QUOTE (rocker creed @ Mar 4 2009, 07:57 AM) 
But one of them actually is wrong 
Or faking it.
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Or faking it.
QUOTE (mixedberries_1 @ Mar 4 2009, 01:55 PM)
Or faking it.
Good one Mixed!!!!
QUOTE (BlueJeanBaby05 @ Mar 4 2009, 12:01 PM)
Ugggh, this guy reminds me so much of "Matt". I dated "Matt" for three weeks in 8th grade. But he was my first kiss and had these piercing blue eyes that seemed to look into your soul and for a long time everytime I saw him he made my stomach do flips and I would get goosebumps.
He did the exact same thing to me. He'd call for a while, make me think we had something going and then just stop again. He'd make eye contact with me in the hallway and smile and make it look like he wanted me. He'd sit across from me in the library and play footsie with me, making my skin flush and totally would distract me. But then he'd drop me cold. He drove me crazy!
This went on for two years when finally the summer before H.S. (10th grade), we had a heavy make out session and that's when everything stopped for me. I no longer desired him and he didn't have that effect on me anymore. I no longer sat by the phone waiting for him to call. I guess dangling that carrot in front of me for so long and then finally giving it to me kinda ruined his game plan. (But he was a d@mn good kisser).
The thing was, it took me a while for me to figure out that I wasn't the only one. He was doing this to at least one other girl, we'll call her "Mary". He also dated "Mary" briefly in 7th Grade. Except the difference was, Mary made it no secret that she still had feelings for "Matt" (unlike I, who was shy and kept my run-in's with Matt private). Matt basically made her look like a fool.
He made it look like she was the one contacting him and had no reason to be lovesick over him. Everyone believed it, because most people thought he was out of her league. I later went and apologized to her, because I should have known, I should have figured it out sooner and I should have sticked up for her.
Anyway, another 1.5 years later (now the middle of 11th grade) I start dating ED and some people were like WTF? Why?
Matt being the ring-leader in that bunch. Shortly there after I ran into in the library and he proceeded to question who I chose to date and how I could go from dating him (and listing two other people he considered in his league) to dating someone like ED. (To me the answer was obvious). Then he had the audacity to tell me that Ed and his friends (MY FRIENDS) acted lik their sh!t don't stink and I just laughed at the irony of it all. So, not only was I not having feelings for this guy at all, I began to wonder what I ever could have possibly ever seen in him.
And just to make it clear, the ED I was dating in highschool that some people questioned what I was doing with is the same one I've been with for 13 years and am now married to for 7.5. TYVM.
Jump forward 11.5 years to the 10 year HS reunion and I haven't seen "Matt" for 10 years at all. We don't even speak at the reunion because frankly, I hardly even noticed he was there. BUT, he actually pulls ED's twin brother aside and tells Jim that he's still in love with me. LMFAO! Are you kidding me? This little boy is still playing the same stupid games he was playing in Jr. High!!
(Furthermore, "Matt" has done nothing with his life what-so-ever and again, the irony kills me. Hmmmm... why would I ever consider dating someone like ED?)
Sorry, this is a long post to make my point, but my point is, PiP, that it's true that some boys never grow up to be men and you are moving in the right direction. There will come a point where some guy will most likely sweep you off your feet and mean it and "Mikey" will become just a blip in your life and you'll look back and just laugh because you can hold your head high. If he does eventually grow up, well then good for him, but you don't need to wait.
I think you are well on your way.
He did the exact same thing to me. He'd call for a while, make me think we had something going and then just stop again. He'd make eye contact with me in the hallway and smile and make it look like he wanted me. He'd sit across from me in the library and play footsie with me, making my skin flush and totally would distract me. But then he'd drop me cold. He drove me crazy!
This went on for two years when finally the summer before H.S. (10th grade), we had a heavy make out session and that's when everything stopped for me. I no longer desired him and he didn't have that effect on me anymore. I no longer sat by the phone waiting for him to call. I guess dangling that carrot in front of me for so long and then finally giving it to me kinda ruined his game plan. (But he was a d@mn good kisser).
The thing was, it took me a while for me to figure out that I wasn't the only one. He was doing this to at least one other girl, we'll call her "Mary". He also dated "Mary" briefly in 7th Grade. Except the difference was, Mary made it no secret that she still had feelings for "Matt" (unlike I, who was shy and kept my run-in's with Matt private). Matt basically made her look like a fool.
He made it look like she was the one contacting him and had no reason to be lovesick over him. Everyone believed it, because most people thought he was out of her league. I later went and apologized to her, because I should have known, I should have figured it out sooner and I should have sticked up for her.Anyway, another 1.5 years later (now the middle of 11th grade) I start dating ED and some people were like WTF? Why?
Matt being the ring-leader in that bunch. Shortly there after I ran into in the library and he proceeded to question who I chose to date and how I could go from dating him (and listing two other people he considered in his league) to dating someone like ED. (To me the answer was obvious). Then he had the audacity to tell me that Ed and his friends (MY FRIENDS) acted lik their sh!t don't stink and I just laughed at the irony of it all. So, not only was I not having feelings for this guy at all, I began to wonder what I ever could have possibly ever seen in him. And just to make it clear, the ED I was dating in highschool that some people questioned what I was doing with is the same one I've been with for 13 years and am now married to for 7.5. TYVM.
Jump forward 11.5 years to the 10 year HS reunion and I haven't seen "Matt" for 10 years at all. We don't even speak at the reunion because frankly, I hardly even noticed he was there. BUT, he actually pulls ED's twin brother aside and tells Jim that he's still in love with me. LMFAO! Are you kidding me? This little boy is still playing the same stupid games he was playing in Jr. High!!
(Furthermore, "Matt" has done nothing with his life what-so-ever and again, the irony kills me. Hmmmm... why would I ever consider dating someone like ED?)
Sorry, this is a long post to make my point, but my point is, PiP, that it's true that some boys never grow up to be men and you are moving in the right direction. There will come a point where some guy will most likely sweep you off your feet and mean it and "Mikey" will become just a blip in your life and you'll look back and just laugh because you can hold your head high. If he does eventually grow up, well then good for him, but you don't need to wait.
I think you are well on your way.
I really, really appreciate your story. I learnt from it & even though Mikey & I never dated, I could see myself in some of the stuff you mentioned. But without a doubt, Matt was a grade a jack@ss. Good for you for moving on. And thank you
.There are lots of Matts & Mikey's in the world. Even though they don't like us, they don't want us dating someone else. The reason why I say that is that they realize that if we're with another guy, we won't be showering them with affection, attention & admiration. They'll feel naked without us contacting 'em 24/7 & they know that when we're in a relationship, we'll only focus our affections on our boyfriends & not them.
I've known some "Mary's" too & at one point, I've been a Mary myself back in highschool. The guy who was my HS Mikey is now, like you said, a blip in my life. Mikey too will be a blip. He's never been worthy of me & it sucks that it took this long to realize it but hey, at least it happened. Instead of dipping my toes in the water when it came to him, I jumped in with both feet without any precaution. There were tons of signs that told me to move on & I ignored me but sometimes, it takes advice from others for me to wake up. I keep waiting, hoping & praying for him to feel the same way but obviously, it won't happen. But since he's out of my life, there's no way that will ever happen.
And while I'm tempted to contact him & let him know how I feel, I won't do it. He needs to sit down &, like any other adult, figure it all out. He's not some little child & I'm not his mommy, meaning I'm not gonna sit him down & explain what he did. Those days are gone & as an adult, he needs to learn what he did & realize that he can't do that anymore to any other woman. I can't keep telling him what he does wrong & even if I do, he brushes it off & claims that "he's always talked" & that "he's always nice" However, with him talking to females from literally every part of the globe (he adds random girls & talks to them!!!) I doubt he'll wise up & I doubt they'll catch on. Until the days comes where no girls pays him attention, he just won't care. I'm sure one loss is nothing for him.
*eta* And Rocker, I've known girls like Rachel. They will use & abuse any guy that likes them without a hint of remorse or guilt. They take whatever they want, & give nothing in return. Very sad & quite pathetic. They're human leeches.
QUOTE (prettyinpink86 @ Mar 4 2009, 02:07 AM)
And another time, when I asked him to do something, he said he has to check if it's ok.
Haha, my friend 'Joe" is like that. What that means is that he has to wait and see if a better offer comes along. Joe finally 'manned up', and would tell us, "There's a 30% chance I might be there." We started calling him The Weatherman. QUOTE (rocker creed @ Mar 4 2009, 11:18 AM)
Maybe we should set him up with 'Rachel' - the girl I drove to Wisconsin to see, who then broke up with me and borrowed my car to date her new boyfriend.
Oh, I love it!!!! Let's set up all of our narcissistic exes with each other! They deserve it.
my friend told me today if I joined a online dating service she'd join one too since she is too scared to try it alone. I am really going to look over the main sites for this, if anyone has suggestions let me know.
taking my love life in my own hands again
taking my love life in my own hands again
QUOTE (vbarkley @ Mar 5 2009, 02:15 AM)
Haha, my friend 'Joe" is like that. What that means is that he has to wait and see if a better offer comes along. Joe finally 'manned up', and would tell us, "There's a 30% chance I might be there." We started calling him The Weatherman.
That's awesome .Well, Mikey & I are finally going to hang out. We're going to watch a Canucks game on March 17th & I got tickets from my mom, who received them free from her work. However, in my defense, Mikey & I agreed to go to the game before the whole ordeal happened. As much as he's a royal arse, I cannot uninvite him. And even if I did, nobody else can go. All my friends are either working, or they're going out to celebrate St. Patrick's day. However, I did invite euro snob & I would never invite her. Also, it's far from a date. We're just there to watch our local NHL team take on the Dallas Stars. And with 18,000+ other people there, it doesn't leave much to do. However, I made the effort to re-ask him if he does really wanna go & he replied with, "Well, you know I'd go." And if I was worried about me liking him again, I'd lie & scalp the tickets. With all the action happening on the ice, I doubt we'll talk. I've been to past Canucks game & I've barely talked to the person who I was
. I'm obviously not anti-social but whenever I do talk, I usually miss a goal or fight .
QUOTE (prettyinpink86 @ Mar 7 2009, 12:35 AM)
However, in my defense, Mikey & I agreed to go to the game before the whole ordeal happened. As much as he's a royal arse, I cannot uninvite him.
Well, actually, you could uninvite him. I understand you wanting to stick to your word, and that says something about your character. If you really wanted to though, I could understand you telling him you just didn't want to waste your time hanging out with him. Painful, but true, and maybe he needs to hear it.There's something to be said for telling people the truth.
QUOTE (vbarkley @ Mar 7 2009, 12:46 AM)
Well, actually, you could uninvite him. I understand you wanting to stick to your word, and that says something about your character. If you really wanted to though, I could understand you telling him you just didn't want to waste your time hanging out with him. Painful, but true, and maybe he needs to hear it.
There's something to be said for telling people the truth.
There's something to be said for telling people the truth.
Ooh thats a really good idea actually. Thanks! Like you said, it'll be painful but there are certain things people need to hear. He pretty much did the same thing to me, instead he "expressed" it by ignoring me, instead of putting it into words.
I said it once & I'll say it again...you're amazing
.My younger sister adores him, despite what he's done. She's been wanting us to date for the longest time & when I told my mom whom I'm giving the extra ticket to, she burst into the room & exclaimed, "Finally!"
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Some guy friend of mine asked me for dating adviced I laughed so hard and said WTF do I know about dating
Him: You know, you're a whole different kind of nerd than I am.
Me: What?
Him: Well, i'm more of the pop culture sort of nerd, and you're more of the yell out chemistry facts while you sleep sort of nerd.
Me: What is the compatibility on that?
This could be a problem.
Me: What?
Him: Well, i'm more of the pop culture sort of nerd, and you're more of the yell out chemistry facts while you sleep sort of nerd.
Me: What is the compatibility on that?
This could be a problem.
How does he know what you do while you sleep???????? 
Compatability, schmompatability.
Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger.
Compatability, schmompatability.
Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger.
We know a lot about each other. Too much. Way too much.
QUOTE (hottestinoffice @ Mar 7 2009, 06:32 PM)
We know a lot about each other. Too much. Way too much.
Madonna fan? He seems like a really nice guy.
QUOTE (rocker creed @ Mar 7 2009, 08:34 PM)
Madonna fan? He seems like a really nice guy.
Yes.
He's definitely a good guy.
Aww hottest sounds like a nice match.
I was told today by a certain guy I know, that he thinks some girl is pretty, but not as pretty as I am. Should I have kissed him?
I was told today by a certain guy I know, that he thinks some girl is pretty, but not as pretty as I am. Should I have kissed him?
awwww my fb friend said he's gotten a crush on me. woo hoo I'm popular
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 7 2009, 03:13 AM)
Some guy friend of mine asked me for dating adviced I laughed so hard and said WTF do I know about dating
You learn more from your failures than from your successes.
QUOTE (Jazzman_1 @ Mar 9 2009, 09:23 AM)
You learn more from your failures than from your successes.
I agree 1000%, and that statement holds true & really applies to relationship situations. I learn more from a broken heart than I ever did while being happy with a guy. In fact, I don't think one needs to experience a solid romantic relationship in order to give advice. We're able to adapt to a form in which we learn while watching others around us. In fact, sometimes it feels like we're living a relationship through what our friends tell us etc. I dunno, maybe I'm wrong but that's what I feel when it comes to advice & romantic relationships.
Nick is poo, I told him he was BS and after not talking to me since sunday via a text, he responded with 2 texts messages, one said, it's not always easy hunxx. The other said, think and say what you like xx again, he's poo.
The guy who's said hes got the crush, sent me a email, I am missing you, terrible isn't it?
I didn't know really what to say , not gonna call him now, I left him a response that said, how can you miss me when you know where I am already.
Is that too flirty or not flirty enough?
The guy who's said hes got the crush, sent me a email, I am missing you, terrible isn't it?
I didn't know really what to say , not gonna call him now, I left him a response that said, how can you miss me when you know where I am already.
Is that too flirty or not flirty enough?
There could be a TV show about your love life Becca! This thread is the first place I head to each morning so I can read what's up with you today.
This thread is the first place I head to each morning so I can read what's up with you today.
My headaches are everyones amusement
This morning as in OT, Nick dropped a house on me nearly literally, he's moving. Only a few miles away. but he already bought it and everything and I just heard about it today. He said he will tell me everything in less than a hour. Yes I want to know. I've been told by him not be moody with him, stop taking the a$$ as well and of course the I love you was said by him and I'm just ready scream.
The guy who said he is crushing on me well after I was on line late last night he IM'd me. He got to talking to me and we had a little flirty thing I guess and just comes out with, I want to meet you. I made him do the whole 20 questions thing and we dont have too much in common though.I think he likes going through my on line pics more than anything and has built up something in his head cause he said as well he likes my fake eye lashes. I don't wear them. I want to talk to him more before I do anything.
And all I can think about is nick now and this talk. And this other guy I don't know. Is it cause spring is on it's way and this is why I'm getting the flux of interest in me again?
Oh talk about screwed up. Peter, he called yesterday. He's gonna have a baby and is engaged and says I like talking to you it's nice huh. I said yeah. He said we're always going to be close you know that despite anything else. I said, sure we'll always be friends evenif we didn't work out. He said, good cause you are special to me and such a sexy girl not to be friends with.
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You men have something wrong in the head, it's called your brain.
This morning as in OT, Nick dropped a house on me nearly literally, he's moving. Only a few miles away. but he already bought it and everything and I just heard about it today. He said he will tell me everything in less than a hour. Yes I want to know. I've been told by him not be moody with him, stop taking the a$$ as well and of course the I love you was said by him and I'm just ready scream.
The guy who said he is crushing on me well after I was on line late last night he IM'd me. He got to talking to me and we had a little flirty thing I guess and just comes out with, I want to meet you. I made him do the whole 20 questions thing and we dont have too much in common though.I think he likes going through my on line pics more than anything and has built up something in his head cause he said as well he likes my fake eye lashes. I don't wear them. I want to talk to him more before I do anything.
And all I can think about is nick now and this talk. And this other guy I don't know. Is it cause spring is on it's way and this is why I'm getting the flux of interest in me again?
Oh talk about screwed up. Peter, he called yesterday. He's gonna have a baby and is engaged and says I like talking to you it's nice huh. I said yeah. He said we're always going to be close you know that despite anything else. I said, sure we'll always be friends evenif we didn't work out. He said, good cause you are special to me and such a sexy girl not to be friends with.
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You men have something wrong in the head, it's called your brain.
I think it's his hanging brain...
QUOTE (vbarkley @ Mar 12 2009, 03:55 AM)
I think it's his hanging brain...
Lmao WTF is it with Mikey's friends? A few days ago, I learnt that another one of 'em thinks I'm cute. I mean, that's a nice feeling knowing that but at the same time, I'm not one of those egocentric people who live off knowing that people like 'em. I only care about admiration & attention if it comes from the guy like. That makes three now & sadly, none of 'em do it for me
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For those wondering, Mikey & I are officially through. We are no longer part of each other's life. I finally put my foot down & told him what I should've said months ago. It seemed like he didn't really care but I really didn't expect anything else. I think he eventually realized that we're not meant to be friends or anything like that. I'm not sure if he knows that he really did use me but as long as he does figure that out, I don't care how long it takes. As long as he stops doing what he did to me to other girls, I'll be happy. I cannot be the only one who he has lead on. Honestly, I thought I'd be sad but I didn't really care at all & it's probably cause I've been holding in these feelings for so long. I also felt like a completly new person, someone who's just been reborn. To lose him & his friends feels so brilliant & it feels like I lost 400+ pounds . I just wish I listened to you guys & did it sooner than later, as I would not have to ask him to attend the game with me. He'll be 26 next month & I really, really hope he wises up cause he cannot continue through life this way, treating girls like that. I don't expect him to grow up anytime soon but I do feel sorry for the next girl who goes through what I did. I just hope there's no other girl but I can never really tell. But yes, I've moved on & it feels effing fabulous. Thanks to all who listened to me & offered support & advice. You've all helped in ways & I cannot explain .
. I just wish I listened to you guys & did it sooner than later, as I would not have to ask him to attend the game with me. He'll be 26 next month & I really, really hope he wises up cause he cannot continue through life this way, treating girls like that. I don't expect him to grow up anytime soon but I do feel sorry for the next girl who goes through what I did. I just hope there's no other girl but I can never really tell. But yes, I've moved on & it feels effing fabulous. Thanks to all who listened to me & offered support & advice. You've all helped in ways & I cannot explain .
QUOTE (prettyinpink86 @ Mar 12 2009, 04:24 PM)
Lmao WTF is it with Mikey's friends? A few days ago, I learnt that another one of 'em thinks I'm cute. I mean, that's a nice feeling knowing that but at the same time, I'm not one of those egocentric people who live off knowing that people like 'em. I only care about admiration & attention if it comes from the guy like. That makes three now & sadly, none of 'em do it for me
.They were probably just feeling you out. Trying to find out, you know, if you are interested. Especially since whatever was going on between you and Mikey is through. Maybe they thought they had a chance. Personally, I think it's good that they don't do it for you. It will give you some more distance between you and Mikey. (And you never know about the friends that he keeps, they could be just like them. Stressing the words "could be", they not necessarily "are". )
Well pip I hope it all works out and mikey learns from it like you said.
Crazy guy blew up at me yesterday and I told him, this friendship thing isn't working, i can't talk to you at all anymore. So that's all done for sure.
And I just gave up and I think unless one of us gets married to someone else nick and I are always going to be in each other lives. It may not be ideal but the friendship thing we have yeah it crosses lines cause of the history at times but I'm going to just leave as it is.
Crazy guy blew up at me yesterday and I told him, this friendship thing isn't working, i can't talk to you at all anymore. So that's all done for sure.
And I just gave up and I think unless one of us gets married to someone else nick and I are always going to be in each other lives. It may not be ideal but the friendship thing we have yeah it crosses lines cause of the history at times but I'm going to just leave as it is.
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 12 2009, 04:26 PM)
Crazy guy blew up at me yesterday and I told him, this friendship thing isn't working, i can't talk to you at all anymore. So that's all done for sure.
Is 'crazy guy' the same guy as 'new guy' OR is 'crazy guy' the same as 'crush guy' OR someone totally different? Wait! Or is 'crazy' the one that's going to be a father?
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 12 2009, 06:26 PM)
And I just gave up and I think unless one of us gets married to someone else nick and I are always going to be in each other lives. It may not be ideal but the friendship thing we have yeah it crosses lines cause of the history at times but I'm going to just leave as it is.
Gave up? What do you think you gave up? If you give in, you let him win.
QUOTE (BlueJeanBaby05 @ Mar 12 2009, 04:56 PM)
They were probably just feeling you out. Trying to find out, you know, if you are interested. Especially since whatever was going on between you and Mikey is through. Maybe they thought they had a chance. Personally, I think it's good that they don't do it for you. It will give you some more distance between you and Mikey. (And you never know about the friends that he keeps, they could be just like them. Stressing the words "could be", they not necessarily "are". )
I agree. Two of them tried to feel me out during the course of when I liked Mikey & the strange thing is, they knew that I had feelings for him. One of them went as far as to ask me out but I politetly told him no. I assumed Mikey didn't like me because what kind of friend would ask a girl out when they know the other friend likes her? Than again, that doesn't apply to all friends. I personally wouldn't do it, but I've known people who would. Chances are, if I was never interested them in the past, I won't be interested in them in the present or the future. I also realize that if I associate myself with any of them, platonic or romantic, Mikey will remain a part of my life as I'm sure I'll see him when I'm one of them. I also know them because I know him so giving them up isn't a huge ordeal, as it's not like I'm sacrificing someone I met before him. And really, I don't consider them friends. They're more like acquitances. As I said, I only know them because of him but in order to really move on, I'll have to cut out people that tie us together.
I wonder if Mikey told them what I said & if he did, I wonder if he twisted the words to make him sound like he's innocent. One of them claimed that they never share anything amongst each other, but I doubt it. It does make me wonder if they ever told Mikey that they like me but really, that doesn't affect me at all. I'm the sort of person that doesn't lead someone on. Like, if I know a guy likes me & I don't feel the same way, I'll gently tell them so they can move on. I don't want them missing out on other girls just because they maybe feel that I have feelings for them.
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 12 2009, 06:26 PM)
And I just gave up and I think unless one of us gets married to someone else nick and I are always going to be in each other lives. It may not be ideal but the friendship thing we have yeah it crosses lines cause of the history at times but I'm going to just leave as it is.
Ummm, I haven't seen any signs at all that he is your friend. 
crazy guy was the new guy, I have a crush guy and the guy I still like but is engaged to someone else is now a creepy guy, cause he has recently hit on me. I hope that is clearer RC
I say friendship cause there are times where there is basic good common manners between us. I dont know what else to call it. It just is what is it and I've not let him win, I just am tired of the tug o'war and rather just do this than argue with him.
I say friendship cause there are times where there is basic good common manners between us. I dont know what else to call it. It just is what is it and I've not let him win, I just am tired of the tug o'war and rather just do this than argue with him.
ok since RC gets a kick out of this.
Nick hunted me down and couldnt find me, last night late he found me on line. I came on here looking for you, I am worried about you, we've not talked for awhile. Is what he says. I explain to him about my leg and he says to rest and tells me about his new place and says I should see it soon, it's nice. Yeah right, thats never gonna happen. But it was a nice 20 min chat on line and that was that.
Now my one guy friend I've had for ages and never liked nick cause he said he was too old for me starts in on me today through texts. Apparently drinking makes him honest and more crazy, he starts in about nick and then starts in about how he asked me to marry him twice and I turned him down and he tried to be my boyfriend and he loves me an needs me and I'm the one pushing him away cause I don't know how to love anyone when they get close. I sent him a text back saying get therapy. He sent me one back, I don't care about that other girl who likes me, you mean the world to me.
Drunks and crazies is what they all turn into. I've not talked to him since,but I left his best friend a message to chill the F out.
Can you believe nick is the most normal out of all of em. We have real conversations now an there is no pressure with the relationship aspect hanging over us.
Nick hunted me down and couldnt find me, last night late he found me on line. I came on here looking for you, I am worried about you, we've not talked for awhile. Is what he says. I explain to him about my leg and he says to rest and tells me about his new place and says I should see it soon, it's nice. Yeah right, thats never gonna happen. But it was a nice 20 min chat on line and that was that.
Now my one guy friend I've had for ages and never liked nick cause he said he was too old for me starts in on me today through texts. Apparently drinking makes him honest and more crazy, he starts in about nick and then starts in about how he asked me to marry him twice and I turned him down and he tried to be my boyfriend and he loves me an needs me and I'm the one pushing him away cause I don't know how to love anyone when they get close. I sent him a text back saying get therapy. He sent me one back, I don't care about that other girl who likes me, you mean the world to me.
Drunks and crazies is what they all turn into. I've not talked to him since,but I left his best friend a message to chill the F out.
Can you believe nick is the most normal out of all of em. We have real conversations now an there is no pressure with the relationship aspect hanging over us.
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 16 2009, 12:44 AM)
ok since RC gets a kick out of this.
I do! I just picture these guys reading your FB wall and going crazy when other guys post there!
Ok, maybe Nick doesn't seem like he does that, but some of those other guys do!
Just for RC...the update
Crazy drunk ex friend sends me texts back last night apparently me telling off and all that got him mad so in a span of a few hours he went from I love you to you are a fat bitoch and you did me a favor by saying no. Again, he started in with the other BS, you will be alone for ever and I'm happy nick dumped you. But the cherry on the sundae was the text a 7 am in a massive drunk attack on me, why dont you do the world a favor and shoot and kill yourself like your dad if you are lucky you'll get it right, go to hell. Yeah wasn't that so nice of him. So I couldn't help but read it and fall back asleep soundly I might ad. What a a$$ but I'm not bothered by it, isn't that sad, I'm that used to his outburst over the last 10 years.
I've gotten a few messages from people who know this history saying it's nothing and you did the right thing by telling him the truth. I know I did.
Nick then left me a email saying he's sorry for not being around as much but he's glad that I'm on the mend since I did reply to his last email. And not to call myself a fat broken mess cause he loves me at any size but not too skinny cause apparently I dont look right. WTH? But who cares. So I notice he left me a pic as well with my mail and I opened it and it's him being his usual silly self with no shirt. Which made me laugh. I left him a VM, either your trying to frustrate me or give me a boost on my quest to get healthier, either way Im confused, but keep em coming
And I had a nice little chat with a board member on IM about all of it and he's been been nice enough to listen to it all.
Now what do I do about the guy who wants to drive 7 hrs to meet me for dinner and talk since I'm in his words a delight to chat to every day.
hope you enjoyed my little drama RC
Crazy drunk ex friend sends me texts back last night apparently me telling off and all that got him mad so in a span of a few hours he went from I love you to you are a fat bitoch and you did me a favor by saying no. Again, he started in with the other BS, you will be alone for ever and I'm happy nick dumped you. But the cherry on the sundae was the text a 7 am in a massive drunk attack on me, why dont you do the world a favor and shoot and kill yourself like your dad if you are lucky you'll get it right, go to hell. Yeah wasn't that so nice of him. So I couldn't help but read it and fall back asleep soundly I might ad. What a a$$ but I'm not bothered by it, isn't that sad, I'm that used to his outburst over the last 10 years.
I've gotten a few messages from people who know this history saying it's nothing and you did the right thing by telling him the truth. I know I did.
Nick then left me a email saying he's sorry for not being around as much but he's glad that I'm on the mend since I did reply to his last email. And not to call myself a fat broken mess cause he loves me at any size but not too skinny cause apparently I dont look right. WTH? But who cares. So I notice he left me a pic as well with my mail and I opened it and it's him being his usual silly self with no shirt. Which made me laugh. I left him a VM, either your trying to frustrate me or give me a boost on my quest to get healthier, either way Im confused, but keep em coming
And I had a nice little chat with a board member on IM about all of it and he's been been nice enough to listen to it all.
Now what do I do about the guy who wants to drive 7 hrs to meet me for dinner and talk since I'm in his words a delight to chat to every day.
hope you enjoyed my little drama RC
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 16 2009, 01:24 PM)
Just for RC...the update
Crazy drunk ex friend sends me texts back last night apparently me telling off and all that got him mad so in a span of a few hours he went from I love you to you are a fat bitoch and you did me a favor by saying no. Again, he started in with the other BS, you will be alone for ever and I'm happy nick dumped you. But the cherry on the sundae was the text a 7 am in a massive drunk attack on me, why dont you do the world a favor and shoot and kill yourself like your dad if you are lucky you'll get it right, go to hell. Yeah wasn't that so nice of him. So I couldn't help but read it and fall back asleep soundly I might ad. What a a$$ but I'm not bothered by it, isn't that sad, I'm that used to his outburst over the last 10 years.
Crazy drunk ex friend sends me texts back last night apparently me telling off and all that got him mad so in a span of a few hours he went from I love you to you are a fat bitoch and you did me a favor by saying no. Again, he started in with the other BS, you will be alone for ever and I'm happy nick dumped you. But the cherry on the sundae was the text a 7 am in a massive drunk attack on me, why dont you do the world a favor and shoot and kill yourself like your dad if you are lucky you'll get it right, go to hell. Yeah wasn't that so nice of him. So I couldn't help but read it and fall back asleep soundly I might ad. What a a$$ but I'm not bothered by it, isn't that sad, I'm that used to his outburst over the last 10 years.
What kind of person would say that? That makes me mad Becca. What a jerk.
QUOTE (buymeacoke_1 @ Mar 16 2009, 02:35 PM)
What kind of person would say that? That makes me mad Becca. What a jerk.
I agree! That guy sounds like a total jerk.
Becca - If you vblogged your life you'd be an internet sensation!
But then you'd have 100 times the wacky men contacting you, so maybe that's not a good idea.
Oh I've thought about it, but my one blog is enough, for now
yeah he's been really mean and I know it's the booze but I can't be his friend, he's too much like my dad now. His friend just messaged me, saying I think you are cool and I never anything bad about you to him, thats how he is and we know his mad he missed out on a good thing. So I'm friends with his friend but not the guy. But he said I'm going to only say to him this is not how adults behave so grow up if he talks more about you.
Boys are silly creatures.
yeah he's been really mean and I know it's the booze but I can't be his friend, he's too much like my dad now. His friend just messaged me, saying I think you are cool and I never anything bad about you to him, thats how he is and we know his mad he missed out on a good thing. So I'm friends with his friend but not the guy. But he said I'm going to only say to him this is not how adults behave so grow up if he talks more about you.
Boys are silly creatures.
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 16 2009, 04:42 PM)
Boys are silly creatures.
Yes, they are. You need to find some men.
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 16 2009, 03:42 PM)
yeah he's been really mean and I know it's the booze but I can't be his friend, he's too much like my dad now. His friend just messaged me, saying I think you are cool and I never anything bad about you to him, thats how he is and we know his mad he missed out on a good thing. So I'm friends with his friend but not the guy. But he said I'm going to only say to him this is not how adults behave so grow up if he talks more about you.
Your love life has 'reality show' written all over it
It could be called 'Wanting Becca'.
An island is overdone, so they could put all these guys in one of those artic stations like in the movie 'The Thing'. They could have contests where the winner gets to chat online with you or send an email to you. Of course they would each get a private moment with the camera where they talk about their 'special connection with Becca'.
Coming next fall to Fox....
40 men....
An remote artic station....
And all 40 men are
Wanting Becca
^^ I just spit out my sweet tart.
Crazy guy left me a text after 4 pm. And I guess he wanted to know he is really mad at me. It says, I didn't read anything you sent me. I deleted them all.
Then in all bold caps is said..
You are a ugly fat lying bi*ch with fat gorilla hips and you can F**k right off and play with Nick all U want. You are dead to me.
yikes huh. If he was on the artic station he would have tried to cut a hole in the ice an throw me in.
I just spit out my sweet tart.Crazy guy left me a text after 4 pm. And I guess he wanted to know he is really mad at me. It says, I didn't read anything you sent me. I deleted them all.
Then in all bold caps is said..
You are a ugly fat lying bi*ch with fat gorilla hips and you can F**k right off and play with Nick all U want. You are dead to me.
yikes huh. If he was on the artic station he would have tried to cut a hole in the ice an throw me in.
mean guy with his texts, told his best friend, the best friend told me everything that was said and told me, I'm taking this to his family cause he's not right and I'm worried about the guy, he's a jerk and scary now. I feel bad for you.
then nick sends me this text I got your letter today and you are G D@mn right we are. I am sending you something, will be mailed to you directly, look for it, and I love you more mwahxx
I mailed that letter like 3 weeks ago and I totally forgot what I said in it. Crap
then nick sends me this text I got your letter today and you are G D@mn right we are. I am sending you something, will be mailed to you directly, look for it, and I love you more mwahxx
I mailed that letter like 3 weeks ago and I totally forgot what I said in it. Crap
RC, when are you pitching this show to the networks? Can we vote guys off?
first thing first, another male friend went all ape s*** on me and called me crazy. Apparently my interest in hearing that poor Liam neesons wife dying on the news ticked him off and I only care about things that don't matter. Then I told him I watch the news, I read news, you don't. I can't talk to you about anything important. He said what's important is you and I talking now, not things that don't affect us. I hung up on him he called back, hung up again and finally texted me, you are a waste of skin. Hmmmm does he know that other guy?? He's deleted and everything, so no more.
But nick and I talked today earlier and he laughed when I told him about my pedicure and how I was going out with my mom later. He said that what ever he's bought me was sent out the other day and hopes I enjoy it. We'll see if I get it.There is no face to face, cause it's better that way isn't it? I saw a easter card and couldn't resist so I bought it an sent it to him. A cute bunny saying how I know you do so much for me and you always do your best, you want to make me happy adn I appericate you so much because.... (and inside the card in bold it says) I'm worth it. I think he'll get the joke of it. But it was a nice conversation. That was my only bright spot when it comes to men today, very very sad
He's deleted and everything, so no more.But nick and I talked today earlier and he laughed when I told him about my pedicure and how I was going out with my mom later. He said that what ever he's bought me was sent out the other day and hopes I enjoy it. We'll see if I get it.There is no face to face, cause it's better that way isn't it? I saw a easter card and couldn't resist so I bought it an sent it to him. A cute bunny saying how I know you do so much for me and you always do your best, you want to make me happy adn I appericate you so much because.... (and inside the card in bold it says) I'm worth it. I think he'll get the joke of it. But it was a nice conversation. That was my only bright spot when it comes to men today, very very sad
I had a great long talk with nick today, nearly 2 hrs and it was the best talk we've had in ages
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 21 2009, 07:25 PM)
I had a great long talk with nick today, nearly 2 hrs and it was the best talk we've had in ages
That's nice Becca. You guys have been having some good talks lately.
We talked about everything and even though he knows everything, I told him everything and all he said well, it's over and done with. He's said that what ever happened doesn't matter cause he'll always be around. We talked about every stupid in my life and his right now. And honestly I felt so at ease. I told him I have to stop projecting things and just accept them as they come, so I didn't do a few things I wanted by a certain age, but doesn't mean it won't happen. I told him that so I didn't get married when I was 28 or 30. And I know I'm not having 4 kids. He butted in and said, well 3 atleast. I just kinda went quiet. I finally told him, well I'll be happy with what I get. We talked more. And I've been told that my ring is waiting for me next to his when I want it back. I thought he sold them after we broke up since it was so bad and stuff. We actually talked again last night too.
I know I can date and enjoy life with out nick, I found that out about myself and I did survive with out him, but I like life more when he's in it. I'm just not sure what role he's playing
I know I can date and enjoy life with out nick, I found that out about myself and I did survive with out him, but I like life more when he's in it. I'm just not sure what role he's playing
QUOTE (Fancy_New_Becca @ Mar 22 2009, 03:58 PM)
but I like life more when he's in it.
Maybe you guys will work things out and end up together.
I know you two had lots of problems in the past, but people change as they get older. Sometimes it sounds like you two are meant for each other.
it's offical we're back together. He's called me up and we had this talk about something that is going on his life that's worried him and myself now. He simply said I dont know what's going to happen and I'm not sure what to do. I told him that I wasn't sure what to tell him in that situation. I told him we've been going on like this for nearly 5 yrs, I met you when you were 37. And we both started laughing. he barely got out the line, oh how I've aged. (all his injuries and stuff) I said I've managed not to age a bit. He said no you've not. Every day of it, it's been a pleasure with you. I said it has, despite it all. He said then lets not waste it again. I said, okay. And now we're a couple once again. I just hope what is going on right now with him it works out an he's okay. I can live with out him knowing he's still around but I can't live with out him if he's not around.
Congrats Becca!
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