Becca, I'm glad it seems like he may have believed you. Stick with that. But I don't agree with you apologizing. even if you did some mean stuff (and we all do) he has done far worse to you.

Yeah, but I think apologizing is more of a good step for her. He may not deserve it, but her apologizing is like another step in moving on. It's almost like forgiveness (if not, it's at least forgiving herself). Or it's more like letting go of the past.

I disagree. It shows maturity to be civil in this situation. Consider Pam and Roy in The Negotiation.

^^^ Exactly! Good example, Jazz.

I see your points. I just think he should apologize first. After she apologized, did he? No, he said she didn't do anything wrong, but he never said that he did.

True, and it sucks. He should apologize. But, it's not about him anymore. It's about her and she just needs to do what is going to make her feel better. She can't sit around waiting for him to apologize. It may never come.

And imo, in a weird and twisted way, by Becca apologizing without the need to hear it from him first, it is kinda like a kick in the crotch to him anyway. It says, "I'm mature enough and big enough that I can move on regardless of what you do for me. So pfffft. "

( Becca, sorry we're kinda talking about this without you.)

Becca apologizing was a nice thing to do and it speaks volumes about her character. However, at some point it has to stop or people will take advantage of her. She can't always be the person apologizing and mending fences.

Wow PiP! That was really big of you to admit that you're playing games with him. That has to be really hard for you since you haven't sorted out how you feel about him yet.

You're right. I guess it depends on WHY she's apologizing.

Good point!

Thank you .

And yes, it's been a constant challenge. Part of me wants to return his call & be like OMG I missed you soooo much!!! Than again, I have a feeling he wants me to do that. He wants me to fall back into his lap & act all giddy, like nothing happened. But that's not gonna happen. I'm going to play it cool & contact him when I feel the timing is right. But at the same time, it's killing me because like you said, I have not sorted out how I feel about him. What if I continue to do this & he moves on in the process because he possibly likes me this time around. I would use the word lose, but how can I lose something I never had? I have a feeling he would not wait because there are many other girls who like him.

I don't think I've ever had this problem with a guy before. Usually when I like them, they like me so there are no complications. But with Mikey, it's a whole other story.

why did I say I'm sorry. Cause I've told him that this what ever we are, what ever we are doing can't go on. And I cried while I said it cause it was real for me. I know that the end the real true end is so close. you can feel a natural progression when something has ran it's course and this has. I cried cause I was sad, mad and lonely all this time. I was sorry cause I entered into a relationship he would have never started in the first place . I was sorry that I when I told him to leave that very first time he couldn't cause we already grown attached. i was sorry for being mean, spiteful, demanding for projecting things on him when I knew he couldn't do it. I was sorry that we both have gotten our hearts broken and sorry we both love each other still. I won't be mending any more fences.

^^^I know sometimes it seems like we're hard on you, but we only want what's best. Even so, I am still sorry you have been through so much pain.

I get it. I finally just think its really hit me deep inside that what this is, is over really.

That's too funny jazz.

I just heard my boss call his lawyer and ask him to do a "check" on his daughter's new boyfriend!!!

Sometimes the way to a stable relationship is far more exhausting than just dating. Enough said

Stable? Qu'est-ce que c'est 'stable'?

Stable, normal, not insane, or multiple personality is all that I'm leaving on my check list right now

I have a valentine for today. He's quite popular, & his name is Jack Daniels.

^^ mmm must be related to mine, Marg-arita

I got a couple of emails that were guy friends that were nice. one from someone I don't know but said he knows me and it was a boderline 976 transcript. eeewwww
nick and I spoke and it was fine, but I'm having fun with my drink more

This was my first Valentine's with a Valentine. It was lovely.

It was just another Saturday to me...although I did get a very sweet gift (a pretty potted tulip) from my daughter's BF, and my dad baked us some yummy cookies.

I wonder what unhappily married people call the day.

BullS*** day. jazz

I got this email from nick, after I had left him one asking about something that he would remember, cause I couldn't. Was nice cause I write my emails to friends like I am talking to them. I guess it's been awhile. I got this response that said, I miss your emails, you are so mad in a lovely way. Kinda nice eh.
I am still not all hooked up on the whole getting back together.

Sammy you got cookies?? Lucky gal you.

Awww, that's sweet.

My brother bought us chocolate covered pretzels.

Works for me.

1 guy said he'd like to kiss me today
1 guy said he still loves me(guess who that is)
1 guy said I need to make him first in my life if I want to be with him.

1 girl said F off all of you

You go girlfriend!!!!!

That's my Becca

Becca!!

This one is for all the gals out there:

Why Do Girls Go For Jerks?

^^ I think veebs they have a anti A-Hole cloaking device

I spent the day (single) but with my parents, one of my sisters, her husband and their two little kids at a dinosaur museum. Not sure what the metaphor for this should be for me but I have always been a little slow in that department. Alright, a lot slow. Anyone?

Sincerely,

Single, employed, non player, not a criminal, not a drunk or druggie, straight and not a jerk.

I forgot to mention stunningly handsome and having a good laugh at myself right now. Maybe it's because I am going for the Guinness record for the longest nose hair? LOL!

Welcome, GrantB25! My dad has an extra nose hair trimmer. So how old are you?






I think love infatuation is blind to A-holes.

[quote name='vbarkley' date='Feb 18 2009, 10:37 PM' post='3699536']
Welcome, GrantB25! My dad has an extra nose hair trimmer. So how old are you?

Thanks for the welcome, a ripe old 41, just turned in january. Is it sanitary to use someone else's nose hair trimmer? Or how about finger nail clippers for that matter? How long would my nose hair have to be before a woman would not date me? Is that a mustache kind of length or something longer than that ?

Sometimes it's not sanitary to use your own nose hair trimmer. Have you seen Harold and Kumar Go To White Castle?

I forgot to mention that I found these trimmers on the floor of a bus. That movie is an inspiration to all stoners. I fell very privileged to have two User Moderators to talk to. Guess I scared vbarkley off when I said I was 41 though.

Have a great day

VB doesn't scare easily

Welcome aboard!

I don't have the nose hair problem. Or back hair. But I do get hair on my feet. Like a hobbit!

My dad made me go into CVS once to get him a nose hair trimmer.

Pup.

This year, I had no date on Valentine's day...just some family gathering and chocolate egg hunting...

I doubt it. Prepare yourself for the Presidential Question . . .

The Presidential question!

Hey, aren't VB and GrantB the same age? Or close?

Close.

Is someone going to let me in on the "Presidential question? The not knowing is causing me to eat lots and lots of blueberries and I feel like pizza

I predict that she will ask you who was President the year you were born. So be prepared!

again no cute men at the court house. I did see a ocean of law enforcement mustaches