You haven't specifically mentioned this, but I'll address the issue anyway.

When you start dating this girl, do NOT smother her with 24/7 attention. Maintain your own life and interests and let her have hers as well. Keep the phone calls and correspondance to a frequency that you both are comfortable with.

I grew up with 2 friends who looked like the guys posted in the 'Celebrity Crushes' thread. Women drooled over them, they looked like actors or male models. Great guys too. Yet they had a string of failed relationships and it was always the girl breaking it off. Why is that???? It's because they made the women thier whole world. That sounds nice and romantic, but in fact it was smothering. They'd put thier whole lives on hold for the girl, they called 10 times a day, etc. I heard them described as 'pathetic' and comments like 'I thought he had a life' or the harshest 'He's just a really good looking loser'.

Eventually they learned and are in great marriages now.




Are you ok QoE?

That was probably my favorite episode from Seinfeld. When I was in high school and College I wished I would have taken that approach



RC that is great advice for the young folks. If I had to add one thing, I would say make sure that you are not to agreeable. Women say they want a nice guy, but they don't want a "yes man". If you say yes to often, then they don't get as much pleasure trying to change you.

RC is an advice giving machine. I, of coarse, agree with him. Usually when I'm going out with a girl I try and let them be the one to estabish contact via phone or IM at least half the time. When they are the one who is initiating conversation in any form it's a good thing. Unless they're breaking up with you, that's usually bad...

Yeah, I'm fine, thanks guys. I was just a little rattled (pun ) and it took me a while to get back to sleep.

And RC, even from a woman's POV, I agree with your advice 100%. Girls can be as easily scared off by over-enthusiasm as guys. It's excellent advice to maintain your own interests, activities, time apart, etc. That'll make a relationship stronger in the long run.

I have to agree!!!!


I dont know how to explain this but I always(when younger) wanted to be with someone that would give me a good arguement! Its boring when you and your someone agree on everything, IMO. I dont get off on arguing mind you but it does add some spice

I knew it. When I was younger I made the mistake of being too nice and easy going.

You just like the makeup sex.

Are you saying there's something wrong with that?

The Flight of the Conchords have an important message for you single women

A Kiss Is Not A Contract

I guess just asking for some makeup sex without fighting first wouldn't be quite the same.

I'm going to try this tonight -

"Quiet down those kids Women! And bring me a beer while I check out Pam!"

Just that sentence alone should start a good sized fight

invite me to the funeral

You actually have to survive the fight before you can get to the good part. RIP RC.

It must be something in the air, because an awful lot of people have blank on the brain.

Just make sure you are master of your domain.

Every where I turn is gutter talk. I mean gosh at my age I'm in the gutter often already but I come here and it's like I'm swimming in the gutter.

If you've got women plural, you're in biiig trouble.

It's been nice knowin' ya, RC.

Well, I have a very special update for everyone!

I have a date.

More details to come. I'm overflowing with excitement right now.

This calls for a party. Congrats I have been trying to get one of those for awhile though now I'm resigned till waiting for 2008.

Ahh congrats! Thats so exciting!! And at your wedding, we all will be able to say "and I was with him every step of the way..."

Woohoo! We'll be looking for those details

becand75! congratulations! We expect a full detailed report with spreadsheets and colorful graphs

I honestly read that bedsheets and I was like "whoa...he just set up their first date, lets not get ahead of ourselves"

Whoever said something about everyone having their minds in the gutter is correct. Seriousley, I've been stuck in the gutter for quite sometime.

People are finally listening to me.

Aww....our little boy is growing up!! Just kidding. I'm so happy for you and I can't wait to hear all about it. I assume it's with the girl from the wedding?

hey, that's great news! Congratulations!


So did I!!!

Niice!!! !!



Congrats!!!

How much are ringside seats?

Ooooh, yeah, I want one!!! Is anyone here a doctor, nurse or paramedic? Because we might need one....

I can get a lifeguard does that help because I will be ringside in as long as they aren't to expensive.

One of the new mods should be appointed safety officer. Who has first aid training?

It's official...I have a little crush at work. Kind of dorky with a crooked smile (like my avatar). I told him to "suck it" today, and he just laughed. *sigh* This is not good.

But have you seen him in a sweater?

Good luck, but do I need to remind you of this?

I have the memory of a... What's that thing that never forgets?

Sort of edit: This is my second attempt to post. If you see a duplicate, blame Invision.

Ack! I've got Good Diapers/Bad Diapers whispering in my ears again. You really do have quite the memory.

Oh, and it took me a moment to figure out why this Torkey kid was giving me a hard time!

Bring the Stanley avatar back please...I miss him!

My memory isn't really that good. I had to consult the file that I have on you. Okay, that's not true. I've never missed a CC post and a couple of them just stuck.

I've missed Stanley too. I'm lucky that I've been allowed to change him back. Changing my avatar and signature (like that's going to happen) are the only options I have. When I try to fix S.P.E.W., Ravenclaw or add my personal photo, I get booted.

Lately, the awful outweighs the awesome by about 10-1, and that's the major reason why I haven't been around. The whole board is filled with relationship talk (good or bad, it doesn't matter), and it just sort of bums me out. Also, Taryn won't return my calls.

I'm doing the online thing, have had some good conversations, two lovely dates and have another one lined up...if I ever get around to calling her (I'm not really feeling it). I've thrown out my line, and I've gotten a few nibbles. Most of the girls who've been seeking me out don't meet my strict criteria; under 200 lbs and a non-smoker. Yeah, I know my standards are ridiculous. The ones who I think would be a perfect match rarely respond. It's really frustrating, and I've actually become jealous of my friends who got knocked up and married right out of high school.

At least I am a non-smoker

Poor D, or 't' as the case may be. She's out there somewhere. How's the house coming along? Maybe she's a first time homeowner who hangs out at Lowe's and Home Depot. You could take one of those ceramic-tiling or kitchen-remodel classes. Or maybe she plays keyboards and is looking for a guitarist. Music stores are fun places to hang out. Or Borders, especially on nights when they have coffeehouse bands. You could need that nursery sooner than you think.

Thanks Veeb. You're a sweetheart.

It wouldn't be a big deal if I had a bigger build, but I'm kind of puny, which means it's really my fault. With the last girl that I took out, we looked like a Vaudeville comedy act walking into the theater. It's more of a matter of practicality than taste. I'm from the Midwest, so I like 'em kinda thick. But I also need to follow a certain ratio. If she exceeds 133.33% of my weight, I won't be able to carry her over the threshold on our wedding night. I'm just romantic like that.

I hope "practical" was in your personality profile.

You had me rolling with the 'T' word. Speaking of 'T' words, your "new screen name" keeps giving the urge to dig out my Fawlty Towers VHS tapes.

There is somebody for everyone....I truly believe that. Maybe your somebody is a person you already know...you're just not thinking of her that way.

I once worked with a guy that wasn't the most attractive person in the world. (I'm not saying this is you...just telling a story.) His skin was scarred from acne, thick glasses, red wire-y hair, nose too big for his face. But...he was the sweetest person I've ever met. He was a gentleman in the truest sense of the word. He was really smart, funny and kind. But, people just saw his looks and didn't give him a chance.

We worked in a drug store, and one summer I got my best friend a job there too. She met "Joe" and at first she didn't give him the time of day. But, eventually she got to know him. She was/is beautiful. The kind of girl who could go out with anyone she wanted. Well, they went out, and ...
they're married and have 3 children and are as happy as they can be.

Don't give up. She's out there.

That's a GREAT story BMaC!

Diapers is a totally cool guy. He's going to make some girl very happy when he finds her.

Awwwww that is probably one of the sweetest stories I've ever heard .

K, on facebook I've been messaging this guy that I knew from highschool. He's 3 years older. Anyway, how it happened was that he poked me & I poked him back & than afterwards, he added me as friend. I messaged him, asking why he began "poking" me & it turned into a convo. I don't mind it, except for the fact that he called me sweetie on a couple of occasions. Um, sweetie? I've only gotten pet names in a relationship & even then they make me sick. Anyway, it turns out he lives close by. I'm not interested as my heart belongs to a blue eyed Greek guy that I mentioned back . He's sweet but yeah, that's it .

And also...

My baby sister just had her first kid on Friday. I was there, but I shouldn't have been. It didn't happen until 4:20 a.m., and I had to work. She was induced in the early afternoon, so I thought my nephew would show up by midnight. That was a long time for Uncie Diapers to sit around and wait. I'm sure it felt longer to my sister though, so I won't complain.

My brother just called about an hour ago to tell me the he and his wife are pregnant with their first. They were waiting until my sister popped before they made their announcement. They've known for weeks. This is great news. They're going to be awesome parents.

But for me... Tick tick tick.

Ya know, this kind of thing is contagious. Congratulations Uncle D.

men's tick tick clock has a lifetime battery Ask Charlie Chaplin who sired his 11th child when he was 73

Most of my cousins are grandparents now. It kinda makes me nauseous, even though they're all older than me. Neither my brother or sister ever married, and I feel kinda sad that my parents will never experience grandchildren. I would have made a great Aunt VB, too.

I just met my new next door neighbor. I met the wife last week, and she told me she had 4 kids, ages 13, 12 year old twins and a 5 year old. Turns out they are newlyweds - hubby told us today they just got married in March, and all the kids were hers from previous relationships. He wanted to know where the post office was, because they have to send certified letters to the fathers of these kids that they want to change their names to new hubby's name. Kids all have mom's name, but apparently fathers need to be notified anyway.

So, single guy marries single woman with 4 kids - that's love. You should have seen his face light up when he talked about them too - really sweet.


My high school music teacher got married for the first time at age 81 to a man she met at the nursing home. I could not believe how happy she was - she was a great teacher but one of the nastiest ones I ever had. I went to visit them after they got married and she just kept smiling and giggling, and he obviously adored her. His first wife had died 2 years earlier. Finally she found someone to make her happy.

I used to believe there was someone for everyone, but I don't think that anymore, namely because I haven't found anyone. I have a lot of spinster friends in the same boat too. Plus there are statisically more women than men. I believe God can work miracles, I'm just not so sure He's gonna do one for me. I really don't want to wait til I'm 81 to marry Mr. Right. I mean, who's gonna walk me down the aisle? I mean, who's gonna wheel my wheelchair down tha aisle?

Sorry, D, but I've been thinking about this comment and it alternately makes me want to and (playfully) smack you. And sometimes both

Stop it.

Yeah, seriously D! There's plenty of time for you. Rest assured, you've got company in the sibling procreate-a-thon. I've got 8 nieces and nephews so far, and I'm starting to worry that maybe I'll get lapped by one of them settling down before I do. But however late in the game it comes, don't you want it to be right? That's the question I ask myself...you know...when I can hear beyond the tick-tock. (which is beginning to sound more and more like the Times Square NYE countdown.)

We have so many lonely hearts here. It's ok if we go to the Pity Party occasionally - we just can't overstay our welcome. So let's get off that Bitter Bus to Lonesome Town! And if we're moping around and looking at the ground, we will miss the beauty that is in front of us everyday.

Yeah, Usually I am pretty happy with my state of singleness; namely because I've seen good marriages and I've seen bad ones, and I am determined to have one of the good ones. I didn't wait this long to get married just to lower my standards of character - yes, I said character, because that is genuinely what I look for.

But I heard this song this morning on my iPod, and it gave me a chuckle. Here's a song for all the single men out there.

Now if only there was a classic rock version of this song so I could enjoy listening to it's observations on my life.

ah, D's clock is ticking away. I have a cousin in Iowa, she loves to get married She's got 8 kids or nine. I don't know the woman is as fertile as the delta.
I don't fit what I would think is my brit's check list, but apparently he thinks otherwise. Where he works out and plays sports and eat right. I ly about if I can get away with it, I love my chocolate and sports, well catch me on a good day and maybe. There is someone for everyone.

I think thats so cute that lady got married at 81.

Didn't anothony Quinn have a child when he was in his 80's? I know he was still having kids in his 70's. Thats kinda creepy though to me.