Very true hun...........and just so as everyone knows.......it goes both ways....girls dont like fat guys either...most of the time..its just human nature it seems.sure theres lots out there that dont care either way guys or girls.but alot out there need looks as well as other stuff to be with someone...there has to be an attraction to make it happen.....for some that starts with an outside apperace, others its wahts inside...but for me.its both..you have to be good inside and be possitive and happy....and i admit you need to look good out side as wel......if your a bit chubby but dress nice and take care of your self and are happy.......then your good in my book...if your chubby and unhappy.it shows all over and thats ugly to me....me...im chubby (fat) at 5'7 240 lbs.......i hate it and my wife can see it.......but we are working on it...hell she is 5'8 130 and wants to tone up...but her personality shows shes happy the way she is....i need to change my tude too.i hate being fat..but i try to be happy...

I've come to the conclusion that my boss's nickname is Cupid. And her them song is "Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match..."

SHe has made several attempts to fix me up with someone (which have not worked out for various resons) and she has also made several attempts to fix her uncle up (he's two years younger than me). Well, yesterday, we were sitting at the table in our break room at work, eating lunch, and she pulls out her cell phone, then calls her uncle, and asks him if he will go out on a date with me. Right in front of me! I wanted to die.

Last weekend we all went out and he was dancing with me (something I'm very not used to) and told me I had it "goin' on," but I think it was the beer talking and I told my boss so. I really don't think he's interested in me, so I'm not holding my breath. And I'm not sure we have anything in common.

That is very good advice and goes both ways. It wouldn't matter if you were the best looking person in the bar, if you are not smiling and happy you will be a turn-off for a large majority of the opposite sex. And those who wouldn't be turned-off, chances are they are looking for something short-term.

Or they are looking for a Barbie, a trophy. That was one of the things I disliked about some of the guys that were interested in me when I was thin (and pretty) - they never cared what I thought. Ummm, yeah buddy, I have a brain, and I can beat you at Jeopardy any day.

I've never found the Barbie look attractive. Must be the nerdy girl thing I got going. I've never thought much of people who thought highly of themselves because of their looks. Looks are so fleeting. Granted you have to have some attraction, but without subtance it will likely be a short relationship.

Ummmm...... Miss Veebs. You are STILL pretty. I don't want to hear you talk about yourself like that again. Got it?

Aww, thanks! You sound like my mom.

Your mom is a wise woman.

OK. Why is it that the only time any man will show any kind of interest in me is when they're drunk? When they're sober, they have no interest in me whatsoever.

I'm gonna start beating my head against a wall. I've had more than enough of this crap.

Thats a question women an men that hang out in bars always ask...lol....hey i know, put a big wedding ring on your finger.....that always works...people always want what they cant have...its a great way to meet hot chicks too...they think there hotter then your wife and theyll do anything to prove it....lol then in the morning you tell them thanks but im not married...

I avoid alcohol and try to avoid drunks. I believe my entire family drinks some sort of alcohol, but only 2 brothers that will carry it to far......if they do, I leave. I despise a drunk.

Now come on now Chazee...drinking is some is good for the soul.but if it is an everyday deal, yes it sucks and i hate them too..wll not hate but i dont hang with them...but to tie one one now and then it is a good thing i feel.....but i never do it at a bar..............and i will say why...ive seen the girl some of my friends have woke up with after tieing one on at a bar (being a guy, i dont see what girls take home) and theres no way im going there...

I've yet to see anything good coming from getting drunk.

My mother is French, she drinks wine daily, that's different than drinking alcohol for the soul purpose of getting drunk. My favorite uncle died from psoriasis (sp?) of the liver, he was a drunk, died from being a drunk. He became my fav way long before he became an alcoholic.

Every drunk I have ever encountered has been a total idiot.

My hubby drinks beer, in the summer months. Never really understood why not the winter months. I could care less about that sort of drinking.

Anyway, a social drink does not bother me, it's those that drink for the soul purpose of getting drunk that perturbs me .

So why the heck are you hanging around with drunk guys???

Trust me, in this town it's not hard at all to find a drunk. For the most part, I go to work, then I go home because the only thing there is to do here is go to a bar. A couple of weekends ago, I was out with some friends so they would be sure to have a designated driver. We went somewhere to go dancing and my friend's family was with us. Well, one of her relatives was dancing with me and proceeded to tell me that I had it going on and that I was the only one who understood him. I knew full well he was drunk, so I didn't even bother to get any kind of hopes up and sure enough, he doesn't remember telling me that. It's just extremely annoying.

And Big, I'm not doing the wedding ring bit because if they come after me thinking that I'm married, that's a clear indication that they lack integrity and a moral compass and is someone who is no where near being worth my time.

I know hun..I was just saying....maybe try the online deal...put ads up, get on a dating website for bbws...theres gotta be a way to meet guys for you somehow..the right guy is out there...

the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence....the grass is greener where you water it!

I'm still looking for a lawn.

Been there. Done that. Failed miserably. Had enough.

not sure what your looking for hair....if your looking for a BOB type....it may be the reason your not having any luck....what are you looking for eh? theres gotta be one guy in your town thats interested....match.com...i think its free now....craigslist always free....lol met.com, people match , the list goes on and on....church? i know sounds funny, but i have heard people have hooked up in church....hell this board is probaly full of single guys looking for someone like you....in the same boat, looking to do something about it.....and someone to do it with...keep an open mind and an open heart and you will find the right guy...

Stay away from criagslist...how many women soliciting massages are now dead? The latest one, trying to make money to fund her college fees.

I was JUST going to say that!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm from MA, where the woman who offered massages on Craigslist was murdered on Weds. Now a new one who gave "lap dances' was attacked in RI (didn't die, Thank God).... Don't like "meeting" men on the internet. I tried want ads about 15 years ago, what a bunch of losers!!!!!!!!! I much prefer single to that mess! As much as I get lonely sometimes, I have WONDERFUL girlfriends, and my life isn't terrible!

My sentiments exactly! Internet dating is NOT for me.

Although, I have heard from several reliable sources that plentyoffish.com is a good place.

I didn't get married until I was 35, and I can tell you, single ain't so bad. Now, don't get me wrong, I LOVE, love, love my hubby, but if something, God forbid, should happen to him, single is the route I will stay on. Mainly because he is irreplaceable!!

I feel like I have 2 kids to take care of, one is 9, and the other is of age

Was on plenty of fish. Nothing. I was even on eHarmony and had no luck. I got plenty of matches there, but they all had a problem with the fact that I am getting a minor in biblical studies and want to get my master's in theology. Plus, it costs $60 if you want to communicate with anyone. So, now I just feel like some pathetic loser who can't even succeed where the really desperate go.

I've become disenchanted with the whole thing.

keep your chin up Monica....things will turn out....u gotta have faith, right?

Seriously, unless I can find someone worthy of me, I staying single.

I agree 100%!!!!!!!! Really Hairgoddess, you don't need a man in your life....... I am finding my life MUCH calmer without one. If he comes along, great - if not, I'm still OK!

yes craigslist list is bad at times.......but when you look at the girls getting hurt, they have ads asking for it to a point, there seling sex, and the so called "massages or school" thats just another way of selling sex...so just like a hooker walking the streets, they take there chances....

A friend of mine met his now wife on plenty of fish...........lol.....he told me about it oneday, never heard of it,but then im happily marrid so i dont go looking, sometime i see the ads........some of them are pretty funny....and i see alot of fakes ones too....wanting you to sign up to some other service....so you gotta be careful...but my buddy says pleny of fish is a good place for the bbw and the peeps that love them to look for friends and more..not to be rude in that, theres lots of types on there, but he is one that likes bbw and that where he said he found alot of friends at..

Monica you ust gotta keep you head up.....single is good to a point and for some it a life long deal they enjoy...you seem not to be that type...you will find someone when the time is right, maybe your trying to hard, or maybe your not looking for the right type of guy...i dont know oyou so i can really say.but he is out there...and you will find him or he will find you...

The most intelligent statement I've heard here.

Well, I'm single ---I've been engaged twice, but just couldn't do it ---only regret one of them. I put my career first...and the time got away from me. I don't think I've really met Mr. Right anyway. I'd rather spend the last 10 years of my life with a great man then to be someone that spent 50 years with the wrong one just to be married. I see so many couples in restaurants that go their entire meal without saying one word to each other.... ...that just shocks me.

its rude to talk with your mouth full...dont let it get to you...

I have been married 2 times before this one..and the last two I will admit were bad choices on my part...to much to fast I guess...but this one is my true ment to be love of my life...I am so totaly full of happiness and joy that I met Cindy that I tear up from thinking of how much I love her...and my kids are my life as well...

I am single right now and I am loving it! I belive that someday when the time is right I will meet the one for me. For now, I am taking care of me and doing things for me. I am working on loosing weight and getting healthier, and planning to go back to school and further my education in the fall. I also plan to do some traveling over the summer and spend some time with some out of state friends. In july I am going to Fl and I am super excited about that!!

I'm a VFL.

???? very feminine lesbian? very funny lady? ......??????

VFL: Virgin for Life.

It sucks.

^^ESPLAIN!

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VFL: Virgin for Life.

It sucks.
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Virgin for life???

Well, if you are waiting for marriage, that is perfectly acceptable.

I agree to a point...I guess it depends on how old you are and what your waiting for, as far as getting married goes........for some if your waiting till you lose all the weight you "want" it may never happen....for others if there waiting on someone to just ask them, it may never happen.you gotta get out have fun, meet people no matter wehat you are...your weight, looks what ever.just go out and try..there is someone for everyone..........but I will say, it just dont come to you.. you have to go and look as well....cant just sit on the couch and expect him/her to knock on your door selling cookies or vaccum cleaners.....

Hey, I don't want anyone selling vacuums, I want them to vacuum.

your carpet or your carpet? just playing hun...i want an 18 yr old girl scout to come try and sell some cookies, see how motivated she really is eh... ...oh wait my wife might get mad, better buy her a box too

Big G!!!!

I did the whole pledge of virginity til marriage deal but i thought I'd get married in my 20's then that didn't happen and I was like, what the hell. For me it was a religious thing - but now I'm not religious and I'm a little angry I wasted my young, small frame, youth for a promise I should have never made - there were 3-4 guys I should have had a sexual relationship with in my past and I chose not to because of my vow. I really regret it. I eventually lost my virginity to someone totally unworthy and with a great lack of skill

If I went on TBL and got in massively good shape - I'd be the biggest ho ever!!

How much does a revolving door cost??

I wish I would have waited a little longer to loose my virginity....too bad I thought I knew it all when I was a teen, and thought my then boyfriend and I would always be together. That and people constantly telling me not to do anything sexual with anyone, only made me want to do it that much more.

You sound kind of like my wife, although I characterize her as more annoyed about it than regretful. First, she wound up with someone that regards whether or not someone is a virgin on about the same level as whether or not they have pierced ears, and second, after the first time she was like what the heck was I thinking when I decided to put this off for so long!!


Fortunately this was not the case for my wife. When we were done she told me I was the best she'd ever had. Wait a minute here...


And if I'd have been a girl you'd of had some real competition!

Just reminiscin'...