I needed a laugh today and I finally got it.

Someone is trying secret code to give me his email address on Yahoo Personals.

Gotta give the guy an A for audacity.

I'm not gonna contact him, though.

It sounds like men are going great lengths to meet you, Sammy!

I know. I don't mean to sound ungrateful. It was kind of cute.

But otherwise he's not my type.

hunk of burning love AT Gee-male dott Commie?

Something like that, yeah.

Maybe my engagement ring will have a secret decoder in it.

Whats wrong with the guy sammy besides the fact he talks in code:lol:

RC i love you nerw pic or Jam 2008. they are so cute together, they looked married

I know!! That's a great signature!

And so they should.


Why? Do tell all.

How cute is he sammy

He ignored two pretty basic requirements that I posted on my profile. He lives kind of far away.



His message was cute and he was polite. That's all I'm sayin'

Well everyone, I have an update on my situation for you all.

First, after a few more exchanged messages on myspace, we moved up and have been chatting on AIM. The more I talk to her, the more I affirm that we have so much in common.

Now the scary part -

I found out yesterday that we were born 12 days apart. Whats the probability????

That's cool. At least you know you aren't siblings separated at birth or anything.
The AIM chatting is a good step forward.
When will you meet for coffee?

BECand75 do you email each other often as well? Coffee should be right around the corner! good luck!

I hope to meet for coffee. I'll be getting to that soon.

Hopefully, I'll get to talk to her a little bit later tonight. But, for now...off to the gym.

BTW - Question to ponder - Is it creepy to come home to AIM messages? Ive contemplated leaving her some messages, but was a little cautious as to whether that would be creepy or not. I wanna so this one right, so, to me, the small things count.

oh bec a small nice message should be okay. No rambling on and just something nice so she'll smile.

Girls do like those little things that count

I agree with Liz. One message...lighthearted...would be fun. Maybe that you just thought of something funny you wanted to tell her. Something like that.
Let us know how it goes later tonight. Hope you get to talk to her.

Thanks guys -

Here is a quick update - not too much has happened...

Do you girls like to put smiley faces in messages when you're flattered?

Convo:

Me: Ok, i'll talk to you tomorrow
Her: Ok, sounds good.
Me: Have a great day tomorrow
Me: Bye
Her: Thanks, bye

Note the smiley face at the end.

I just left her a message saying that I hope she had a good day. Hopefully i'll get to talk to her later.

Yes...the smiley is a good thing.
I think it says there's a little something extra there.
Definitely.


Ooooh...this is exciting! How fun for you!

That sounds pretty good to me, becand! Thanks for letting us live vicariously through you! Truth be told I'm a tad bit jealous. Nothing on the horizon...

Nada. Zip. Zero.

*sigh* Oh well. What can you do. I've had a great weekend so far and I'm spending the whole day with my bf tomorrow. I've finally managed to drag her away from her hubby. Yay! Girl's day out, and I'm so excited!

No problem! I don't know what I would so without you guys!!! Don't work QOE, you'll have your day.

I sent her a message earlier to tell her that I hope she had a good day.

She sent back a message while I was at the gym - something along the lines of "hey, thanks for the message. I need to get to bed a little early, but i'll ttyl"

Guess she wants to talk to me, which is a good thing. I'm gonna take things slow. All of my previous relationships failed because I think I moved too fast and things got too hot and heavy too quick. I'm gonna take this one nice and slow. This one feels different, and I'm hopeful.

Any advice for a good message to leave her tonight that would make her feel good? Ladies?

Hmmmm...

I guess I would ask her a question. Something that she has to respond to with details. Perhaps something that has to do with what you have in common, but nothing too personal.
It shows that you are interested in her thoughts and ideas, without being too forward or pushy.

Being a good listener will serve you well. Ask quesions and really listen to her answers. That's always flattering.

^^ very good! just listen to her. If she knows you listen to her and I mean listen to her she'll respect you and that lead to the plain fact that she likes you.
young love is so sweet

Thanks for the advice OTL

How about this -

"ok. sounds good. have a good day tomorrow. cant wait to chat more and get to know you better. later."

too much?

Just going to say I feel your pain nearly exact same situation in my life right now except I have another women pursuing me and I really really like the other girl one person said the dreaded L word about it but I'm not going to go that far because I'm a guy and won't do it. Though I don't see whats wrong with saying that though I am a guy.

I'm not sure about this. "Can't wait..." Is there another way to say it? Maybe "Hope to talk to you tomorrow." Or maybe, "Looking forward to hearing about your day."

Oh, I don't know. It's been so long since someone persued me, I can't remember! But, my husband used to write me letters, and our kids better not find that box until long after we're gone.

Darn. And I wanted to know those two non-negotiables.


Haha, when I first read this I was thinking, "WTF? She's complaining, then she's spending the whole day with her boyfriend? Wait - oh."


Yeah - say "Looking forward to.." instead of "Can't wait..."


Ok, I am a little confused by your prose. 'Splain, frodo.

What, you can't read my mind, VB?

Sorry.

Vent time...

Women...is their a more confusing entity on this planet. I swear, if I heard any more mixed signals tonight I would need training in code breaking from the CIA.

I just realized there is a venting thread...and I don't care.

Where is the angry face!!!

Pray tell, please elaborate. Not all women are like that. I used to think that about men until I heard "He's just not that into you." Now I am free from all of that.

You guys are great! I truely feel like Michael and you all are my Angela, Karen, and Pam giving me advice about Jan.

Anyway, I ended up sending the "can't wait" version of the message. Hopefully, it doesn't scare her off. I guess i'll find out later.

Oh that is soooo bad.


No one told me there was going to be any math . . . . .

Well I would have to reread my own post because I have no idea what I said.... Ok I was saying that I was experiencing the same problem except I have a stalker like person in short. I posted a full explanation in the Vent thread because I find it all rather funny but annoying at the same time.



Amen to that.

Alright, I'll elaborate. I've had some sleep so I'm a bit more calm. I was at a get together last night and met a girl who I was interested in. I struck up a conversation with her and all of my first impressions of her were great. So I came back a little while later to talk and she pretends like she doesn't know me. What the he11 is that. I flirted with this girl for like 10 minutes. Then she comes back later that night and apologizes about it saying that it was kind of weird. When I asked her why she said is was weird she said "well, my boyfriend was like 10 feet away". I just said "of coarse" and put my cup down, found my friend and walked out.

This is the 3rd time this has happened to me. Being led on by other women who are already involved ****** me off like no other. And who's boyfriend is in the same house to boot. First of all I don't want to be "that guy" who flirts with other guy's girlfriends. Second, I don't want to waste my time. Third, I hate getting my hopes up like that.

Time for a confused face.

Very, very uncool.

BlueTurfBronco, what a tease. Deifinitely not cool. I can think of other names to call her, but I will refrain, and I just want you to know that all women are NOT, I repeat, NOT like that! And we have similar experiences with men, so it's not just you, and it's not just women. Keep looking - she's out there somewhere!! I just know it. And kudos to you for being straighforward and asking her why - that was a good thing to do, and maybe she learned not to flirt in the future.

How about if one of your icebreaking questions is, "Who are you here with?"

Secret Agent VB reveals what the FBI uses on a daily basis..........interrogation!!

Of course - you have to interrogate them! Otherwise you might get a stalker - or worse. You might get someone who doesn't know their prez.

Blue that sucks. There are great women out there, sorry she wasn't one of them.

UPDATE:

Well, tonight was a fairly good night. I guess she wasnt scared off by my "can't wait" comment from earlier. Read above for the all information on that.

Well, I went to the gym and when I came back, I had a message from her that said "hey there". I wasnt around to respond so she put her away up and I missed her.

I'm wondering how soon until we talk on the phone. Anyone have an approximate time frame?

Are you really from Scranton and I'm not going to answer your question just because I don't know but I wish you the best of luck it's not easy wooing women.

Yep, I was born and raised in Scranton, PA.

Thats cool I live near Philly though I haven't been in Scranton I have traveled past many a time.

I know that all women aren't like that but it sure seems like it nowadays. When I made the jump from high school to college a year ago I started meeting a lot more women but the downside is that a high percentage of them are "party girls". I like to have fun but when the most interesting thing a girl does is get drunk 4 nights a week I can't take it. Why can't I just find a girl who is interesting and just likes to talk and watch movies. I go to maybe a party a week, if that, and I enjoy them but I can't take much more than that. And the worst part is that I probably walk by a number of girls everyday who would be great but I'll never know.

Alright, new face...how about indifferent

Ok, now I'm starting to think you're toying with us. Do you really need this much help? Because if you do, we will gladly help you. And I understand that this whole internet/getting to know you thing is still pretty new in our society, so some of us really don't know what to tell you. But I'm thinking you can start making some of these decisions yourself, especially since timing is really unique to each relationship. You tell us things have gone too fast in some of your previous relationships, so listen to your gut feeling, then do the opposite. Like George Costanza.

No, seriously, wishing you all the best - good luck!


If you are going to parties, you are going to meet party girls. What kinds of campus activities are you involved in? Varsity or intramural sports? Professional organizations? Political groups? Religious meetings? Cultural associations? Other clubs? What are your interests? I am sure your school has a lot to offer - what college are you attending? Getting involved in activities you like is the best way to meet people with shared interests. Now get out there and join something! And let us know how things go.
new face -

I get involved in some stuff. I play basketball (I think it's written down somewhere that if you're 6'6" you are required to) but destroying a girl in basketball isn't my idea of a good impression. Other than that I like pretty much whatever other people like such as movies, tv. I kayak but there is no club for that at my school (University of Nevada, Reno). And my one true love is Boise State football but any mention of that is like commiting suicide at my school since Boise State is a rival of Nevada's.

And don't get me wrong here. I've found plenty of great women but all of them are involved or have some fatal flaw. For example, I was talking to a girl in economics class last semester and we got to know each other fairly well. I was going to ask her out and then what do I see...a pack of cigarettes in her purse. I just can't win.

So many faces to choose from...how about unsure.

It's good that you are involved in stuff. Maybe you could start and Office club - post an ad on campus to get people together on Thursday nights this fall. that would be cool!!!

Who says you have to destroy her in basketball??? Maybe she could beat you. Or you could just play for fun. I find playing volleyball can help me judge a guy's character. Now, I am very competetive, but if he keeps jumoping into my postion, stealing plays from me and basically pushes me out of the way so he can get the ball and doesn't let me play, that shows me he is a bossy control freak in real life.

Yeah, cigarettes are a non-negotiable for me, too.

Why are you so worried about meeting someone? You're young, you have plenty of time. Enjoy college. I would have had a lot more fun and gotten better grades if I hadn't dated a few of the freaks I did.

As for kayaking, do you like whitewater, ocean, lake? I went to the whitewater Olympic trials and the Olympic events in Atlanta in 1996. I loved it.

I don't think the basketball court is a place I'm going to meet women anyway. I'm pretty competitive as well. That might be an understatement, I'm extremely competitive. Probably one of my flaws, maybe my worst. Let's just say I don't want my first moments to be like Dwight and Madge. "YA, THAT'S RIGHT! IN YOUR FACE!"

Volleyball is fun and I'm actually pretty good at it. Who am I kidding here. I'm good at it because I'm 6'6".

As far as enjoying my college years, I have. A year and half of college is more than enough experiencing for me. I just miss having a girlfriend, that's all.

And kayaking for me mainly consists of whitewater. And when I say whitewater I don't mean coarses, I mean actual river kayaking. I usually make it a point to go on a few trips a year with at least one trip that is a week or longer.

VB,

I'm not toying with anyone. If you want the honest reason why I keep asking questions that seem so easy is because i've had failed relationships in the past. I figure that a girls opinion will usually stop me from doing something I shouldnt do or say. To me, saying one thing may be totally acceptable, but, in reality, it may scare her off. I wanna be proactive if anything to stop stupid behaviors before they start. I'm sort to trying to retrain myself and to do that, I need to work from the bottom up.

Guess I will take your advice with the gut feeling

BTW, thanks everyone who has helped me so far, you are all great.

I was just a little concerned, because there is a fine line between doing what you think the other person wants and not being your true self. Sadly, the only way most of us learn is from our own mistakes. But all of these things help us to grow and change and to become better people. I do admire your caution, and your yearning to do the right thing. Just don't let that paralyze you from doing anything.

So, just take the following advice:
Whenever I'm about to do something, I think "would an idiot do that?" and if they would, I do not do that thing." - Dwight K. Schrute

being single SUCKS when you're home alone at 1 am, scared to death

Why were you scared? Did I miss something?

Edit: I just saw your post in venting. I hope everything's OK!