Weight Loss - Part 2In the first half of Weight Loss, Pam left Scranton to complete a three month program at the Pratt Institute in New York. After a few stumbles, she is beginning to find her groove in terms of settling into the flow of school life and the difficulty of being separated from a man she loves deeply.
Pam and Jim continue to travel parallel paths that should end up in the same place when all is said and done. As she takes steps towards achieving her dreams, she remains by Jim’s side. As he creates a foundation for his life, he remains by her side. In the past, both have mirrored each other in terms of their individual personal journeys. This season is no different, but instead of similar developments, Pam and Jim are contrasting each other. In some ways it seems as though they are heading in opposite directions. Regardless, both are bringing something to the table that will both strengthen and challenge their relationship.
The concept of Pam’s two worlds -- old and new -- continues to create a new dynamic between herself and Jim. Pam continues to find her place in her new world, with new friends, new responsibilities, new insights in to herself, and new surroundings. Jim, however, is in the same place with the same people, his life essentially on hold as he waits for Pam to come home. The question becomes, how will Pam redefine herself after three months of eye-opening experiences? There’s no doubt she wants to be with Jim, but probably not in the same world where she is just a receptionist with big dreams. Will she even be able to fit back into that world? A world where Jim waits. In the second half of Weight Loss, Pam’s two worlds square off in a battle that is far from over. And now a new component of being engaged enters into the mix. With all the new things in Pam’s life, she will inevitably have the task of finding balance between old and new by defining how much of each world she wants in her life. Furthermore, the timing of combining old with new creates yet another puzzle to piece together. Much is changing and will continue to change. Keeping up will be a challenge.
Despite the widening gap of old and new, the connection between JAM continues to be unbreakable. Even as Pam shoots ahead with her dreams, her heart is still with Jim. She misses him just as much as he misses her. The cameras have shown more of Jim’s frustration with the separation, but Pam is feeling much the same way. She is experiencing so many amazing things that she wants nothing more than to share them with Jim. There is a hole in her New York that new friends just can’t fill. Both learned a couple of years ago they are no good when apart. Jim’s heartfelt and surprising proposal filled Pam’s heart with so much warmth and promise that their future holds nothing but happiness. Sure, there might be a few bumps along the way, but they have everything the need in each other to make it through any obstacle. There might just be a third “world” that encompasses something even newer or better than either could have imagined.
JAM Playlist:
Truly, Madly, Deeply
Artist: Savage Garden
Album: Savage Garden
This is probably the cheesiest song I have ever chosen for the Playlist. But I’ll be a dork and admit it’s the song that popped into my head almost immediately after the episode aired. The romantic sap in me couldn’t be stopped.
Jim Arrives:
Pam opens the door to her dorm room smiling widely at Jim. Her smile reaches all the way to her eyes, making them twinkle with deep delight. It’s clear she really misses Jim and is beyond excited to see him. It’s so good to see him standing there with his warm smile. Only she didn’t expect him to wrap his arms around her and kiss her so amorously. He literally picks her up off the ground as he kisses her. In her surprise, Pam is a little delayed in wrapping her arms around him. A little sound escapes from her throat, further expressing her surprise at his actions. Pam is completely surrounded in Jim’s love, which feels magnificent after being apart. For a few moments she is blissfully lost in his arms, but it soon dawns on her the camera is watching. She breaks away, embarrassed the camera caught so much PDA. Jim is slow to catch on and eyes her curiously. Pam nods towards the camera, to Jim, and then looks down to the floor. One thing about Pam that will never change is her need for privacy. She‘s only open book to a certain extent, if she can help it. In Fun Run, she made the statement that she would not talk about her love life with the camera crew. Her personal relationship with Jim is something she wants to protect from the prying eyes of the documentary crew. Last season, she let them see a little too much in Goodbye, Toby which re-strengthened her resolve on this front. She’s already shared enough with the documentary people. What she has with Jim is hers and no one else’s. It’s been while since she’s seen Jim and she wants every second alone with him that she can get. The camera isn’t going to get any more of the precious time she has with him. Aside from privacy, there is a piece of Pam that will always be a little shy and self conscious. She isn’t the one who says or does anything to get rid of the camera. She fears she’ll say something rude or give away too much. Instead, she waits for Jim to do something about it. He quickly steps up to the plate with the perfect plan of distraction. The gullible camera guy spins around looking for Pam‘s artwork that Jim claims is hanging the public hallway. Pam is greatly amused by Jim’s method which gives them just enough time to shut the door, locking out the camera guy. Now there is nothing to stop her from reminding him just how much she loves and misses him.
Pam’s dorm room is small and cluttered, but it is so
her. She has a picture of Jim on a large table by the window, some of her sketches on the walls, and scattered belongings that have yet to find their place. The place is a little disorganized and unsettled much like herself. Having Jim arrive in this space, brings old and new together. She wants him to see where she lives and what she is doing. Much focus has been put on Jim and the frustration he feels for not knowing Pam’s surroundings and everything she is doing. Pam likely has much of the same frustration. She wants him to know her world and wants him to have a place in it beyond a picture on her table.
R.A. Duty Calls:
In the previous scene, Pam’s door is labeled with a sign that reads, “Pam Beesly: Resident Advisor.” It’s a perfect job for her after dealing with Michael’s antics for so many years. After dealing with things like a cooked foot, Prison Mike, and taking notes on funtivities there’s nothing she can’t handle from college students. However, duty sometimes calls at the most inopportune times. During Jim’s visit, a student comes to her to complain that her soy milk was stolen. As a result, Pam has to send Jim out to common room while she deals with the soy milk incident. Even though Pam is not in this scene, the collision of her two worlds is apparent. In this particular battle, new wins over old. Her new world takes her away from Jim, despite her every intention to spend time with him.
Making Friends:
Pam is standing with a group of people with an amused expression on her face. They are her new friends in a new world that never ceases to give her a new perspective on life. She is still a little shy, but she is enjoying the fact that she seems to fit in with them. It’s easy to be around them and they seem to like her. Making friends is an incredibly important part of Pam’s experience at Pratt. New surroundings can be daunting without a little help and the escape of socializing. On top of that, she’s a little older than most students, which can possibly make her an outcast. Being accepted by her fellow students is something she likely worried about before she even left for New York. There’s never been much mention of friends Pam has in Scranton, but it can be assumed she doesn’t have many. After all, with Jim’s absence in Season 3, Pam resorted to shopping online and double dating with Kelly. Pam has always been pretty shy, which also lends to the assumption that her friend base is small. Seeing her open up to new people in a new place really shows how far she’s come in just a couple of years. She likes her new friends and it’s not just because they like her. This is an important distinction that signals the strength of her confidence and self worth. Pam loves the energy of hanging out with her friends. It’s so different from home and very stimulating. They have the same sense of humor and laugh at her joke. One guy in particular, (no name is known yet), has a deadpan humor Pam can’t help but like. When he jokes about his ex-girlfriend being right behind them, Pam turns to see an old lady walking by. She is quick to respond with her own joke, “Wow, was it the age difference?” He carries her joke a step further by explaining he didn’t like eating dinner that early. Pam smiles at both his joke and the fact that he “gets” her. After years of being in a place where only one other person truly got her, it’s amazing for her to find there are more people she can relate to. There’s a good chance she never saw herself as a very social person prior to this experience. It’s a side of herself she didn’t even know was there.
In the midst of her socializing, her phone starts to ring with Jim on the other line. She is happy to hear his voice as always, but she doesn’t want to break the momentum she has with her new friends. She asks if she can call him back, the excitement unmistakable in her voice as she explains, “I made friends.” There’s even a little relief in her voice that she is finding her place in her new surroundings. Her tone implies Jim knows she was worried about how she would be accepted by other students. What’s more, she can’t wait to tell Jim all about it later. It’s important to note she isn’t trying to get rid of him, it’s just a case of bad timing for a phone call. A piece of her wishes he was there with her. He’d like her friends, she’s sure of it. This is another scene where her old and new worlds collide. Even though her heart pulls her towards Jim, her new world calls to her with new people and a new self awareness.
Pam’s experiences with making friends, directly contrasts Jim’s experiences back in Scranton. In the two preceding scenes, Jim is shown eating lunch with his co-workers. He is having a hard time talking to them and finds he has nothing in common beyond DM with anyone. While Pam is invigorated with fun and relatable people, Jim is getting the life sucked out of him with the same old crowd of social misfits. Without Pam, Jim finds himself relatively alone despite being surrounded by people he knows. Pam, on the other hand, is no longer by herself in a big city. She is opening herself up to new things, while Jim is clinging to the familiar. While this isn’t effecting JAM adversely for the moment, it’s something to bear in mind. Ever since the close of Season 3, the theory of Jim and Pam being uneven in terms of personal growth has lingered on the backburner. It needs to be watched a little closer.
In Class with a Friend:
Pam sits next to one of her new friends in her next class. He is the same friend she was joking around with in the hallway. Last time she was seen in class she was in the wrong one and an outcast. So much has changed in just a week. He nudges her to show her a funny drawing he’s made of the professor. Initially, she is annoyed at having her attention diverted, (no matter how boring the subject matter -- fungus?), but she looks over to see what he wants. She can’t help but chuckle softly. His drawing really is pretty funny. He has humor similar to Jim, which is part of the reason why she gets along with this guy so well. The ease how they relate to one another is reminiscent of Jim and Pam’s early friendship, but it lacks the spark. It’s clear he likes her, but Pam is oblivious. She sees him as nothing but a friend. Her heart belongs to Jim, making her blind to her nameless friend’s slight attempts at flirting. In an odd way, old and new are colliding once again. Old humor finds a place with new people. However, in this instance, Pam’s humor is a constant that reminds her of home.
Pam’s laugh may have been soft, but it was enough to cause the professor to scold both of them for disrupting his class. She didn’t like getting into trouble. As always, Pam hates being the center of attention. This time it’s worse, because part of her is socially horrified at being singled out as a trouble-maker. Pam is a straight-laced, play by the rules kind of girl who would never dream of acting up in a classroom. Maybe she would in meeting at DM, but not in school. She immediately shifts her attention back to her notes. Oooops. While this new friend may be of no consequence in the grand scheme of things, this may not be his last appearance.
Phone Call/IM:
During a phone call with Jim, Pam’s voice is tired and tinged with the same frustration Jim has been fighting ever since she left. She is as frustrated as Jim with the ten day span of not seeing one another. Much emphasis has been put of Jim’s difficulty with the situation, but Pam is having a hard time, too. It’s been too long and both feel lost without the other. Jim explains that he has to attend his nephew's t-ball game tonight, mainly because he’s missed three already. It can be assumed he was supposed to come and see Pam, but is having to cancel. Pam can hear that he’s not happy about it and does her best to lighten the mood by teasing him, “You’ve already disappointed him so much, he can’t be expecting a lot from you.” Her voice is saddened at the prospect of not seeing him, but she understands his predicament. Of course, the part of her that misses him so much is hoping a little tease like this will convince him to come and see her instead of his nephew’s game. After all, the kid is used to not seeing him, she is not. However, Pam would never really ask him to do that; she’s not that selfish. It’s just her way of letting him know she really wants to see him. Jim chuckles halfheartedly through his disappointment and take the joke a step further, “I know. I suck.” She can hear his frustration and says nothing more about the coming evening. He can’t come and she’ll have to miss him for another day. The separation is hard on both of them and they are beginning to show cracks in their respective shields. In a sense, it’s a little comforting to both to know the other is just as lost and miserable.
Dwight soon interrupts the conversation by agreeing Jim sucks. Pam listens as Jim and Dwight trade comments in their usual bickering fashion. It’s funny, but Pam is more interested in making plans to see her man. Pam knows how Jim can distracted and pulled in by Dwight’s antics, so she has to act fast. Before Dwight can distract Jim any further, she quickly diverts his attention back to her, “Alright, listen, um, we’re still good for this weekend, right?” Maybe she can’t see him tonight, but she’s going to create a light at the end of the tunnel for this weekend. She even tease a little bit by making sure he has no dance recitals, football games or karate tournaments to attend. She can hear Jim slightly chuckle and can sense that he is getting a little antsy. Dwight must be watching and listening, still. It’s no surprise at all when asks her to got IM. In fact, she’s a little relieved that she no longer has to share Jim with Dwight.
The switch to IM is immediate. Jim9334 sends an unexpected message, “Let’s meet for lunch.” She is surprised and hesitant to believe that it could be possible to see him today, especially with both of their schedules being so full. So, Receptionitis15 responds, “What -- today?” Interestingly, Pam’s IM screen name identifies her as a receptionist, the very title she is trying to shed. In the battle of old vs. new, old is winning this round. However, the ending of -itis gives a certain feeling of it being a disease in which she's trying to find a cure. The new is exciting and invigorating but a piece of her is struggling with being away from someone she loves so much. Jim9334 persists by suggesting they meet halfway, so she can make it to her 4 o’clock class. Tempted again by the possibility of seeing him Pam, asks “Where?” It seems like such a hasty plan, but she is intrigued by what he has up his sleeve. Of course, he has a simple yet perfect place picked out, “the rest stop where that soda exploded on me.” It’s special place to them that obviously has a great story attached to it that is theirs and theirs alone. She eagerly accepts his invitation due to her strong desire to see him, the sweetness of his persistence, and the reassurance that she’d make it back in time for her class. It’s so easy to love a man that tries so hard. The thought of not having to miss him for another day is positively soul saving. She sends him a little gift with her acceptance. A gift she knows Jim will absolutely loves. When Jim opens the link labeled “summer project,” an ACSII style portrait of Dwight pops up on the screen. It’s a perfect rendition of the enigma that is Dwight. Dwight is always an inside joke between them and she knows he will laugh. It may have been a summer project, but Pam made it for Jim.
An Ass Kicking Proposal:
Pam is standing under the roof of the rest stop while the rain pounds and the wind whips around her. Nothing about this meeting is ideal, until Jim gets out of his car and heads towards her. As soon as she knows he can hear her, she teases him, “Hey! This is not halfway. I did the math, I had to drive way longer than you. Montclair would have been closer, so you have to buy lunch.” The playful tone of her voice is a JAM patented way of letting Jim know she is happy to see him. It was his hair-brained idea that they meet here, so she has to give him a hard time. In reality, she would have driven even further. He is worth every extra mile she had to drive. From a symbolic standpoint, this line can be traced to the very beginning of their relationship. It’s always taken her a little longer to find her way to Jim. It could be a sign of things to come. Perhaps it will take Pam a little longer to want the same things Jim wants within the same timeframe. With JAM it’s always an issue of timing, and it very well might be again. She’s already been credited with saying she doesn’t want a long engagement, but a lot has changed in the last few weeks. She wants to marry Jim, there’s no doubt, but her focus at the moment is on making herself a better person. The trick is finding the balance between what she wants with Jim and the things she wants to do as an individual. She can have both, but it’s a question of when.
The playful nature of Pam’s joke quickly fades as Jim stares into her eyes. He is silent and intensely serious. Pam doesn’t look away as she is befuddled by his expression. He drops his coat to the ground and lowers himself down on one knee. Pam can hardly believe what she is seeing, “What are you doing?” It’s the same question she asked a little over two years ago when he told her he loved her for the first time. It’s only fitting she’d repeat it when he kneels before her with another life changing request. She’s knew it would be coming. They’ve talked about it, joked about it, and it almost happened a couple months ago. But much like his first “I love you,” she wasn’t expecting it to happen so soon. She takes a small step back out of shock and the need to get a wider view of what is actually happening. Jim is really on one knee with a little velvet black box in his hands. A thunderstorm rages around her, but all she can see and hear is the love of her life waiting to ask the question that sits on the tip of his tongue. His voice is soft and emotional as he begins to speak, “I just . . . I can’t wait.” The simplistic honesty of his words sends her heart into a tailspin of euphoric panic. She mutters, “Oh my God,” for lack of a more coherent response. He’s really going to do this, right now, at this gas station in this storm. He pauses for a moment to take a deep breath. When he speaks, his velvet voice is layered with honest emotion, “Pam, will you marry me?” Even though she knew the question was coming, hearing the words is an experience that leaves her stunned. She says, “Oh my God” once again as she struggles to regain composure. She is so happy, excited, and flooded with love she can barely speak another word. Jim really wants to marry her. And here he is with a beautiful ring, his sweet smile, and a heart that belongs to her. A huge smile spreads across her face, filled with an all encompassing joy that warms every part of her body. Her silence drags on for a few agonizing seconds. Jim sees her smile and smiles a little wider himself. Pam is still too stunned to answer, so he prompts her with a playful yet prodding, “So?” Both know her answer, but Jim wants to hear it. Pam nods her head “yes” feverishly. There’s no way she could ever tell him “no.” Not with those twinkling eyes staring at her and her unflinchingly deep love for him. In the midst of her nodding, she utters the word she always knew she’d say, “Yes.” Her voice is overcome with excitement, joy, and release that he finally asked. Jim bounds up from his knee to surround her in his arms. She throws her arms around his neck and kisses him happily. The gap that separated them for almost two months no longer exists as they celebrate the promise of future together at a rain filled rest stop.
Pam is instantly swept away in the simple romance of the moment. His wet knee, her flat hair, his heartfelt expression, the rain, the wind, the love, the surprise, the ring, the weirdness of a special station, and of course the first engaged kiss make this the single most perfect moment in Pam’s life. There weren’t fireworks, or music, or lawn chairs, but it didn’t matter. He was here with her and that’s all she needed. It’s all so right and so them. It took so long, years actually, to get to this moment and it’s better than she could have ever imagined. She can’t stop smiling even as he kisses her. Both are giggling underneath soft kisses and smiles. Pam’s heart is fluttering with the lightness of butterfly wings as the magic of the proposal truly sinks in. He gave her the proposal he promised. Her ass is officially kicked in the sweetest and most unexpected way. He leans his forehead against hers and they stand still for a moment, savoring every second of their moment. Being with Jim has always been the stuff of dreams.
The Bottom Line:
The right moment far exceeded planned perfection.
Questions to Ponder:
1) Is Pam reaching for the life she wants or is she making up for what she missed out on when she was younger? Does it make a difference?
2) Did Pam say “yes“ for all the right reasons? (really think about this one!) Is the timing truly right?
3) How should Pam redefine herself?
** I must sigh happily for a moment. As I wrote the final section of this update I was sitting in my favorite coffee café. The people at the table next to me were speaking in a foreign language that was either German or an Easter European tongue. I felt like I was in Europe at a sidewalk café, which made me miss London and of course, Prague terribly. But, it was nice to at least feel like I was in the places I love so much. What a wonderful way to spend a Sunday morning.

I’ve literally waited two years to write the final scene in this update. The scene truly speaks for itself, so I kept it simple. Hopefully, it’s not disappointing.

The writers outdid themselves in creating a JAM moment that exceeded just about everyone’s expectations. They deserve a standing ovation for giving us something so beautiful and fitting for our favorite couple.
Tonight, I’ll be sitting down to write Part 2 for the JP. Most of the symbolism I spotted in this episode relates to him, so I will have my hands full. There are some really cool things in this episode that I can’t wait to write about. I’m hoping to post on Monday evening, so stay tuned.
I’m a little behind in responding to QTP posts, but please know I’m reading them intently as are a lot of other people. Every posts provides a new angle in which to view the episode. I love it! I hope to delve into all the discussion on Tuesday and Wednesday. Please keep those posts coming! On that note, have fun with this latest batch of QTP. As always, play nice.
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