Ej is by no means pathetic.....he's been in love with the same woman for over two years now. Finally there is some hope for him and Sami. Just bc he did the dirty with Nicole doesn't mean he still didn't love Sami, he does love her. He wanted to move on bc he saw
no hope. Sami has now shown him the honesty he's always asked for, and the chance he's always wanted. There is nothing wrong with loving someone with all your heart for a long time, so in no way do I see Ej as a poor pathetic man....just a man deeply in love.

Great post!!!

Well I can say I totally agree with you!! EJ should have manned up and told her to call him if she ever gets over Lucas. He was made a fool of most definitely!! He gave her an open invitation to string him along till Lucas comes back to her (As we ALL know he will!) and he has no right to even complain. She told him UP FRONT that hes not her first choice and I think thats great!

You have a point. Well, at least he lost my self respect. And I don't see EJ as being hopeful that the woman he has been in love with for almost two years might return some of those feelings as pathetic at all. I see it as just that. Hopeful.

Again we'll have to agree to disagree. I think any guy that is willing to spend YEARS chasing after a woman that admits to loving someone else is LAME. Personally I think TPTB are wasting EJ in this tired old redundant SL and I hate that they are portraying him as such a pathetic loser.

IMO you can't be deeply in love with someone that doesn't love you back.
Infatuated and obsessed? Yes.
Deeply in love? No.

Are you saying there's no such thing as unrequited love? Have you read Cyrano de Bergerac? Wuthering Heights? Anything by Jane Austen? Most great love stories have elements of unrequited love. Sometimes the love is eventually requited. It's not pathetic. It's romantic.

Unrequited love means it is one sided and NEVER RETURNED.
It would make EJ the epitome of a LOSER.

Oh well, I'm willing to agree to disagree again.
You say unrequited love and I say STALKER.
Some say its romantic. I think it's pathetic.

You think he's a pathetic loser but like him with Nicole?

AgreeD.
no Lucas didn't see that EJ was her first choice. He just didn't want to deal with Sami's fickle emotions and saved himself the trouble and moved on.

Ej obviously saw something no one else saw as far as Sami was concerned. Ejami has never been a couple and as far as him being a pathetic loser for loving the same woman for over two years, It shows he doesn't take love lightly. Obsessed: No...In love: Yes. You most certainly can love someone who doesn't love you back. I have seen men leave their wives and the wife never stops loving her husband, the same way a woman can leave her husband and he never gets over it. Is that obsession or deep love? Sami was truthful with Ej so does it make him pathetic to finally have hope for the two of them? Honesty was the first step for Ejami. So I don't see Ej as a poor pathetic loser. He turns out to be a winner.JMO.

Sami loves Lucas like Marlena loves Roman. Marlena tried to fight her feelings for John, too. She thought she needed to be with Roman for the kids and because it was a safe haven. But those burning feelings for John just overtook her and she couldn't deny it any longer. Wow, doesn't that sound familiar??

I absolutely disagree with you about EJ. Sami's blabbering about Lucas in the stairwell was just that---blabbering. She still isn't necessarily comfortable with her feelings about EJ, after all, being with him feels like a risk. But EJ is taking a risk here too, and that isn't pathetic---that is love.

Yeah I don't get it either. He is though making Nicole look like a pathetic looser, which is sad because normally I really enjoy Nicole.

ITA!!!!





I like Nicole too and hate that she's pining over him when she knows who has his heart.

Awesome post! Thank you!!
LOL Go EJAMI!!

I know what unrequited love means. It does not mean necessarily NEVER returned (although it could). As I said in the above post, a lot of great literature has elements of unrequited love. That means it may be one-sided for awhile until the love is finally returned (Pride and Prejudice, for example). Did you find Mr. Darcy pathetic?

Nice Post! That's how I see it as well.


Mr. Darcy is not pathetic! I love your reference to Pride and Prejudice! That is my favorite movie. Nice comparison BTW.

Pathetic is the last thing EJ will ever be! His sexy self can get anyone he chooses and he chose Sami, like it or not but I am cheering them on with my pom poms in hand!!! They are meant besides I get chills in their love scenes and I think that Lucas and Chloe should give it a go personally. It'll definitely shake it up some!

"Pride and Prejudice" was not a case of unrequited love. Miss Bennet and Mr. Darcy had a shared love respect for each other. What kept them apart were personality and class differences as well as their own pride and prejudices.

American Heritage Dictionary
adj.
UNREQUITED
Not reciprocated or returned in kind: unrequited love.

If love is returned it is RECIPROCAL or MUTUAL

It was unrequited in the beginning. Darcy loved Elizabeth fairly quickly into the story, but fought his feelings because of her vulgar family and lower class. Elizabeth actually didn't like Darcy (thus the unrequited part), until she realized he was not the man she originally thought, nearer to the end of the story. THEN their love became mutual.

Big Jane Austen fan here.

Lets see, ej and sami have been compared to Rhett/Scarlett, John/Marlena, and now these characters from yet another show, pride and prejudice (I've never seen this last one).. Frankly, who cares!!! This is about how pathetic ej is.. I don't think that he is that pathetic, "YET", but Sami certainly is!!! There "nil" chemistry, is nauseating at best!!! What is pathetic is that Sami is this person that can't make up her mind, she uses one man to get what she wants, and if he doesn't give it to her she goes to the next.. It is pathetic that while she claims to love Lucas, she spread her legs for the rapist that started all of this crap, yet when Lucas comes home and finds her in bed with this rapist she runs after him apologizing, not because she had sex with her rapist, but that she got caught doing it.. What is pathetic is that ej didn't lapse into a coma after falling down a flight of stairs, and gave some of us a reprieve of this nightmare of a relationship.. Sami is confused, flaky, and down right annoying.. If ej was smart (I stress that "smart" part) he would dump her, stop confusing love with obsession, and move on with a woman that would give him what he needs.. (NICOLE)..

Great romances often have periods where one person's love is unrequited. Often the love is eventually reciprocated, often after a lot of angst and misunderstandings, and we have a happy ending. That may be pathetic to you, but it's the stuff of great love stories and has been for centuries. That's what many of us see coming in Ejami.

You're correct, it was not unrequited love. But Lizzie and Darcy's acquaintance did not start off as one of mutual respect. Not at all. It was more of mutual disrespect. As I remember, Darcy thought Lizzie was beneath him and Lizzie hated Darcy for his snotty attitude and general lack of respect for her family and her perceived notion that Darcy mistreated Mr. Wickham. They had a huge blow out between them because Darcy basically said to Lizzie, "I think you and your family are lower than garbage and it would degrade me to be with you. But you're hot, so I want you." Of course, Jane Austen phrased it more appropriately and poetically for the period. Darcy went behind Lizzie's back and destroyed (albeit temporarily) any hopes of Lizzie's beloved sister Jane getting together with Bingley, the love of her life. There's a lot of mean things, underhanded things that go on in that story. Eventually, when Lizzie and Darcy found out some hard truths about themselves and about the other person, that is when they started to fall in love. It's not out of line to draw some comparisons of EJ and Sami's relationship to that one.

I suppose I should have added, "ultimately they shared..." but I assumed that she knew it was not love at first sight so it seemed unnecessary.

Back to the OP.
For over two years EJ has been waiting for Sami to admit that she loves him and at some point he needs to admit that his unrequited love affair for Sami is costing him his self respect.

I simply hope his realization comes sooner rather than later.

we all know
sami loves ej
ej loves sami
that is not going to change anytime soon
we all know sami puts the wrong man (lucas) before the one she should realy be with
fronco
brandon
austin

when she really wanted
lucas
austin
lucas

those are just three examples
truth be told her and lucas have been drifting appart for a long time
the sings are all there

we all know sami is afraid of her true feeling
and wants to be with who she thinks will make everyone happy

it is just a matter of time before our girl stands up for what she really wants
ej

ej never had respect till he fell inlove with sami

Again, we'll have to agree to disagree.
What you see as respect I see as ABUSE.

Only she stayed with Roman and only many years later did she end up with John. Long after Roman divorced her. During her time with Roman John had moved on with Kristen. And she truly did love Roman and did not want a divorce - she didn't just stay with Roman because of the kids or because it was safe. So it's not quite so cut and dry.

Wasn't Marlena married to Roman when Sami saw her and John doin' the horizontal mambo on the table?

I know Marlena truly loved Roman, like Sami truly loves Lucas. But it is a different kind of love I think. One that is safe, and predictable, and done out of desire to maintain one's family. Otherwise, how can you explain Marlena leaving Roman? He ended up not being the love of her life, as she may have thought before John came along. Her love for John was different. I see the same parallels with Sami-EJ-Lucas.

Actually, I'm not surprised it didn't take long for Sami's eyes to stray from Lucas to EJ. She had powerful feelings for EJ before she even remarried Lucas. The wedding was a mistake.

I agree with the parallel about Roman/Marlena and John in comparison to Lucas/Sami/EJ. But I don't think it makes EJ pathetic to hope that he has a shot with the woman he truly loves and she has given him occasion to hope by sleeping with him, sharing a house and child rearing duties with him and admitting to having feelings for him. Having hope is not pathetic, I think it is admirable and quite frankly romantic.

You are so right!




Great post!

elvis' self respect must have left the building

my bad
what i ment was he is not shootting his uncle
rapping sami
and not life or death black mail
he has toned it down a lot
he is really becoming a better man
we all know that does not happen over night

Yep, they had an affair. They ended it.



Marlena never left Roman. He left her. He divorced her. Marlena never left Roman to go to John. John was with Kristen, and Marlena was alone. She never chased John. It wasn't until Aremid that she realized she was still deeply in love with him and always had been. But she did not lead him on in any way, or play house with him or use Belle to keep him around. And John never manipulated Marlena. Ever.

ej and his self respect are still quite intact. despite anything sami says she wont run all over him ever again, the man is gonna have some guarantees before letting himself be vunerable again when it comes to sami.

he is just hopelessly, shamelessly, and helplessly in love. it tends to make you act in a way at times you wouldnt normally. you are at the mercy of your own heart when you fall in love heart leads the way. all you can ever do is follow.

So Roman saw that she was no longer in love with him like she once was and her heart belonged to another man and he left. Sounds more like Sami and Lucas than I thought.

Now is EJ going to be 100% available, or is part of his heart with Nicole now? Interesting....

I agree. I think now he is going to make her really show him how she feel! She has to earn his trust again...not just going to give it over and over. And he knows that by paying any attention to Nicole will certainly bring out any feelings Sami has if she wants him and feels the least bit threatened. The writers need to give both of these women their personalities back! If we are watching they can at least make it fun!!

I agree! If they are once again going to have a triangle, let's make it entertaining! I can't think of anything better than the "old Sami" and the "old Nicole" duking it out over EJ! (With, of course, Sami winning in the end ) I don't think EJ will come off as pathetic then!

If it were the "OLD' Sami and Nicole characters...he would probably run from both!

True. But this is EJ we are talking about. He's a little twisted himself. He just might be flattered!

Elvis's self respect is gone and never to be seen again!! (but did he ever have any??)

not when it came to sami.

Poor Pathetic EJ

Pathetic is the last thing Ej Dimera is..perhaps you are thinking of another character!!!???

Well, I just don't think he's going to fall for Sami's backpeddling AGAIN. He tried to tell Nicole, but she wouldn't listen. So we get to hear what he was going to say, and I know it's that Sami is OVER. ECOLE is here!

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oh come on. how can you not call him pathetic when hes going on "anythings possible" from Sami Brady.

seriously..

Cmon Sam..you and I both know that Ej loves Sami!!!Do I think EJ is going to make Sami fight for him!!??Yes,I do..but he is not pathetic,he loves her,,,and he tells her tommorow.,AGAIN what he thinks about their family!!And yes,he still thinks of them as a family

im aware of that. but the fact that hes willing to settle on "anythings possible" is freakin ridiculous! he seriously needs to rethink this. he can be with nicole, someone who DOESNT have another man in her life, and just loves him, or he can be with someone who is in love with another man and has feelings for him.

gee, what would you pick?

Then you missed my point,,I said EJ is going to make SAmi fight for him,,as in using the tool called Nicole,to do just that...then we will have Ejam time...later