kept saying I can't sweat, i can't. I said get in yrou sweats, in the blankets with the heat. He was all I am in sweats. I told him to do what I always did for him and he said yeah okay. I said I'm sorry your ill an get better soon okay and he said I'm glad your having a good time out and I'll talk to you later for sure. I said well if you get really sick let me know I will try to help. Yeah, I know but he won't ask cause his mother gets all werid when he gets sick. Even though hes told me he always perfered my ways over hers. So all of that was said in 2 mins and 12 seconds(call timer). I guess my friend was expecting drama but there was none.
Then 2 hrs later I get a text from ex crazy guy friend, he told some girl he liked her and she told him that she wasn't interested. He was ticked.

I have a hangnail older than that.

Geez, what is it about women thinking that a guy over 40 is completely out of the question? It gets depressing.

Nick is 40+ and can't get himself through the flu? Come on. Then his daughter should step up.

Maybe mommy-wommy couldn't take care of her nicky-wicky.

^^^

Women don't think that. Especially women over 40. We just make sure we avoid married or dysfunctional ones.

oh wedd nooooo! This is where some of her problems come from, nick doesn't parent her she rules the house and thinks she's right all the time. She doesn't learn so much as she bosses people around. She flips from whinny baby to bossy little miss
I am not going to go take care of him.

Good, because there are about 50 people here who will smack you if you do.

I would have picked a slightly different word to rhyme with nicky, but

no nick.
New guy got stuck in a elevator today and suffered from his first panic attack. He had to go to the hospital. So no confined spaces for him
crazy guy I think is now a sort of stalker. He told me the guy who turned him down means nothing to him not like I do. HUH?
And the guy who asked me to dinner and a movie day before has not talked to me since. I didn't say anything bad to him just called him out on using dinner and movie as a non date date. You can't talk to a person in a movie buddy.

I don't believe a word of that.

a guy friend's friend has told me he's interested in me. Not for any long term thing but something just fun .ewwww no thanks. I told my best friend and she said, oh you gotta do that. She totally crushes on him big time, but doesn't have the nerve to tell him. the new guy has been working so much that we barely talk.

Nobody says you have to believe it. It's true though.

Sounds like every woman in the world is being encouraged to run like h*ll in the opposite direction whenever they see anyone near my age. I've married for 20 years and I don't think I'm all that dysfunctional but I'd still like to think that I'm capable of smiling at a woman I find attractive and having her smile back at me. It proves to me that I've still got "it", whatever "it is" (assuming that I ever had "it" to begin with). Otherwise, I may as well just retreat to my cave with some warm milk.

"I've now reached the age where the girl I look at thinks I'm one of her father's friends" (Woody Allen)

I think the whole young vs. old ordeal comes with a stigma or steroptype that society attached to it. If an older gentlemen was to check out a younger woman, he would be viewed as a dirty old man thus making the situation unacceptable. However, if an older woman was to admire a younger man, she would be viewed as a cougar or milf, & it chances are, it would be ok. I doubt The Graduate would've worked had there been a Mr. Robinson instead of a Mrs. Robinson. I know there are some flaws in my theory & I know some or many will disagree but most people I know would believe it's true. It's kinda sad though.

ah Jazz....I always like the older men. I'll smile back at you.

The social stigma attached to older men and younger women isn't as bad as older women and younger men but you can't seem to date or be interested in the other with out someone thinking you are using them.

To add to this discussion, I have slowly developed a strong affinity to my lab partner. Boo ages.

I like the way you phrased that. Would that be cohesion or adhesion?

Hellllooooo!!! You're married!! I think that's the point here. You're married. There's only one person you need to have "it" for, so why is a married man looking for confirmation that he still has "it" from other women. It's not the age that women run from....it's the wedding ring, for heaven's sake.

Ugh, my blood pressure is rising....

You missed the point.

I didn't say I wanted to look elsewhere. It's part of the male ego to feel that women could be attracted to you if you wanted them to be. There's no need to do anything about it. It's ego reinforcement. But women simply don't understand that.

They could very well be attracted to you, but also realize that you are taken, therefore off limits to them and they can't verbalize the attraction.

^^^I guess I don't understand it...
You said you smile at women you find attractive and look for a smile in return to make you feel confident that you still have "it." To me that sounds like looking elsewhere. Whatever.

I've been married for 28 years, and my husband doesn't have any doubts about whether or not he still has "it." I make sure of that.

Anyway, I think the point was about younger women being attracted to older men, and I was saying that if the older man was married, the woman should run the other way.

Well I wouldn't let any attraction to a guy show if I suspected or knew he was married. I supposed some women might, but it's not very respectful.

I exchange greetings and smiles with several married men at my office every day. That doesn't mean I'm attracted to them and they know it.

If you're looking for confirmation that you've still "got it" based on someone's reaction to a smile, you're hoping that they read a lot more into that smile than a married man should be expressing.

Those are the women I want to smack.

I get what your saying Jazz. You love you wife and you don't want anyone else. But it's nice to know depsite the fact you are married that another woman would smile at you or find you attractive. Then you get be all like yeah well I'm a catch and I'm taken. A guys ego sometimes needs to be stoked like that cause the wives and GF's don't always do that. Marriage can sometimes mean you just are. just like any woman wants her husband of BF to make her feel attractive in a way that she outshines any woman in a room. It's not a matter of being so forward to push yourself on a person or cheat, it's just a ego boost. To know your still attractive. I may not have explained that well enough, but I get it jazz. I think a guy's mind works really weird when it comes to stuff like that and men read all kinds of things into nothing. Once nick got pissed cause a man helped me get my coffee order the staff had forgot and nick went off cause the man was nice to me he was interested an so was I. Men= Strange

My dearest friend called to tell me she and her live in boyfriend have taken on pre marriage counseling class and she hates it She asked me, why cant he just want to get married the old fashion way and elope.

Sorry Becca, but I didn't interpret it like you did. Jazz is saying that a married man can initiate the smile or flirting in hopes of getting feedback that boosts his ego. That just has a huge ewwwww factor.

it's okay Bmac. We differ on it. I dont jazz would do it for a affair, but a smile is nothing. Depending on the flirting it can be nothing as well. Some men are just overly friendly as are some women. I call all my guy friends Hun. But, I'm not flirting.

And just to clairfy, I'm not talking about Jazzman or any other man specifically, just married men in general. I know that a smile doesn't equal cheating. There are a few married men whose smiles I would definitely return. Is George Clooney married?

I think I might more than smile at mr. clooney

No, it's because they look at the ring finger before they meet your gaze. If they see a ring, they don't even bother. At least the decent ones don't


Rrrrrrrrreally???? Do tell! He can't be that much older. And you are very mature for your age. You're practically emancipated!


Well, well, well! I guess we know what BMaC does in her spare time! Lucky you! Lucky him!

^^ The quote you pulled veebs what Bmac said is why some men don't feel the need to do that They got a wife or GF who keeps things hot.

My friend and I talked about this between earl and er. It's a interesting topic to debate really. I was surprised when she didn't think a smile or a little flirt was bad as long as it wasn't suggestive or crude. She puzzles me at times

You've hit the nail on the head. All except the Men = Strange part. That was way off.

Well, that's not really what I meant. He's more important to me than anyone else and I pay attention to him and he pays attention to me. It's not just sex.
Ok, now I'm gonna stay the heck out of the Singles Thread.